We are going around in circles on your first point.... However a GRC is a very powerful document.
To answer your 2nd... Of course, the victims wishes should always be paramount, being examined by a man, in any form, should not be allowed.
However, if the choice is no examination, leading to no chance of a prosecution, i can see why a male may have to do the examination, though of course a female should always be in attendance of with the say so of the victim
Aside, i would prefer if we took steps to reduce the number of women raped, atm a conviction is vanishingly small, in many cases CPS don't prosecute.
So to some extent, rape has been de criminalised, same goes for many violent crimes.