Born in August 2008 & Soon To Be TWO - Let's Celebrate

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Our Toddlers' Birthdays
24JUL Alittlebitshy-H
30JUL MrsMiamla-T
31JUL DizzyDixies-D
01AUG CaptainCaveman-O
03AUG GladioliBuckets-K
04AUG VintageGardenia-E
08AUG Singaporesling-S
08AUG Pertelote-M
08AUG PoppySocks-E
08AUG HotterPotter-I aka THOR
12AUG CrispyTheCrisp- E
12AUG LuckoftheIrish-T
13AUG RedLentil-E
13AUG LWFH-T
15AUG Foghornleghorn-L
18AUG TwilightSurfer-R
22AUG No1putsbabyinthecorner-M
23AUG LittleNutTree-G
29AUG PetitFilou-T
30AUG Oopsandbabycoconut-P
30AUG Steaknife-I
01SEP Cyteen-J
04SEP Sambo303-F
13SEP Ataraxis-L
16SEP QueenofDreams-S

I am already snorting at that 2008 thread Got to read it from the beginning now, see what other stupid shit I got up to in the weeks before DS was born.

Feeling very very nostalgic today as we took DS to Twin Lakes this afternoon and had to drive right past the birth centre where he was (mostly) born. DP and I both got a little choked up, remembering the excitement and amazement of meeting our little boy and then looking at the real thing fast asleep in his car seat, a lovely chunky cuddly funny person

spring nothing to apologise for I/we are feeling better, thanks - problem was not so much limited to sex, as just a general lack of honest communication. So we're working on that

When do you find out about your exam? Is it a work-related thing?

Cyteen - I have been meaning to say we have had the same problem recently but with the added complication of DD2. I has tired of having to ask for hugs/reassurance/ just a cuddle and DH was pissy about never getting any without a nag. We niggled at each other for a week or so then had a huge explosion to clear the air then we discussed it sensibly (probably should have in the first place) and sorted out how we both were feeling and it is much better now - I now only explode when he insists on groping me at any given moment!

Dsis is here staying and had been a God send as DD1 is having a major jealous stage, only I will do and heaven help anyone who stands in her way when she wants me. I also had a feel in her mouth and the 2 bottom molars are just breaking the surface and that explains the stroppiness too.

Miamla - do you have your post birth white thong yet? waxed? false tan? pedicure? if not get on with it only 6 weeks to go!

ALBS - this time next week you will have the thread's first 2 year old

Spent most of this afternoon in tears about my feckin depressive family, DS1 went on and on for hours about how useless and bad he is and not our son. At least DH got to see it full on though at last and I managed to express how bereft I feel when he goes out for a fag in the middle of a difficult time. I think I need to call the feckin irritating HV and book an appt. As well as getting Kurt's hearing checked/poss SALT referral, I think I need to do something proactive about DD's utter lack of calming-down skills. In the meantime, have asked my mum to buy some crystal resonance essence hippy crap whose descriptions looked eerily suitable. I don't usually hold with that kind of emperor's new clothes stuff but hey, desperate times etc. And the placebo effect might work magic on them you never know.

Anyway, enough about me, my recently-acquired crafty coffee friend has it worse, her 6yr old DS got diagnosed with leukaemia this week. She has basically moved into a hospital room with him for the next 9m or so - not good for a bipolar person who was thinking of booking herself in last weekend! She is v open to prayers if anyone has a space on their list.

lol @ 'they have made new smileys here' You have a long memory, Master Gardenia.

Buckets I have lots and lots of positive happy thoughts available for you and your friend, and of course all your precious children. At least your friend has you going to bat for her Leukaemia is utterly terrifying but as I understand can often be successfully treated, so I shall keep everything crossed that her DS makes a full recovery. It's the nightmare of us all, really, isn't it?

oops I meant to ask earlier how DD1 was doing after her illness and night of wakeyness. Bless her little heart, it's hard work being a big sister eh? DS is also teething like mad, I think - he has the worst nappy rash I've ever seen on him, really scorched and bumpy, and such grim acidic poos Plus lots of chewing on hands etc.

Buckets that is absolutely horrible about your friend. Please have a look at Tong Ren and see if that is available near her. I completely believe in it's healing principles and whole heartedly think it is what helped me begin my process of healing post csection. Group energy is an amazing thing.

Cyteen I've been holding and sniffing R so much lately for the very same reason. I love my little girl soooooooooo much.

Oops that's very odd for P isn't it? She's been a daddy's girl for ages. She must REALLY not feel well. Just goes to show you that she's really a mommy's girl.

ALBS I know who your talking about but it's so old news that it's not worth the bother.

Miamla it was cute to see what all the first timers were worried over and quite honestly it wasn't too far off from what us "oldtimers" were worried about. If I had to do it all over again I'd have even less with me.

