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The Golden Rules of Parenting

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JustineMumsnet · 17/12/2009 16:01

What would yours be? (We are just mulling this in the office) Mine would be not to say: No, NO NOO, oh alright then...

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driedapricots · 18/12/2009 17:25

woooah CoralNet
i'd say it's hard to work full time and be a mum, not impossible. i'm fortunate and only have to work part time. it's more selfish to not work and deprive your kids cos you're too lazy to live beyond benefits in my book...

ijustwanttoaskaquestion · 18/12/2009 17:32

repeat at times of stress "i dont have to be perfect, there is no such thing as the alpha mummy, good enough is good enough"

CoralNet · 18/12/2009 17:33

Then in all honesty I'd burn your book.

Part time is okay tho' and a long way from the full time that some ambitious types do.

Some have to work temp full time due to very unfortunate circumstances; but there are those with house that they could easily downsize to so that she, or he, didn't have to work.

As for those on the benefit system, I know a good few who gave up jobs, and hence bigger homes in some circumstances, to live on a pittance for the one reason of being at home when the bullied son or daughter came home from school, to be with and there for the child they bore. They are part of my 'heros'.

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sockmonkey · 18/12/2009 17:35

Never trust a quiet child.
Just love 'em

oldspeckledtam · 18/12/2009 17:37

coralnet, what a ridiculous statement. I work 4 days a week but I'm still a full time mom. I may be out of the home, but my children aren't out of my heart. If you can afford to stay home, brilliant. I can't.

My parenting rule is pick your battles.

CoralNet · 18/12/2009 17:40

One other example:
Full Time as a Mum, on the condition that all of the children are at school. Who has them all for the big 6 week break, all of the other holidays, how long is the so called Mum with them.

As for any person in Full time, or even unnecessary part time before they are in school, that is disgraceful.

I am sure if 'God' was alive and knew this was happening he would have postponed the mechanisms of the 'bits' and enforced a child licence order.

Its disgusting.

CoralNet · 18/12/2009 17:43

There is a benefit system for you, you can get benefits for the children. My statement is the same heart-felt of those who are real mothers and who care about the demise of this increasingly torrid country, because children have uncaring selfish parents.

What do you live on now anyway? I know you can cut corners. What are you spending on your children for Christmas? I KNOW they'd prefer more time with you instead.

CoralNet · 18/12/2009 17:45

To Sockmonkey = 100% agree (on a vast average of course).

driedapricots · 18/12/2009 17:46

coralnet - i guess its a personal decision ATEOTD and not one for others to judge

I find myself wondering if your 'heroes' children were bullied so badly because they were so mollycoddled in the first place...

my other parenting rule is don't be a competitive 'supermum'

ijustwanttoaskaquestion · 18/12/2009 17:46

oh coral, you are very brave, very brave indeed - ive always wanted to say this

Fwiw - im a SAHM but woman - you is full of shit!

CoralNet · 18/12/2009 17:46

"I may be out of the home, but my children aren't out of my heart."

Do they know that?

Do they feel that?

If not, explain that, all of that, to them.

Then ask them, would you still prefer to have me at home.

END OFF.

ijustwanttoaskaquestion · 18/12/2009 17:48

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ijustwanttoaskaquestion · 18/12/2009 17:49

my bestest rule: never EVER criticise anothers parenting choices

driedapricots · 18/12/2009 17:53

OMG I am truly shocked. I've tried being diplomatic but my blood's boiling.

What do you mean there is a benefits system for you and your kids?? That attitude is at the heart of the demise of this 'increasingly torrid country'.

By the way, where are your kids now you're spending all this time spouting crap on here? Surely you should be spoon feeding them an organic tea you've lovingly crafted all afternoon ....

sleepwhenidie · 18/12/2009 17:55

never to make a promise (or a threat) you cannot or will not keep.

CoralNet · 18/12/2009 17:59

DriedApricot Im got too sure what planet you are on.

