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Do you think it's rude when people don't send thank you cards after a children't party you have been to and given a gift?

68 replies

TartWithAHeart · 26/09/2007 16:04

I do - because I always want to know a) that they received the gift and that it did not get lost in all the confusion and b) that they liked it.

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lapsedrunner · 27/09/2007 19:51

Have to admit I sent a generic group email to the 6 Mums who came to DS 5th Bday.

Hulababy · 27/09/2007 19:54

I always get DD to write thank you letters after parties, even if to was just a generic "thank you" for her, and a personalised sentence from me. Just courtesy for me.

I don't expect or hope for one if the gift is opened there and then and thanks given at the time. But so often gifts just get put in a sack or box, often not touched/seen by the birthday child, to open later.

ThePhantomToiletFlusher · 27/09/2007 20:08

I only get mine to do Thank you cards for the oldies. What do you do if you recieve one, mine tend to get lost with all the clutter and then chucked in the bin a few days later after having been trodden on a few times..or is that just me?

watling · 27/09/2007 20:10

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PSCMUM · 27/09/2007 20:11

o for gods sake..do you have children?? how do have time to send tahnk you cards, i suppose if you see the parent in the playground a 'thank you' is nice, but a thank you card...no. Nice if it happens. Ridiculous to be expecting it.

WideWebWitch · 27/09/2007 20:20

No, I haven't got time, I consider a thanks at the time of the present plenty

lulabop · 27/09/2007 20:28

Yes I do think it's a little rude. Just had a party for my three year old and spent ages writing personal thank yous. It was worth it to see the happiness on the guests' faces! All had given absolutely amazing presents and had taken time from their saturdays to sit in a room ful of children!

NotAnOtter · 27/09/2007 20:29

no not rude at all
life is too short
say thankyou at the time and then concentrate on far more pressing stuff

LittleBella · 27/09/2007 20:36

No, I think it's nice that people are organised and have time to do it, but certainly wouldn't expect anyone to .

pointydog · 27/09/2007 20:42

no. I understand it's been a busy time

Chipstick · 27/09/2007 20:45

I was always made to write thank you cards when I was little and still believe it is very good mannered to do so.

However, my very good upbringing is long behind me and I now a) haven't enough hours in my day and b) can't really be bothered.

At my DDs last party, all the children left with a party bag and a helium balloon which had Thank You written on it. Job done!

Twiglett · 27/09/2007 20:45

no

used to in the earlier years .. it used to be really important to me ...

but now no .. too much effort put into the party, too much expense too .. presents are ripped open by birthday child.. half the time don't know who sent which .. I've decided its enough to thank people at the party

Tommy · 27/09/2007 20:51

no - I used to worry about sending them and then life sort of took over a bit and I apologised to a few people and none of them seemed to be bothered that I hadn't sent a thank you.

So now I just assume they received the gift and like it

totaleclipse · 27/09/2007 20:52

No its not rude at all.

pointydog · 27/09/2007 20:52

snap with twig. I used to and used to feel rather proud of myself. The will has gone now, as time gets squeezed and as my dds and I are more than able to say thank you.

CarGirl · 27/09/2007 20:53

No I don't think it's rude at all. I have 4 children and it's just another job I feel as the Mum I'm supposed to do, it's not the children who ending up doing them usually after all.

I just assume if I don't receive a card they are either too busy, have forgotton or still in recovery from hosting the party.

BTW I wouldn't be offended if guests turned up without a gift anyway they children have a party because they enjoy it and I want to celebrate their birthdays, any gifts they receive are an added bonus.

morningpaper · 27/09/2007 20:54

yes I think it's rude

I hate handing over a present which goes into an enormous pile and you don't see it get opened or ever hear a thank-you

what's the point of that?

TheQueenOfQuotes · 27/09/2007 20:54

"how else will the parents know the parcels were received"

ermm presumably their little darling is being picked up/dropped off at the party by a parent and will see that the gift is handed over???

Personally, no I don't think it's rude - I don't send them and so far (DS1 now in Yr2) we've not received one.

Twiglett · 27/09/2007 20:56

tbh I spend far more money on entertaining the child, feeding the child, giving them going away presents and far more effort on arranging and cooking and cleaning and buying than ever put into choosing a present .. so maybe the child attending should be sending us a 'thank you for having us' note rather than the other way round

morningpaper · 27/09/2007 20:58

You lot are absolute SLUTS

I bet you don't send thank-you cards when you stay at people's houses either

Twiglett · 27/09/2007 20:59

no I don't .. I send presents

totaleclipse · 27/09/2007 20:59

giving is recieving, as they say

pointydog · 27/09/2007 21:00

no I don't send thank yous for staying at people's houses.

And no one has ever sent me one for staying at my house.

And that's h ow I like it.

TheQueenOfQuotes · 27/09/2007 21:01

I don't send cards - we usually buy a present just before we're due to leave (and sometimes take something with us).

pointydog · 27/09/2007 21:02

when I'm there I'll buy wine, beer, make a meal etc.

I do not send thank you cards.

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