Buckets I'm with you on the kid woes. K has been a sore point with me almost all summer break. I can't figure out what direction to go in with her. She's anxious but then she's just plain mean/hateful then she wants to be a lovey then she's a jealous child. The worst part is when she gets mad about something she still has the hardest time recovering. Am I am not lying when I say my girls are polar opposites. R you can reason with. K you can not....and K is OLDER. URRGGHHHHH!!!!

Pilates was nice today. I almost didn't go but then I remember I need to put me first occasionally. The next opportunity to put me first wouldn't be until NEXT Saturday. Gotta take it when I can get it!!

evening all, the aftermath of the festival continues but have had a nice day with Christmas dinner for lunch (don't ask) and then back to the common for the Festival sports day. Am still shattered but managing to keep up (just) and really wish I hadn't read back wry

Sorry Dizzy I only clicked when I read on to the next thread, I didn't think and I'm sorry if I upset you.

Yes, I thought of you when I read that dizzy. But it made me smile (easier for me than you obviously!) so I hope you don't feel too bad.

Mind you, I felt quite a pang looking through my SIL's holiday snaps earlier today. Lots and lots of shots of her looking tanned and healthy and happy, having a wonderful time on the beach with someone who is not my brother Not at all unhappy with/for her, of course not, but so sad that he should be here to be in those pictures with her.

oh please don't apologise Oops, it was such a lovely lovely time for us all. I'm just feeling the loss a bit more at the minute - I think she would have been pleased with what I'm doing somehow. the 21st is also the anny of the first baby we lost and whilst these things don't normally bother me I'm tired and it creeps in sometimes!

Lovely message from DS1 VG what a lovely lad he is

TS - don't be forgetting the 'you' time too much now!

Buckets am so sorry to hear what a hard time you are having, please go easy on yourself and try to take time to manage it all. Shall send positive thoughts to your friend and her dc too - I haven't quite found enough forgiveness for prayers yet so will leave that to someone who can

Strange isn't it - tomorrow is Simon's birthday. I'm not thinking about it consciously, but I'm feeling it underneath everything.

I hope you can find a few moments for yourself this week dizz x

are you going to manage to do anything cyteen?

buckets i am glad dh saw ds1's full meltdown (not the right word i know, sorry). you are a great mum so please reassure yourself that however they are as individuals they have the love of the best mum they could ever need and want.
very for your friend too.

oops yes how have i got a small boy turning 2 in 6 days??? he very excited esp about his loclate cake with balls on it (little decoration ball things - like ballbearings, you know). dh has the cake order so will commence baking on friday lol.

Not sure dizzy. I want to take DS to playgroup as we missed it last week, so will probably just end up getting caught up in the day's routine and only remembering at bedtime. I will try and tell DS some stories about his uncle Simon though. They're so alike in temperament, Si would have laughed so much (and loved him so much).

TS just read an old post of yours about your DH (on the pre-birth thread) and it made me a bit sad, because it was so different in tone to what you've posted recently. It's so easy to lose ourselves in all the life stuff.

Sorry, am clearly having a maudlin moment here.

I shall be maudlin with you then! xx

Dizzy & Cyteen I know how you both feel. (((hugs))) to you both as you go through this week.

I actually feel like I've lost my own brother. He may be physically walking this earth but his spirit is gone, at least the spirit that showed he loved me. AND the game continues. Now that we've disconnected on FB his profile picture has changed. Ironically, it's been changed to a picture of him in a pillory (obviously taken on their vacation last spring). There's also been an upsurge in "friendships" between him and family members that I am friends with, half of which he has no clue of who they are. I would like to guess this is all sil's doing but I don't know that for sure. He really could be very twisted and two-faced. I suppose it's best that I stop thinking and just start forgetting.

Cyteen I'm not sure if things sound better or worse but I will confirm all is well. We have ups and downs but ultimately we're keen on the life-mates idea. Like you chatted about earlier, we've had dry spells. Some were because of me and others because of him. Each time we've reached a breaking point and discussed it. Quite honestly I'd say our behind-closed-doors life is ROCK'N. After 17 years and 2 kids, I'd say that's pretty darn good. I'm a bit extraverted and tend to vent. Lately, I've been in a ditch so it's probably all sounded fairly negative. Thanks for giving me a chance to catch a little perspective because I can change that.

If ya'll haven't figured it out I am painting the girls room again. Did I already mention that? It takes me 5 times longer than a paid contractor but so what! It's going to look nice.

morning ,

i spent most of last night re reading out ante natal thread .. god i was and still am a moaning minny ...

thinking of you today cyteen on S birthday, playgroup sounds like a good idea and hope the day is full of lovely memories hugs..