Yes its a personal decision but that doesn't make it right. One person's personal decision to decorate their own bedroom pink and green is a persona decision and that fine cos its their room and so its perfect. It is a muggers decision to rob an old woman of all of her savings, that's his decision but its wrong.
SEE.

HOWEVER, how the heck do you think one child is bullied because they are mollycoddled. What do think they should be some sort of a hit-man? The bullies are the Victim, the foul vile bully thug is the one with the problem, children are bullied by kids who's parents are not there and don't give a toss, such as the working Mum.

Its logical, its simple, and its 1billion times proven.

You don't have a clue girl, and this is the problem with people like you who don't know, as for ijust..question, I think you are a Chav? Chav Parent? You'll find out and remember my words when your kid has a criminal record, on the assumption he doesn't have one already.

Anyhow, nuff said, so who are you all? Area, amount of children, circumstances, Qualifications?.
Voluntarily Work CV?

Where were you the rest of this day?

I don't see much education on this site at all so far from you two.

spicemonster · 18/12/2009 18:00

God this thread's turned into a weird propaganda drive on the part of a couple of people.

Bunch of weirdos

driedapricots · 18/12/2009 18:03

yeah, i'm out. thought we were discussing parenting rules.
you think i'm a chav coralnet ...too funny
not even gracing you with further responses

CoralNet · 18/12/2009 18:05

my bestest rule: never EVER criticise anothers parenting choices

TRUE

-N O T-

I'd tell that to Rose West etc etc.
If they do wrong, then tell them, otherwise we'd all be as bad as the worst.

Do you not read the news? Read study and stats about this Modern Day stuff? Or are you just happy to sit there and have your child do what the heck he/she wants. You need to take more interest AND ultimate rule for life really = don't comment on what you don't know about, you'll end up looking a mug in the end.

CoralNet · 18/12/2009 18:10

OMG I am truly shocked. I've tried being diplomatic but my blood's boiling.

What do you mean there is a benefits system for you and your kids?? That attitude is at the heart of the demise of this 'increasingly torrid country'.

By the way, where are your kids now you're spending all this time spouting crap on here? Surely you should be spoon feeding them an organic tea you've lovingly crafted all afternoon ....

FOA Your jealous, more importantly I think you've realised how bad you are. As you ask, my son is at work, he's 18, this time is mine. As for camomile tea et he is a normal polite boy and he has his own life but there is no complaints ab him, we argue ab twice a year and we have the greatest love. Let your blood boil, they way you sound you'll no doubt sponge it off on a customer tomorrow.

Anyway I asked some questions.....

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driedapricots · 18/12/2009 18:18

sorry i can't resist but to respond

you're rambling now Coralnet. what customer will I sponge it off on? are you making some very odd assumptions about my job?!

i think you're rather eaten up with bitterness and resentment

you're not half as intelligent as you think you are.

'NUFF said' ...who's the chav?

guess what, i'm going out with some friends now....burn me at the stake!

CoralNet · 18/12/2009 18:19

IOW its reality baby! . Now I missed half of Eggheads already. Gotta go, leave the punks to thier working patterns, in couple of hours or so they'll give thier children the attention they deserve, as CHILDREN.

To sleepwhenidie, I agree total, I put a thread in like that myself too.

oldspeckledtam · 18/12/2009 18:20

Coralnet, you've chosen to quote me so I will reply.

I am 100% happy with the parenting choices I have made. You may judge me all you want but I know that my children are happy and loved. I am not the sort to let an internet person wind me up and I will not let you be the first.

My H and I love our kids and they love us. What's it to you how much time we spend together? Ever heard of Quality not Quantity?

Now, off you go back to your nice, high pedestal. Us normal people are going to stay down here. We may wobble from time to time, but I am certain I'll have a fab relationship with my children as they'll know what it is to be human. They'll know that you work to afford things and you don't just expect benefits. They will understand that they will always come first. I know this. I'm the child of working parents myself. Oh and I don't have a criminal record!