Tillyscoutsmum's brides and wedding chat

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Thread one was in chat - so lost and gown foreeeevvvverrr

Thread 2 is here...
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/2401/558352

Thread three is below... chat away brides to be, chat away!!!!!

Yay on the hair front! good work. I had my hair cut yesterday and even though I'm having my hair done in SA (obviously. LOL at idea of me getting it put up here two weeks before the wedding) she was so nice - said if I wanted to spend some time with her trying some stuff out, she'd be happy etc.

Good luck for your (second?) hen night?

damn, I wish I was in Birmingham. I LOVE being scary. But stick to your guns. Just remind yourself over and over that this is YOUR wedding dress, and if necessary, remind her that she is not the one who has to wear it.

Some lines you could try,

"when it's your breasts on display, you can decide how high the dress is. But right now, I want it lifted".

"Do you always encourage your brides to have chicken wings on their breasts. Why is that?"

"I'm sorry you think it's okay, but I don't, and as it's my dress, I would please like you to change it as I don't want to be uncomfortable on my wedding day."

Or, in an emergency, try screaming,
"JUST TAKE THE BLARDY DRESS IN YOU BLARDY FOOL!!!!"

I wish you were in Birmingham too ....

Its not really my second hen night .... they're all sort of just evenings with mates that happen to be taking place around my wedding and I'm calling them my hen nights cos I'm not having a proper big arranged one . I'm off next week for spa day with MIL and that's just a b'day pressie from last year that I'm using up as well.

Your hair dresser sounds lovely. I felt a bit sorry for mine - she's spent hours now messing around and pinning my hair into fairly intricate styles and in the end, I just wanted something really simple and unfussy which took her about 10 minutes to do . Its so much more "me" though

x post - I love them !!

I think the last one might do the trick !

No, I already know that she's "squeezing" me in for the fitting, so it'll all be quite rushed (again !), so I'm just going to say as soon as its on..

she's "squeezing you in".

Maybe you should point out that you'll see if you can squeeze out some money for her.

I am getting very worked up on your behalf here. Am on verge of inviting myself to Birmingham next week to visit my cousin and his wife.

Bling - I know I know. To be fair to her though (albeit I'm not sure why I'm being fair to her), she doesn't usually do fittings on a Saturday but I'm struggling for babysitters in the week so I sort of pushed for it so she said she'd do it, but can only do an hour max. Plenty of time for me to tell her I'm not happy though.

Right am off to start getting ready (5.30 start, an hour away and I need all the help I can get !!)

See you all soon xx

Hope your night goes well Tilly

Can't believe she is being so arsey with you, you could have had alterations and be done by now if she had ordered it when she was supposed to

:sings: 3 weeks one day 3 weeks one day

Hi everyone

I've been wedding shopping, looking at suits, cars and bridesmaid dresses, getting excited now!

Really not sure which dresses to get, can anyone reccomend somewhere for my girls dresses (they will be 4 and 10 by then) in blue or ivory with brown sash?

i quite like this?

or this?

Tilly how did it go??

Any ideas for the adults? in blue?

Hiya LMG

like this for adult bm's. Can have loads of colours

something like this ? for your dd's. I got mine from this site. They were great and worked out really good value with the $ being so weak at the moment (about £25-£30 each I think). They have a sizing chart so as long as you get the length right, a dressmaker here can tweak the bodice if need be.

If not, Debenhams, BhS, John Lewis etc., get their new bridesmaid stuff in just after Christmas so might be worth seeing what they have

Sorry - I meant the one on the second page on the first link. There are few nice ones though

The one on page 23 is nice if you prefer longer dresses (adult)

I love love love this blue dress, it would go really well with my dress i think

I will look after xmas, want the older ones ordered by feb and possibly buy the girls dresses but maybe have toget them altered.

Dp wants us to have a bentley to drive us, did any of you have a car? Does the price include them taking my bridesmaids then me and my dad and then wait at the church and take us to the reception? I should have asked really!

I really want a bridesmaid website that tells me how much they are, I see dresses I like then think but how much is it, anyone else have this?

My Great Uncle (?? nana's brother..??) is driving us in his Jag. i was just going to get in a cab

That blue dress is lovely LMG...what is your dress like?(or have i missed the link?)

Hi LMG - I like the blue dress as well. I know what you mean about websites not having prices on - its annoying. FWIW, when I was looking at bm dresses (when i was thinking of wearing one myself), they were all around the £100 mark (give or take £20-£30 here or there).

We're not having a car. I was going to drive myself but thought it might be a bit of struggle in my dress etc. We're still going in my car though but my mate is driving me there. Not looking forward to trying to get in and out of it in my dress.shoes etc. Its quite low

Not sure about what the price includes - depends how near you are to the church. It would normally take you and your dad from home to church and then you and husband to reception - but if you live very close, I reckon they might be able to fit a trip for your bridesmaids for not much more (they might have to find alternative arrangements for trip from church to reception though)

The car thing is always quite traumatic isn't it? It's inevitably where someone gets aninvite because they've got the perfect vehicle!

