Continuing Non-Denominational Support for StarnStripes in her new life

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You can be strong!

lovely freudian slip there 'boast in my confidence'

Tell him to stuff all the stuff in your house, I took nothing from my old house and I sooo enjoyed getting things I needed, I had 2nd hand tvs, mismatched crockery etc etc for years (still like mismatched crockery actually and er, come to think of it our current tv is 2nd hand after my lovely flat screen one blew up!).

If he is having the children this weekend then can you get to a car boot sale this sunday morning, the one near me has tvs for £5 or £10 usually, and tons of household goods.

Oh and why was he coming on the bus not the car? I thought there was a car? Had he been drinking when he came to pick them up?

Sorry my spelling was all the place there,boost.

Flibberty-his car had to be scraped so he relying on public transport now.

I did'nt ask for much just pictures and a few other bits.
I did dare ask for the new tumble dryer he bought me for christmas ,thought I would get more use from it with having the children.
DS just rang to saythey had arrived safely and EX H shouted in the background if you think you are having the tumble dryer youcan forget it,what planet are you on.
I was on loudspeaker so said it was not appropriate to discuss it now,but he shouted back there is no discussion you are not having it.
Think another visit to the solicitors is in order.

Definitely talk to the solicitor, if only to highlight his behaviour! Remember, if you need anything, the power of Mumsnet can probably get it for you - rather than writing him a list, you could always write one here, plus we'll be a lot more polite .

Don't worry about what he says to the kids (tosser!) - I'm sure they know how much you love them, and as you make a point of not saying horrible things in front of them, they're not stupid, they'll twig what he's up to, and I'm sure they'll either say something to him or just stop listening. {{{{Hugs}}}} to all of you, enjoy the weekend!

He really can't get his head around the fact that you didn't leave him for another man can he?!

Wonder if he is doing any self-analysis at all...

Oh, BTW, I kind of found you on Facebook, don't be alarmed, I added you as a friend but feel free to ignore me if you don't feel comfortable about that. It's just that I'm cutting down my Mumsnet time (apart from this thread and the Allergies board). Please don't feel stalked! I was looking for someone else and it went through my list of contacts...

Great new name

I was thinking of something like 'popcornmaker' or 'pompom' but this one has ATTITUDE

Sorry but a man who gets his wife a tumble dryer for christmas can keep it.

Do you really want a tumble dryer he bought you for christmas ?????

You should have posted on boxing day 'my husband bought me a tumble dryer for christmas', we'd have had you out of there by valentines day!

Smile sweetly and say ok I'll leave the tumble dryer then, and watch his reaction. It will really piss him off. His only bit of control over you at the moment is that HE has the tumble dryer and YOU want it.

Its summer you don't need a tumble dryer for months yet just a washing line.

Love your new name, DamnRight!

Just a quick line to say that I haven't been able to get to the post office as DD is ill but expect something in the post next week.

Just a quick post to say - cool name! Can't believe it wasn't taken already - you lucky thing!

Great name, DamnRight!!

Re Facebook - if you are on there, I would love to add you as a friend - I can tell DreadPirate my full name so you can find me if you'd like to - up to you of course.

DamnRight, love the name change!

Just wanted to say you are fantastic! Your children are so lucky to have you!

xxx

Oh Damn - You are a true inspiration!!

I too would love to add you on Facebook, in fact, we ought to set up a group for supporting each other!

Enjoy your weekend - you're really doing soooo well!!

Sally xx

i'm so impressed with you - you are an inspiration. Know anu hunks who could collect the telly and the tumble drier?

Great name.

DamnRight - good name!

Glad to hear you're doing so well.

OK, so look for the 'Damn Right I don't want a tumble drier for Christmas!' group on Facebook... I have too much time on my hands!

Damnright

What an excellent name, it has presence and control and independence wow. A new name for a new adventure!

Haven't been on for a few days. Grinning all over my face at your new name. Love it! It's a joy to read your recent posts.

Hope DCs are coping OK. It's bound to be hard for them and it will take time for them to adjust, but at least you don't have the tiniest possible doubt about whether you've done the right thing.

Hope the dc's had a good weekend, and you of course.

Hope ExH got them back to you ok, what with having to use the buses at the moment.

I hope the dc's start their 2nd week at school ok.

Best wishes.

I had been a lurker on this thread and have only just come back on and see that you have left,and got yourself a great new nickname! Im so delighted for you and wish you and your DC all the very best in your new life,you truly are an inspiration. Im not in the UK so cant offer any practical help,but if there is anything at all you need that can be popped in the post please let me know.

hoping youve had a nice relaxing weekend.
xx

Carbh as tú, a mhathair?

(Sorry, mathair is Irish for mother - just asking a question in Irish!)

Hoping exH has brought your DCs back to you ok too.

Hello everyone.

First of all thank you to

Balloonslayer-that was so kind of you and will be put to good use to buy crockery which I am a bit short of.
Was overwhealmed by your generosity.

Bratnav-also a very kind gesture thank you so much.
I will browse the childrens section of M&S and get the children some school uniform.
Really apptreciate it,thank you.

Pennies-love the food processer,thank you.
It is in pride of place in my kitchen.
I am looking forward to making a nice cake and trying out the different gadgets.
Very nice of you.

Also to the person who sent the children some cars this morning ,sorry did'nt know who they were from.
Thank you,they will love them.
Really kind of you.

PMSL-I am so happy with the CD's you sent me.
Also love the Black Keys CD ,not heard of them before.
My favourite track on Get Behind Me Satan is "Forever for Her" can't stop playing it.
I love Jack White.
Thank you.

Feeling a bit up and down today.

EX H bought the kids back yesterday and promptly threw the suitcase with some of my clothes in it into the house at me.
He said he had packed some winter clothes for me as I will be at this house for the winter seeing as I asked for the tumble dryer.
He also wanted to know who was here with me.
No one had been here but he keeps questioning me if I don't answer the phone straight away and asks where I have been.

He left 4 messages on 1571 last night after I turned the phone off .
He had rung previously to speak to the children and asked to speak to me but was swearing at me down the phone so turned it off.
The messages I have saved and varied from swearing at me calling me a liar,f*ing gutless,unbeliveable,he was fed up with me and he was going to call social services if I did'nt answer his calls .
He asked me again not to contact a solicitor as it would bankrupt him and there would be nothing left for the kids.

Yes,he had been drinking I could tell.Heard nothing today.

So I am further convinced that I did the right thing and am staying strong.
In fact on the phone when he was ranting I said "I don't have to listen to this anymore" and he replied "you will listen to it as long as I say."
I promptly replied "No I don't ,that is why I moved here so I don't have to ."

Damn Right, DamnRight!

Blimey he really thinks he owns you doesn't he!

I assume you ARE getting a solicitor?

I have seen a solicitor but have not put anything into action yet.
She was very positive though and can get things moving pretty quickly.