Thread 54 - Summer 25 - Graduations after Uni Year 3

[Oblomov25]

This is a support thread for our young adults post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting, and their results ( or life updates for those who went into work or have had results earlier). It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, uni vs employment please don't within this thread.
Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue. We were previously on the secondary board and then further education, now we shall be here in 'Parents of Adult Children' gulp
Our DS/DD may continue down various pathways ( employment, apprenticeships, higher ed). Experience is that everyone is welcomed wherever, whatever their child is doing we have some in work, gap years , apprenticeships etc too. Lots of contributors with different experiences and always sympathy and advice to be had.
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Aw that’s lovely @shimy 😊

Our house is so quiet and I’m really missing both of them. Dd seems very busy and happy in her new house, so I’m hearing much less from her. I’ve spoken to Ds a few times when I’ve checked his location and noticed he’s in his flat. He’s not there very much though!

I still keep expecting to find DD curled up in her corner of the sofa when I come through the front door. She seems to have settled in fine, has had a cold this week along with everyone else there it seems. She's planning to come home for a weekend in a couple of weeks. To be honest I've had so much on my mind with elderly relatives (not just my parents but various aunts and uncles) that I haven't had much time to miss her. DF has been in hospital for nearly 3 months and will be having to go into a home when he finally gets discharged so there's a lot to sort out.

Only just spotted your post. I wish i'd done a degree with no dissertation, mine was horrendous and had an awful supervisor, i jumped at the chance to do a taught masters as soon as i could. All that writing, surveys and the referencing!!!

@shimy if it makes you feel better, all my exams were at the end of three years - 12 x 3 hour exams over two weeks, covering material from as far back as freshers week, all revised from scrappy handwritten notes which has gone untouched since the hungover day they were written.

@mummyinbeds That sounds like a psychological endurance test, I'm impressed .

@ExtensivelyDecorating So sorry to hear about your poorly DF that's having to transition into a home. It must feel like the beginning of the end of an era. Do you have any siblings that are helping with all the organisation at all? i'd imagine its quite a load to deal with single handedly not to mention adding aunts and uncles into the mix.

It looks like everyone who's supposed to be resuming final yr on this thread has gone back. Good luck to them all!

@Shimy thank you, yes one sibling who is supportive but tends to let me take the lead on the admin stuff, which thanks to MN I seem to know more about than him. I'm not helping aunts and uncles directly but several have died recently so there have been funerals and keeping in touch with cousins etc.

Just back from a long weekend away visiting family (and taking in the waters of @craggyrat 's neck of the woods) We called in on DS on the way back down the M1 and I would like to announce that I think I have my son back 😁 Its been a long journey since his life fell apart in year 13 but today I felt he was truly happy. He's socialising with his flatmates (who he only met three weeks ago), socialising with the few friends he still has in Nottingham, playing for two football teams and socialising with them, acting as buddy to two French exchange students and socialising in French with them. So much socialising 🤣 And he's been to (most of) his lectures so far. Apart from still needing to be his alarm clock I feel I can finally relax.

Oh, that's wonderful to hear @mummyinbeds ❤️. Brought a little tear to my eye.

Mummy that sounds so nice. Ahhhh.

That's wonderful news @mummyinbeds - really happy for you and your DS

Hope you enjoyed God's own county!

That’s amazing news @mummyinbeds , so good to hear. Your support has paid off! Hope he has a brilliant fourth year!

What a lovely update @mummyinbedsYour quiet constant support in the background must have been such a comfort to him and this is now his real self coming out and blossoming.

Oh how wonderful @mummyinbeds!

Good news here too: DD had her interview this morning, and she’s just been offered the job! She’s utterly delighted. It’s much more aligned with what she wants to do (and she’s managed to get a 3.3% pay rise). So she’ll be working on the same site as me as of 28 October. Plus it’s fabulous timing, as she got notified that her current role is at risk of redundancy today.

Congratulations Bravo dd on job.

I am awaiting my own exam results that come out at midnight.

Well done to dd @OublietteBravo , that’s great news!

Hope you also get good news later @Oblomov25

Fabulous @OublietteBravo, and fingers crossed for you too @Oblomov25 !

Great news @OublietteBravo !

Just heard that DD is getting deployed at the weekend. This military career has just become very real.

@mummyinbeds That is fantastic news indeed and an amazing breakthrough. You can start to relax, you've all been through a lot. Now that he's tasted the joy of socialising and just having company he'll be like a new person.

Congratulations @OublietteBravo Perfect timing as you said. Onwards and upwards!

Wow @Aslockton that is real! I hope if it a full on depolyment, she experiences all the positive aspects tour life brings. Very best of luck to her 🤞

We can imagine how you are worrying already @Aslockton Does she feel prepared?

@mummyinbeds Pleased to hear things have improved so much. Hope he has a great year.

@OublietteBravo Congratulations!

@Oblomov25 Good luck! Midnight seems a strange time to release results. I hope someone is staying awake with you.

I passed. Oh my word.

Fantastic @Oblomov25 ! Really well done! And great news too @OublietteBravo !

@Aslockton that all sounds v real now!

Congratulations @Oblomov25! That’s fantastic - I’m glad none of my results came out at midnight.

Congratulations @Oblomov25

And congratulations to @OublietteBravo DD

@Aslockton that is big news, sending hugs, I imagine it's unsettling.

Brilliant news @Oblomov25 and @OublietteBravo
Hope all goes well @Aslockton