Any Witches Here? Part 6

[speakout]

Or Wiccans. or Pagans? Or anyone who is interested in a magical path or feels some magical stirrings.

A place for support, learning, swapping ideas and magical inspiration

All welcome.

queenrollo

I am sorry to hear of your upsetting situation.

Your trust and friendship have not been as valued as you thought they were - it's no surprise you feel upset and let down.

Don't judge yourself harshly over this, people don't always turn out to be as we hope, and when situations disappoint us we will inevitably question ourselves in an effort to understand and make sense of things.

Be compassionate to yourself- you have acted in good faith, your heart is good.

Take time to say a few words over some hot tea to imbibe it with a healing positive intent, light yourself a candle and play some uplifting music.

This time and your bad feelings will pass, be patient and acknowledge them as it will help them to pass.

Remember you have your sisters here for support, don't be afraid to post if things are tough.

Many of us have had challenging lives, and the women here are very wise- including you.

@queenrollo

I am exactly were you are with a friend of mine and feel used and unsure of myself about it. I have a serious family matter unfolding and I haven't even told her because I've realised she just doesn't care unless it's something she can turn into a drama where she plays the lead.

Having been friends with her nearly 20 years, but only coming to this realisation in the last few, it's been like a slow prolonged punch.

Here if you need to talk, PMs welcome, but post if you've PMd me because I can't see them on the app

@queenrollo sadly that's when you do find out who your friends are. I am sorry.

My pesky neighbour - well so far everything has been mundane (a second double glazing unit and a fence) or defensive. I am about to ramp it up now - I do have a few ideas and I will have help. Cutting down Elder trees is never a good idea unless you ask nicely....

The sun has been out here, the violets are blooming in the banks and my belladonna plants are shooting already. It really does feel like spring is close

@queenrollo and @BartonHollow I found myself in your situations just over a year ago. It hurt me so much at the time, but now I have had time to reflect and heal I have been able to invest the energy from that friendship into myself. Instead of rushing around "being there, being a good friend," I use that time to look after myself, living life at a calmer pace. Time is a great healer, you will feel better.

Instead of rushing around "being there, being a good friend," I use that time to look after myself, living life at a calmer pace.

sockportal yes, I am at that stage too.

I have low expectations of friends usually and a high tolerance for behaviours that I don't much like.

I am extremely self reliant, I like seeing friends and I do care for them, but I am happy to take the good bits when they happen.

Investing in myself allows me to find my own balance- and be a strength for others if they need me.

I have spent some time chatting with my friend who emigrated at Christmas. She has soothed me and I feel much better.
I have some friends who are absolutely solid. They are of course the ones I live far away from, we actually see each other rarely. But when I need support they are always there.

I have been caught off guard, but talking it through this afternoon I see what my lessons are to take away from this.

I am exhausted this evening. I am going to bed the minute my son is settled. He is doing really well, just uncomfy at night with the cast and a little pain.

I am definitely in that space of making myself happy now and focusing on what I need to learn, next. My friend has changed and has some growth and development of her own to do in my opinion, perhaps we'll find common ground again someday and perhaps not

Have been nurturing myself tonight, had some chamomile tea, and a long hot shower with some lovely Sandalwood shower gel. Used my body lotion after my shower.
Fresh sheets, clean pjs, and in bed with wet hair. It will be dry in the morning!
In fact may even nip down and get another cup of tea to bring back to bed.
Early yoga class tomorrow morning will set me up for the day.
I have been watching back videos of Bealtine Cottage tonight- very inspiring

Sounds bliss speakout

I love sandalwood, and there’s nothing like clean bedding, pjs and self IMO

I’ve been doing a bit of self care too- some relaxing music, incense and herbal tea. Still busy so it feels particularly important.

I don’t think I’ve seen Bealtine Cottage videos- something else to look up- lovely!

Sorry -wrong spelling Bealtaine Cottage.

www.youtube.com/channel/UCHkXJ9wsrdPEpzb-KMgmt-A

Oh that looks fabulous! Thank you x

On the subject of self care/love I saw this today and liked it.

