To ask catholics if I have committed a mortal sin?

[CreamPleease]

A few months ago, I started going to church again after years of not going. I did a huge list of all the sins I could remember which took place in the last 15 or so years (since my last confession). I went to confession and then went to mass the following day and have been to mass every sunday since.

Last weekend, I was away from home for an event (Thursday to Sunday morning) and subsequently missed mass. My plan was initially to go on the Sunday evening but I spoke to one of my DC on the Saturday and told her I’d be going to church on Sunday night but she didn’t want me to go on Sunday night as she was really missing me and wanted me to put her to bed.

In all honesty, I had time to then attend the Saturday evening mass in the town I was staying in but I was staying with family and I just wanted to enjoy the evening with them.

I was going to be going to confession tomorrow night before going to church on Sunday but DH now has to work so I have no one to watch my DD’s.

Can I take communion on Sunday or is it best I just have a blessing and go to confession the following weekend?

Thanks.

As I’m Catholic I knew that remarriage wouldn’t be an option even if we got divorced. I asked for a miracle and I got one. DH ditched the slag

Am not religious but respect those who do have faith. But this from a PP is outrageous. Her DH was indulging in an extra-marital affair but she prayed, and lo! the "slag" was ditched. The adulterous male returned to the marital bed and the heavens no doubt sang

I hope you’re ok Op. I didn’t read past the first thread because some of the responses weren’t very accepting but I wanted you to remember that we as Christians acknowledge God is everywhere, so you can confess anywhere and it will count as long as you truly repent :) I personally don’t think The Lord takes attendance so don’t be hard on yourself.

Schools: I think Here I Am scheme has basically gone. Round here they use Come and See, not sure if that's a norm nationally. It's a slight improvement on Here I Am, but not by much.

I think Come and See is just a reworked version of Here I Am. I’ve not used it, but I think they mostly just rejigged the structure by getting rid of the 3 year cycle. I’m not sure how much of the content that would have been taught across 7 years has actually changed.

Thank you so much for the replies.

I went to mass this morning. I had hoped to get there in plenty of time to have a decent chat to the priest but I only got there a couple of minutes before mass started. I quickly asked if I could have communion having missed last weeks mass. He said “take communion and I will talk to you after mass”.

I waited at the end and he came over to speak to me. I was there with my young children. He said that in this circumstance, he would be happy to do a confession with me before or after mass however he couldn’t when I had the kids with me. He said it’s important to remember that I have the intention of confessing and would have done if I could have. He said that he understands that I have a lot of responsibility with my kids and not to be too hard on myself. He also said that my children are and should be my priority.

I took time during mass to pray for forgiveness so I’m hoping that along with my intention to go to confession was enough to allow me to receive communion and I will go to confession next Saturday.

Thanks for all the support everyone. I felt quite upset after the backlash I had from some people when I posted in AIBU (before my thread was moved to this topic). You have all been so helpful and understanding and I really appreciate that.

Rule no 1 of MN: Never post anything in AIBU. Ever.

A lot of sensible posters have the whole section hidden.

Glad you have got everything sorted.

You sound like you’re going to mass out of fear rather than anything else. This is not how it should be.

No one will give a shiny shit that you have missed mass this week. Just go next week instead!

Thanks 😊

No, I’m not going out of fear. I’m going out of hope. Hope that I can find happiness in this life. Hope that I can feel gods love and love myself again. Hope that I can make a positive change in my life and not continue to suffer because of things that happened to me as a child.

They are my reasons and without that, I don’t feel I have much else.

Rule no 1 of MN: Never post anything in AIBU. Ever.

AIBU + Catholicism - oh dear oh dear!!
I now live in a country where the majority of the population are Catholic.
I've found a lot of anti-Catholicism in the Uk and some of it can be very unpleasant indeed.
I think you have to have a thick skin and hold true to your faith and it's not always easy.
It's much easier living in a country where your denomination is the majority!

@CreamPleease

Forward is the way!!!!!
Xxxxxxx

@helberg

But in a Catholic country we have to stick to the rules

@NewYearsRevolution2020 Thank you ☺️

Glad you found guidance on it. Posting here is much safer than AIBU. You still get unhelpful comments from people who don't understand but post anyway. I find the good comments can be really enlightening.

Helberg, I have a friend from church who used to get called names and had stones thrown at him on the way to mass every morning. I’m not sure most people would realise how much prejudice there is unless they’ve been on the receiving end of it.

They’re taking a different approach to FHC in our parish this year. I think partly, because they’ve realised parents don’t necessarily know some of the things the children are being taught. (Although mass attendance might have something to do with it).

Helberg, I have a friend from church who used to get called names and had stones thrown at him on the way to mass every morning. I’m not sure most people would realise how much prejudice there is unless they’ve been on the receiving end of it.

When my Grandma and Grandad got engaged, his family were furious. They were CofE and he converted to Catholicism to marry Grandma. His sisters went up to the local Catholic church and chucked bricks through the windows.

That was years ago but there is still a lot of prejudice. When I was younger I was dumped by 3 different blokes as soon as they found out I was a Catholic. Then there's the weird looks you get when you say you are a Catholic. And we have one uncle who married my aunt (he was divorced and can no longer receive Communion because of it and he won't let her go to church either) and he goes on absolutely non-stop about how terrible the church is and how rubbish the religion is. It's tedious to say the least.

@helberg Think it has got much worse, sadly. I have experienced similar once people find out.

Crikey OP, I'm Catholic and I thought you were obliged to confess serious sins once a year before Easter. I only go to confession twice or three times annually tbh (once before Easter and once before Christmas and maybe again if an aspect of my own behaviour is troubling me) and most of my family are the same.

The Penitential Act in the liturgy of the Mass (towards the beginning) is there for a reason!

And are you clear about the difference between mortal and venal sins?

My advice would be to chill a bit and remember that God loves a sinner

Sorry , didn't see your update before I posted that, seem to have missed a page of thread on this ancient tablet thing! Glad it has been resolved op!

Crikey OP, I'm Catholic and I thought you were obliged to confess serious sins once a year before Easter

That's to stop you lapsing isn't it?
You technically lapse if you don't go to confession before Easter and don't receive Holy Communion during Easter time (ie. between Easter and pentecost)
Or something like that? I can't remember exactly - my Dad told me once.
I'm not in danger of lapsing so can't remember the exact details.

I don’t think it has to be before Easter but it makes sense as lent is a penitential season and the minimum requirement is to receive communion once a year during Easter.

Technically you should confess serious sins before receiving as the penitential act at the start of mass doesn’t absolve serious sins. In practice I suspect people don’t bother all that much and just do the once or twice a year.

I'm a once a year person ! Confession is now much more relaxed than when I was growing up. It is more of an informal chat with the priest. Always feels good after "unburdening".
However I do believe that as long as you repent to God, you don't need to go regularly.

I’m not sure i want to admit when the last time i went was

Technically missing mass is a mortal sin. But I think putting your daughter to bed was more important. I also think classing it as a mortal sin alongside murder etc is a bit ridiculous. I wouldn't worry about it.

I only go to confession once a tear.

Isn't murder a "sin crying out to heaven for vengeance" ie. the next level up from mortal sin?

There’s a next level up from mortal sin? That wasn’t in my catechesis.