Son gets rebound girlfriend pregnant after 3 months

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I posted on here a while re my Son cheating on his long term girlfriend and he had gone into a relationship which appeared to be a rebound.
It now transpires that the rebound girlfriend has got herself pregnant after 3 months with my Son!!!
My Son never told us, he did so through his Brother.
He never had children on the agenda (his 22) but I predicted she would get pregnant (call it mothers intuition) when he first started seeing her as he is a good meal ticket for anyone.
She (I am sorry to say) is unemployed and from a not so nice background or equally family.
When we approached our Son (by phone as he has avoided me fact to face since this all came to light) and said he also has options his response was "she wants to keep it" so I have to get on with it.
It is like he been completely cast under a spell with the woman and her family, the bottom line he came last week (I was at work but his Dad was at home), cleared his room and said he cannot stay here anymore with me and they love each other and are going to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
Subsequently he has blocked both myself and his brother from all forms of contact and we have not heard from him since.

His Dad has not heard from him and it us left us all completely devastated.
I did say to him if you do not want to be a part of this that's is fine, no one is judging you but you do have to be responsible financially for the child.

We know this is a rebound situation and not only will it ruin his life as no matter what this mistake, and before you all curse me, it is a mistake will stay with him for life. A child will be coming into this world, not because it was planned but because it's mother purely wanted to trap someone, my Son or some other poor soul and then there is no escape even when you split.

Both my Husband and I are just carrying on with our lives, leaving him to it, if he gets in touch we will talk to him but if not then so be it, of course heartbroken inside but he is very stubborn and will continue down this path even if it makes him unhappy.

My Sons last message to me was I do not want you in my life and never want to see or hear from you again. I have come to terms with that now.

Anyone else on here, by any chance experience the same and please I am looking for constructive comments, the last experience here produced some less than nice responses which quite frankly that is not what I am here for, I am here to hear about anyone else who has had a similar experience and where did it end up. TIA

Sums it up nicely

lol what.

You know that men teaching about contraception don’t use their penises to do it right?

Your post just drips with misogyny. Not surprised at all your son has made some stupid choices.

The last line in your post shows why your son has cut contact. Like it or not, that is your son's child she is carrying, your grandchild and you've made it clear that you want no part in it.

This may not be the circumstances you'd wish but that is an innocent child that you've turned your back on. At least your son can see you for who you are.

Her background might not measure up to your "standards" but your lack of integrity speaks volumes.

Of course he has to go along with it! He has no say in whether the child is born, and only a scumbag would walk out on their own child.

Conceived via the ear. That one's a bit reachy even for this OP.

Yet you have failed to imbue him with morals.

You must feel mortified that with your financially secure view of your son's future, you and his father have failed to provide him with the tools to be a real gentleman.

Sounds like his mother is worse than I imagine her family is

My father was married to my mother, cheated and left when she got pregnant with me.
His excuse all his life was he didn’t want a child therefore was not required to be a father.
People do not have to do anything they don’t want to - but it is my lived experience that to abdicate responsibility for a human being you brought into the world is horrendous.

With that, it's apparent that his parents are derelict in their duties, not schooling him in the perils of owning a penis.
If there is any fault to be had here, it's on you and your 'boys will be boys' dismissive attitude.

OP, this is where you are at! The echo chamber
of incredulity at the OPs wording is just that and does not add anything to the discussion.
And despite the way it was said we all know what she means.

OP, it really isn’t the end of the world! But how you handle it is essential to the outcome.

Fundamentally this is about a child coming into this world. Your son and the mother could really mess up this child’s life but hopefully they won’t. Even if they don’t make it, which seems to be what you believe, you, your DH and your side of the family need to be in this child’s life, as you need to be in your DSs life.

You have done the right thing by stepping back.
No more war! Allow everything to calm down, let your DS come to you in his own time, but with boundaries and respect also. Keep being his mum, and keep trying to teach him to be a better man. With you at his side he can be a good dad!

I'd want to know any grandchild I had. I can't imagine acting like you have OP.

I love how you're acting like him being "too stupid" to use a condom is a funny anecdote and not a complete failure on your part to raise a son with a modicum of respect, sense or forward thinking. But her failure to use contraception makes her a gold digging, baby trapping hussy.

I hope they get married and live happily ever after without you in their lives tbh. No woman or man needs a mother or mother in law like you.

Wow you sound awful! Judgmental, narrastic and condescending person! Hoping your son will make a better parent than you have

She definitely got herself pregnant it must have been a complete accident that your ds tripped over and his penis fell inside her vagina. Pill, condoms, implants, not getting pregnant if you stand up… don’t have sex if you don’t want babies. Certainly don’t blame one party over another.

"It now transpires that the rebound girlfriend has got herself pregnant after 3 months with my Son!!!"

I can't even be bothered to read the rest. With a mother like you it's no wonder he's so irresponsible. And FYI - without his sperm she should not have managed to "get herself pregnant".

Not read the whole thread and sure many more have said the same, but she did not get herself pregnant

She didn’t get herself pregnant. Your son got her pregnant and it takes two to tango, perhaps don’t put the blame solely on her. Also he isn’t 16, he’s 22 so he isn’t really young and an adult and perhaps be a bit more open minded with the possibility that he is happy with her and may have changed his mind about children.

🤣 yep I read this and knew exaclty how the rest of the post was going to go

I was married at your sons age, working abroad and pregnant at 23. He is not a child and should know to wrap it up if he doesn’t want to risk getting a woman pregnant.

You seem to be blaming the woman a lot and insinuating he’s been trapped. How the hell has he been trapped if he didn’t use a condom?

Tbh, I can kind of see where you are coming from in some ways.
I dislike the snobby attitude that the girl is somehow beneath you all, but it does sound a tough situation.
Yes when anyone has sex consensually, they do so with the risk that pregnancy might occur (even when contraception is used). But this doesn’t sound the most suitable situation choose to have a child, not least at one party clearly doesn’t want to be a parent.

I would question why the woman has chosen to have the baby, given their age, how long they’ve been together and relationship instability so far.
I appreciate peoples views differ massively on this subject but abortion exists for this reason.

And before anyone jumps on me that the guy should be willing to take the consequences if he chose to have sex, can we all honestly say that every time we had sex we would be consenting to have a child?

Fucking hell, the blokes 22! There's only one cunt on this thread.

Money on that the DS is a carpenter

I can see why you had some not so nice comments on other posts as you come across as a callous and rather nasty person. So your son is a cheat and also irresponsible when it comes to contraception - perhaps that's because you've raised him to see women as beneath him. I can't believe you are peddling the trope that she got herself pregnant 😂 and that she did so to trap any man that came along. Then you encouraged him to abandon her and have nothing to do with his own child when it arrives. Sending child maintenance money doesn't make up for an absentee father btw!!! Sounds like your son is more decent than you and trying to do the right thing by his child and girlfriend. Can see why he wants nothing to do with you.