Continuing Non-Denominational Support for StarnStripes in her new life

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You can be strong!

I really think it would be advisable to get everything on a legal footing otherwise he will be trying to control events (and money) from here to eternity.

I know that is what I am going to have to do.
As for him going bankrupt there is no money to speak of and the house his father owns so he is unlikely to be homeless.
As you say just him trying to control everything.

Hey DamnRight! What a pig he is... But on the upside, shall we make plans for a get together this weekend? Maybe Sunday, as DS has a party on the Saturday. We could do lunch and take kids for walk?

Hope you're phoning solicitor now...

Qwertpoiuy,lol,well spotted! Am from Kildare,where are you from? Am missing the fada from the a but for some reason it wouldnt let me use it!
Damnright glad your DC are back safe with you.

xx

...WOW .... how different you are from the very first thread! Im so proud of you standing up to the EX ! you have got him sussed. keep on doing what your doing and it will all be good longterm for you and the kids. Great solicitor, she sounds really positive!

So he flatly refuses your request for the tumble dryer - just him in his house versus you and your dc's in another but then asks you not to contact a solicitor? What planet does he come from?!

He has absolutely no right whatsoever to ask who you have in your home with you. It is your home and your life. It has got nothing at all to do with him!

That must be a lovely feeling?

i've an answer machine for the phone somewhere - never been taken out of it's box. Do you want it? that way you can turn the answer phone on and off as you wish and I think it's tape so you can collect tapes as evidence.

You so did the right thing.

Hey Damnright - sorry to hear he is still being a twunt, but great to hear you are staying strong.

When he gets you down do you have something you can read to put yourself back on yor 'damnright' frame of mind?

So that's why he was huffy about the drier, he saw it as a sign you weren't going to go running back all meek to him! Get recordings of everything you can, and keep screening those calls!

When he does ask you personal things such as who is in your house, please do not honour him with a response. It is not his business!

If he carries on verbally abusing you in front of the dcs they are soon going to wise up to how respectful you are being and what a he is being.

Damnright, that is so funny "you will listen for as long as I say" as if you couldn't just put the phone down! What a twat. I'm so happy you've got your own place and can just hang up. Brilliant!

still spying watching your progress from afar and am at how positive you sound. Lots of love as always to you and the DCs.

It sounds like you're doing brilliantly, well done for standing up for yourself and your children.

Just fyi, sometimes 'scrapping the car' is a cheap tactic in separations apparently, so take everything he says with a grain of salt.

And save all his nasty messages, you might need them in the future. If his behaviour escalates, you might need an order to stop him coming near you.

Please don't do this without a solicitor. Whether you use one or not surely has nothing to do with him? It's up to him if he uses one, but he can't tell you what to do.

just logging in to see how you are, "damnright" love the name!
keep strong
do use a solicitor
do save all the messages
bet you're glad you don't have to listen/be around the useless twunt.

Congratulations damnright (nice name). Although you are still a star too! Been lurking all through this and I can't believe how strong you have been. Virtual clapping here.

Also we should all give a round of applause to dread - you have been an amazing friend and MNHQ should be watching this thread with pride as its definitely one of the most positive aspects of MN.

I am here, in my lurking capacity, cheering quietly as DTs are asleep on sofa.

I am amazed, and heartened by the change of tone in your posts. From the "bread and milk" post which horrified me and DH to DAMN RIGHT!!!

I cannot give anymore advice than people have done already, but I am going back to my little lurking hole to make some more pompoms for the cheer squad.

Well Done DamnRight, stay strong.

x

BTW Dread, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. DH made the comment that he hoped someone would be as good for me if I ever needed it.

You are the RL epitome of this thread and its posters!

again... Just not very good at having things be about me iyswim...

I love Jack White too, glad you like the Black Keys, they are awesome live if you ever get a chance (they play the uni sometimes and they seem to tour at least once a year!) - I shall send more...

By the way, anyone else want to join the Facebook group? There's a whole 3 people now (where are you DamnRight!) join us...

Woo hoo! Just joined the facebook group!

have requested to join pretty please

my first group - aaargh, the pressure!

I've also requested to join - my initials are EH and I am in the mumsnet group.

Maybe we need another Facebook group - tghe DreadPirate Appreciation Society!!

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr