Thread 54 - Summer 25 - Graduations after Uni Year 3

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This is a support thread for our young adults post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting, and their results ( or life updates for those who went into work or have had results earlier). It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, uni vs employment please don't within this thread.
Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue. We were previously on the secondary board and then further education, now we shall be here in 'Parents of Adult Children' gulp
Our DS/DD may continue down various pathways ( employment, apprenticeships, higher ed). Experience is that everyone is welcomed wherever, whatever their child is doing we have some in work, gap years , apprenticeships etc too. Lots of contributors with different experiences and always sympathy and advice to be had.
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Brilliant news @Piggywaspushed after all your DD went through.

@Alwaysplayspicc i’m so sorry to hear you have had such tough times and that the stalking has continued for your DS. Are/ have the police pressing charges? I do hope it has now ceased.

Massive well done to your DD, she has done amazingly.

Sorry to hear of your PTSD, can’t say anything to help but sending best wishes to you

Aren't our kids amazing! The young people in this group were all massively affected by covid and lockdowns and then so many of them have had mental health issues/bullying/ADHD and neurodivergence issues and all sorts of other things to contend with. Yet they're all persevering and doing so well, in so many different courses/jobs. So proud of all of them! When I read about the 'snowflake generation', I think of this group - and of all my kids' amazing friends - and think it's not all of them, so many of them are fantastically resilient.

@Alwaysplayspicc is your dd now back on her ADHD meds? Dd has been waiting over a year for meds, after diagnosis and I think she desperately needs them. Every deadline/exam involves an all-nighter, lots of unnecessary stress and far too many Monster drinks. It's such a roller coaster! Her grades improved in semester one of year 3 (still waiting for the semester 2 results!) because she enjoyed her modules much more, but she's now unable to get a 1st however well she does next year, because of her year 2 marks. A 2:1 would still be fantastic, but either way, I'd love for her to have a calmer and more productive fourth year. And she wants to be a clinical pscyh, which would require a doctorate. I don't think she could manage it without meds - although of course, we don't know how she'll respond to meds, as ds hated them.

@crazycrofter DS and I have just been having a similar conversation about staying on top of work and what a difference meds could make. He's still waiting for an ADHD assessment and now he's back in the country he's more in a position to chase it. He's currently sat behind me supposedly writing an email to Nottingham but all I can hear is Tiktok (in French at least) He can't concentrate for more than 5 minutes.

Congratualtions to @ealingwestmum @Piggywaspushed and @Alwaysplayspicc young people on amazing results.

Sorry to learn of the dreadful year you have endured @always I am horrified the stalking has been allowed to continue without effective police intervention. (Would they have been more on it if boy on girl? rhetorical) I wish you a smoother recovery in your own health battles from here.

Agree wholeheartedly with @crazy

DS got his results today and he's happily got a 2:1. I think he was a little more pleased last week, because it was a complete surprise, to be awarded sportsman of the year for his college, Typical 😂

@crazycrofter and of course I'm on here when I should be working so it's difficult to criticise 🤦‍♂️

@EwwSprouts well done to him on both counts. I completely get him being more excited about the sports award, especially if was peer voted :)

And thank you all for kind wishes re DD. It has set her up well for Y4 and she's had a successful initial online meet with her supervisor for next year re her Capstone project (dissertation). Who knew there were so many interesting books and angles on things Syria!

Well done Minisprout!

Well done to your Ds too @EwwSprouts for both those achievements!

@mummyinbeds yes, I’m no better. I saw something on TikTok the other day about how putting your phone out of sight helps with concentration. Sounds obvious but it really does help! Well, until my Apple Watch beeps to tell me I’ve got a message 🤣 Good luck to Ds re getting a diagnosis!

Massive well done to your DS on both counts @EwwSprouts !

Fantastic news @EwwSprouts he must be delighted, really well done!

Congratulations on all the great results @Alwaysplayspicc @EwwSprouts @Piggywaspushed @ealingwestmum .

What an awful year it has been for you @Alwaysplayspicc.

Well done mini ds Sprouts on both fronts.

Congratulations on all the fabulous results! I’m so proud of all our DC - aren’t the amazing?!

@OublietteBravo They certainly are. Congratulations to MiniSprout.

Thanks everyone. I'm loving the moniker mini sprouts when he's a strapping 6'3. In proof that genetics are not everything, he has always eaten raw sprouts. They were grown in the village where we used to live and at harvest there would be individual ones fallen from the trailers on the verges. Yes he was that disgusting.

They taste nicer raw to be fair!

My DS has always loved sprouts. I can report that you get some pretty weird looks in the supermarket if your 3 year old is begging you to buy sprouts!

@OublietteBravo my ds was put on a high fat, low fibre diet by the hospital as a toddler and I can confirm that toddlers begging for broccoli in the supermarket gets a similar response 😁

So lovely to hear all the positive things going on!

DD is home from York, results are in and she is not happy. Just missed out on a 2:1 which she should be proud of given the uni messed up most of her exams for the last two years! We are a year in to the complaints process and it is still ongoing 😟 The University offered her a payoff as compensation but she turned it down as they wouldn't admit they screwed up.

The departmental graduation reception should be interesting!

Gosh, that sounds fraught!

DS wanted me to serve brussel sprouts at his birthday party, must have been about 4. He wanted all his friends to be healthy. I persuaded him to stick with classic party food!!

Oh no @handmademitlove that sounds like a nightmare. So sorry for your Dd. What subject did she do?

@handmademitlove sounds horrendous! What an awful experience for your DD

@crazycrofter. Maths. She is autistic and dyslexic. When she went to Uni, we were so optimistic as the support from DSA and disability services was so positive after having to fight for every little thing through school. But the downside of Uni is that some lecturers just don't bother to read student support plans, or think they are not important and can be ignored if inconvenient! We had a meeting with senior members of staff a few months ago and they commented that some of the difficulties were because staff had no training on how autism affects students and that many were neurodiverse themselves. The Uni disability team pointed out that they provide such training but maths didn't actually encourage their staff to attend!

We are very much drawing a line under the academic experience and looking at the positives - she has learned to advocate for herself and is much less of a doormat than when she left! #lifeskills 🙂.