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Graduates returning to the nest, a new start for all!

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VanCleefArpels · 01/07/2022 23:08

Carrying on from the 2019/20 Uni students thread let’s talk about what it’s like to have our fresh graduates home, for some of us invading our nice empty nest, for all of us creating a new household dynamic…….

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LouisCatorze · 06/09/2022 07:21

DS has just gone to help his g/f move into her studio flat. I think he's feeling a bit bad that he's not moved in with her but it would be too small for them both to be #wfh from. And the reality is that they weren't able to find an affordable two-bed flat (which is what they ideally were after).

Glad you had a lovely holiday in NYC @Benjispruce4 and good luck to your DD with her move. Exciting times.

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Benjispruce4 · 06/09/2022 07:31

@LouisCatorze it is exciting but quite exhausting as everything is happening this month. I’m quite looking forward to October when DD1 has moved out and DD2 has got Freshers out of the way. It will be v quiet with just us and Ddog but it’s been so busy and stressful the last few weeks DD2 missed her first choice grades and all the upset and worry that brought and DD1 working and commuting whilst trying to find a place to rent with 3 others.I need another holiday but a quiet one!

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bigTillyMint · 06/09/2022 08:15

Oooh NYC? Not a bit jealous @Benjispruce4!
Good luck to both your DDs - where is DD2 off to?

@LouisCatorze, sounds like your DS made the right choice - there’s plenty of time for living together in the future.

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Benjispruce4 · 06/09/2022 16:17

Yes it was a big holiday for us and a first. Was DH’s 50th and mine was in lockdown so thought we’d have a last hurrah with the girls as was their 18th and 21st over the same period. DD2 wanted York but didn’t make the grades so she’s off to NTU.

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LouisCatorze · 07/09/2022 07:52

Sounds like a fabulous holiday @Benjispruce4 and great that you all reached milestone birthdays within two years of each other.

NTU is one of those universities that everyone has a positive story about so I'm sure your DD2 will have a lovely time there.

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thing47 · 07/09/2022 11:31

@Benjispruce4 my DD2 did her undergrad at NTU, absolutely loved it.

She got a good degree (which enabled her to go on to do a very prestigious Masters), but also had fun., did some partying, represented the university at sport and made some very good friends. I'm sure your DD2 will have a great time there.

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Benjispruce4 · 07/09/2022 12:55

Thanks for positive stories of NTU. Not sure she’s completely convinced which is a shame .

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VanCleefArpels · 07/09/2022 16:03

Nottingham is an amazing city to be a student in - great nightlife, Peak District nearby, good shopping etc I’m sure she will very quickly learn to love it!

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Benjispruce4 · 07/09/2022 16:58

I think part of it is that because her place is via clearing, the accommodation offered was far away. We’ve had to book private accommodation which is central but not guaranteed she’ll be with Freshers etc though they do try. We were used to the Freps at Durham and if anything DD2 is more anxious and needs more settling in and reassurance than DD1. It may all work out but at the moment she’s not doing much/making plans etc .

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thing47 · 07/09/2022 19:18

Where's she living @Benjispruce4 ? And what's she studying? It's a very student city so I wouldn't necessarily worry and as @VanCleefArpels says there are lots of options for socialising and meeting people, whatever her interests are.

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Benjispruce4 · 07/09/2022 19:29

She in Trinity Sq which is central as she’s at City Campus study in Sociology.

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Benjispruce4 · 07/09/2022 19:30

*studying

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Benjispruce4 · 07/09/2022 19:31

I’m sure it will be fine. She’s been with bf to look around the city etc. It’s just not York.

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bigTillyMint · 07/09/2022 20:45

@Benjispruce4, it must feel a bit daunting if she was hoping for York which is campus (and collegiate like Durham?) and she is now in accommodation which may have fewer freshers.
However, as others say, I bet she will find friends and plenty to do as there are loads of students and lots of stuff to do there.

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simbobs · 12/09/2022 18:31

It has taken me a while to catch up with all your messages. We'll done to those DC who have embarked on the road to 'real life' ; I can remember how daunting it was. For those who remember the sorry saga of my DS and his deferral we had to go through the whole complaint procedure over the summer, but it all turned out Ok and he is restarting his final year in 2 weeks. We are waiting to hear what is happening with finance, as the decision came through so late, but the main thing is that we now know what he is doing next year. Whew!

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LouisCatorze · 12/09/2022 18:34

@simbobs that's so good to hear regarding your DS. I hope his final year goes well. Good luck to him. And fingers crossed that he hears about finance soon too.

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atiaofthejulii · 12/09/2022 18:42

Oh, really glad to hear that @simbobs !

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RampantIvy · 12/09/2022 20:17

I'm so glad there is some positive news for you @simbobs.

How is your DD these days?

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simbobs · 12/09/2022 21:09

@RampantIvy thsnk you. DD not good, but that isn't really for this thread. How is yours?

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Benjispruce4 · 12/09/2022 21:26

That’s good about DS @simbobs . 💐 to DD.

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RampantIvy · 12/09/2022 21:26

She is moving back to Newcastle and job hunting for a stop gap job before starting a masters @simbobs.

I really hope that your daughter improves Flowers

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simbobs · 12/09/2022 22:16

@RampantIvy i wish mine could go back to Newcastle! The irony is that one of her best friends has just moved there to start a Masters. She hasn't improved at all, sadly. DD remains registered with a GP there as there seem to be no specialist services at all where we live, but no real help so far.

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bigTillyMint · 13/09/2022 07:54

@simbobs, so sorry to hear about your DD - it must be a very worrying time for you 💐
But great news about your DS - phew!

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simbobs · 13/09/2022 11:14

DS was always able to resume his course but the confusion about his deferral meant that they were offering a repeat year with marks capped at 40% (in which case he would have ditched the degree). Following our appeal/complaint the deferral got backdated and the cap removed. I honestly didn't think we would succeed!

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ZandathePanda · 24/09/2022 17:19

Hello
hope everything ok as can be simbobs. Dd really misses Newcastle and so do I.

How’s everyones DC doing job wise? It’s been like a rollercoaster here. Looking back Dd had 3 serious contenders and multiple interviews with them all. One she rejected after preferring the other two. There was a dance of which of the others would offer first, with her favourite not getting back, her second favourite then citing budget cuts and disengaging. Then both offering her a job within 24 hours of each other.

It all sounds very easy looking back, but she had no idea where in the country she would be living or whether she would get any offers.
She now just about to start at a fantastic company (using her degree) and has found a new flat so only commuting from our home for a week.

Just been in the garage and everything from Uni was dumped in random storage bags. So I am now attempting to salvage bedding in this damp weather when it could have been washed and dried so easily in 40degree heat a few weeks back. Grrr.

Meanwhile I have just advised on a posh backpack. For those who remember the infamous backpack thread, I hope this will make you smile!

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