Buckets hugs, glad your dh saw ds1 worry in and way and i hope you get things sorted quickly.. big prayers to your friend too..

hugs to dizzy, as always you amaze me on how you keep so many balls rolling at one time and with so much on your mind aswell.. treat yourself to one of your delicious cakes ..

dd2 no nap again yesterday and from about luctime onwards a grumpy moo.. passed out a 6 again with no bedtime milk which is a first,,, its really getting me down as she normally so placid {bar the tantrums } but as she is so tired in the afternoon it a real battle to get her to have her tea and then try and keep her awake til 6.. {she woke at 5.45am}...

i have tried putting her to bed after her lunch and she is having none of it, tried quiet time on my lap , but nothing nada.. PLEASE HELP as going insane here!!!

Morning

Loti - we have had that the last week - when I put DD1 down for her nap we have screaming and yelling and protesting then by supper and bed time I have a child who goes into meltdown at 5pm. It is very draining as She wakes DD2 when she yells and if she doesn't nap she spends the afternoon stroppy and grabby. I have to confess I sent her and DH out in the car yesterday to get herto sleep but she only slept 20mins which was almost worse.

Cyteen - thinking of you today {{{HUGS}}}

Buckets - {{{HUGS}}} to you too and prayers for your friend and her family.

TS- how was the painting?

Dizzy - when are you next working? Can you find a little time to take 5 mins just for you this week?

I have realised that the tread is so quiet because Crispy isn't here!

loti we have had odd days wher ds has not napped and it is hell. i can only imagine how it is every day for you this phase will be over soon though, honest!

ds is very stroppy atm. dd is at my folks@ and i hadn't realised how much he would miss her.it is quieter without her but ds is a hell of a lot more trouble .

going to bluewater today to meet silo and the cousins and to spend my birthday money. yaya.

hello again,

CC am in Lincoln now! Do you fancy a trip to whisby?

TS gunkoff is called swarfega here

Everyone do you want to know something nice?

I am so much happier in Argentina since the monsters came along. Before DS was born two years ago I had very little career, not much to do, poor Spanish and was fairly lonely.

I now have plenty to do, am offered more work than I can accept, better Spanish and a really nice group of friends that the children and I go to the park with.

The last month has been really hard, I had too much work, the monsters were sleeping appallingly and all the run up to a big trip away and worry about travel.

But now we are safely here, The DC are really happy - although we miss DH we are surrounded by people who love us, and we are all recovering.

Re: naps - I get 9 hours at night out of DS plus 3 in the day. To be honest I would prefer 12 at night and none in the day, but benefits of both ways I guess.

Hi everyone.
very tired here as DS awake earlier than usual with a lovely diarhhoea nappy, blurgh. Want to slap the woman who brought her poorly child to bounce & rhyme last week. Sat there going on and on about how she wasn't going to take her ds to her auntie's house because she didn't want her auntie to catch his diarrhoea. Thanks lady Anyway S has had the runs since saturday and really isn't a happy bunny at all.

buckets I just found out that a lady from my PN Group here has been living in hospital with her DS (same age as S) as he has leukaemia. He's been having treatment for a few months, is in remission now but still needs treatment for another four months before they give him the all clear. She says the good thing about him getting this so young is that she has no other children yet, so she's not pulled in different directions. Talk about looking at the silver lining huh?

Morning all. Late night and early morning but I've tonnes to be getting on with. The lack of hot water has meant the clean up job from the festival is a fecking nightmare and boiling the kettle is becoming rather tedious!!!

I've to bank some money which is only going to pay some red bills and then if I get a moment am heading off to meet a new stockist I have some traybakes left and can whip up some cupcakes. I also had some cake bites left but DH ate them when he came in last night without knowing what I was keeping them for!!!

Girls all fine here although I think D is teething a touch as she is angry baby during the night

Longway - glad you got here safely and are managing to relax and enjoy yourself. I know how you feel about being more settled. When DH and I moved here we didn't know anyone as due to us working shifts we didn't really get a chance to know people. I've found that has come from having the kids and meeting others with children - we don't have the added issue of a language barrier either

Queenie sorry to hear that S is unwell. Hope it passes soon and isn't lasting.

Morning all else - not raining here but hardly blazing sunshine so hoping that the overcast clouds sod off to sea and leave it feeling a little more like summer

Red & ALBS - enjoy your trips

Shall text Sazz and let her know we're all thinking about her

Oops am working on Thurs - Sun this week. Wed is the 8th Anny of Josh's due date and Fri is the 2nd anny of mum's passing. Shall just keep my head down on Fri and ignore all who annoy me.

Cyteen - thinking of you today x

Cyteen thinking of you too. In answer to your question yes exam is a work related thing - I'll have another 3 letters after my name if I pass! Not very exciting though.

Dizzy I think that sounds like a good plan but will be thinking of you too.

Longway glad that flight went well and DCs enjoying themselves. I also knew very few people here till DS arrived but am very that 3 of my closest friends here are moving back to the UK and Oz at the end of the year.

QoD I would be v. with the other Mum too - DS still constipated though so maybe you should send S's germs here.