Bringing the tone down slightly - I have to say that my mother and I are barely talking. Tilly, you were totally right when you referred to her as a bridezilla mum. She's driving me absolutely crazy and for some reason is completely panicky about absolutely everything. She left a hysterical (not funny but "she has the vapors" hysterical) message on my phone at the crack of dawn on saturday over some beads. She is also, of course, very quick to blame me for her panic as clearly it's my fault for not calling her daily to update her on everything I think and feel to do with this wedding. Even DP has made a couple of negative comments about her behaviour and he is normally absolutely scrupulous on not getting involved.

I'm sorry, don't mean to bring the tone down. Am just feeling really down about the whole thing.

But now less than one week to go for some people....

Aww Bling - really sorry to hear that. Its so lovely that she's excited for you but I can imagine its driving you insane. Are you able to have a bit of a heart to heart with her ?? Just along the lines of, its lovely that she's involved, but you're trying to be as chilled as possible about everything and don;t want to get caught up on all the minor details, so can she stop stressing you out... You know how rubbish I am at being assertive, so clearly I'm not one to take advice from !!

We went for lunch at my mum's on Sunday and she never even mentioned the wedding (she never does ). With less than 3 weeks to go, I thought she might have perhaps made a vague sort of "how are your plans going" type enquiry - but no .... sod all. I mentioned to her a month or so ago that I was getting worried because my dress hadn't arrived and she hasn't even bothered asking whether its here yet..

Anyhoo - its your mum moan - not mine !! Just think it would be a shame to fall out with your mum

LMG - We had two cars and each was booked for the journey to the church and then the journey to the venue.

They asked me what we wanted when I booked. Just ring and ask.

Aww bling and tilly talk about one extreme to the other! No advice other than for you to both talk to your mums and have a gentle word, tilly perhaps you could say yeh so wedding plans are xxxxxxxxx thanks for asking and bling sit down with your mum and give her a few tasks she can get swept away with to give you a break?

Car - I rang today and they said the price includes bridesmaids and my mum going from my house and me and my dad then waiting at the church then taking us all to the recption, think that will work out about 6 trips in total but all trips are no more than 5mins. It also includes, bubbly, ribbons, chauffer and a free suit (but we're not using them for suits because they are more expensive than another shop anyway) It's £295 which I dont want to pay BUT they car is NICE! It's a bentley or we could have a 70yr old humber?

MOM I'm sure I've linked somewhere on here if not its on the pronovias website page 12 would link but I'm being nagged (in a nice way, dp knows I want to stay slim so I'm going swimming and it shuts in an hour!)

Oh before I go I want this song as it reminds me of when we first got together and how dp treats me but I can't have it as our first dance but it's very special so what could I do?? thanks xx

I just found the date list further down the thread...

Tillyscoutsmum - 29th November
Mumofmonsters - 29th November

Lizzer - ? 2009
Swiftyknickers - May 09
Beanieb 24th July 09
Lovemygirls - Sept 09
Fruitynnutty - Sept 09

Fifisworld - Nov 09
Flamingnora - Winter 09

Tiredemma - 2010

Tilly ...It's us next
Grande Dames of the list

Thanks Tilly. I had a bit of a chat with her via email and it's okay. she has apologised, kind of, and we'll see how it goes from here.

I'm sorry your mum is being a pain in the opposite direction. I guess it's never easy. A girl at the office has a mum more like yours and she's finding it quite hard as her mum lives in NZ and hasn't even told her the details of when she's arriving, what her plans are etc.

these things are sent to try us. We'll be fine!

Oh, and LovemyGirls - she does have tasks and she's more or less getting on with those. But it's this weird attitude towards me that I'm finding so upsetting.

On plus side - I have all the invitations, stuffed, addressed and ready to go. i bought the stamps so going to stamp them all at my desk at lunch and then they'll be winging their way to friends and family overnight! [In englad - in SA we're a bit further behind!]

Good news about the invitations bling, I've been thinking about getting the stuff to start making mine, might as well crack on with getting them done before the nicer weather comes but I haven't found the right materials yet have got the card and the envelopes and some silver wedding invitations stickers. Lady in the craft shop told me to use wall paper but I havent seen any I like yet and I'm not convinced that would be cheaper given I'd need a whole roll.

I got a flower quote (even though my aunt is doing the flowers) the total for the cheapest of everything came to £320 I'm thinking we will prob spend about that but obviously get more for our money as my aunt will do everything at cost.

Cake I'm still waiting to hear back from dp's friend about the cost of that if he says more than £200 I think we'll have to go with someone cheaper and maybe consider a shop brought cake as the only reason dp wanted a made cake was because of the personal touch of his friend making it for us. His friend has said he will do it but won't tell dp how much just keeps saying don't worry about it.

Car - Dp still wants a bentley. £295 is a lot of money though.

I'm getting really excited and still have ages to wait (but thats good because I need time to sort everything )

How's everyone else doing, MOM, Tilly what sorts of things are left to do now? How are the nerves?

LMG, cakes are VERY expensive!

We are not having a tradiational cake as we don't like it. Instead we are getting a MASSIVE french fancy from Asda and will have mini ones on tiers underneath

Everything ordered now (apart from food and cake stand but we can't do the food yet its to far away), my list is getting smaller now

still got to get shoes for the boys and flowers but am doing both those the week of the wedding.

I am not nervous at all actually! Worried that the children at the reception will be bored(not mine) but actually iam quite down at the moment. Don't know if doing this has stirred up all kinds of things from my past or what but i am really down - bizarre!