My ‘love languages’ are words of affirmation followed by quality time

www.psychologies.co.uk/tests/whats-your-love-language.html

Great pic @YashmisCrone

I've been doing all of that since Jan 1st

I love how they put Treat Yo'Self - it's from my beloved Parks And Rec

Queenrollo sorry about your friend. I've been in similar situations a couple of times. It really hurts when someone you thought was a friend is not there for you when you need them. Glad your other friend had cheered you up a bit. Hope you manage to get a good nights sleep.

I'm off to bed myself now. I've just done a rather tough yoga class, so feeling ready for sleep.

YashmisCrone

A fun test- my love language is Words too apparently.

THose picture would make great fride magnets, just to remind us!

typos!!

Morning.

Wishing you all magical weekends.

12 hours sleep! I feel like a new woman!

Sun streaming through my windows this morning, and the ground all frosty white. A contrast of fire and ice.

Bealtaine Cottage is so inspiring. I have followed her on social media for quite some time now. Might have to indulge later and watch some of the videos.

Good morning,

Bright clear skies here, birds singing and bulbs sprouting/some flowering.

queenrollo Fabulous! So glad you’ve had some refreshing sleep.

Barton I hadn’t noticed that! I didn’t know it was a reference. I think it’s brilliant you’ve been doing these things since 1st Jan.

speakout I think fridge magnets a a great idea! I think it’s really useful to have that reminder- but then I guess we would both respond well to the medium of words!!

Hills thank you. I hope you have a magical weekend too.

sockportal I meant to say yesterday, I can also relate to this

Instead of rushing around "being there, being a good friend," I use that time to look after myself, living life at a calmer pace.

For me it’s been quite a long process to get to that point but well worth the peace of mind it gives me.

Violet hope you feel well rested today.

Today’s a day of tying up and finishing off some of the week’s tasks for me. I hope to feel a bit lighter later when some of it’s shifted- I’m well on the way.

@YashmisCrone

Morning everyone.

Feeling uplifted by the lighter energy of blue skies . Since Christmas I've been unwell, both physically and emotionally. A lot of it down to the side effects of medication I think. However, I'm feeling a sense of lightness again this morning now that I can finally reduce the dosage.

Sorry to hear some of the friendship troubles. I think speakout is correct in her advice of lowering expectations. That does happen naturally overtime I think.

Hope everyone has a good day.

Morning all. It's a beautiful day here too. I'm working from home and it's lovely to sit by the window with the sun shining in and the birds singing.

I really wish I had more time in my life for gardening! Every spring I find myself wishing I'd gotten round to planting bulbs, but I never do! I think I'll buy myself some daffodils later to compensate.

I'm going out tonight to a 50th birthday party. I don't really want to go to be honest. The hostess is someone who was once part of my 'inner circle'. However I quickly realised she's rather false and just far too pushy! I'm going to go along with some other friends, but would really prefer to stay at home.

Just wanted to drop by to add my contribution of spring energy to the circle- a glorious day here too, the air smell so fresh and herbal. A busy day here with lots of nice things dropping though the post, someone gave me an unexpected gift at yoga, and I have hung my laundry out in the sunshine.
Have to pack up a load of stuff and catch the post.

It;s lovely to hear all you women sounding upbeat and vital!!

Gorgeous day here too. I saw my first butterfly of the year ( rather aptly a Brimstone!)

My fence is finished and it's made a real difference to the whole feel of the front on the house so I'm much happier. I have some work to do this afternoon as well while the dog naps and DP is busy clearing away the hedge clippings

Elphame Something like a fence makes such a difference doesn't it- it; is symbolic, energetic, like casting a circle of protection.

I am glad you are feeling happier as a result- I totally understand that.
And those outside the fence recognise the energy of it too- on a sunconcious level. It marks, it tells. it makes a stake, a claim.
The idea of fences and walls speak to us in a very deep, archaic and atavistic way.

I hope you have a secure and cosy evening.