DD age 8 has told all her class mates Father Christmas doesn't exist

[KatieDD]

And another mother in DD's class has asked me to ask her not to say it again because they were hoping for another year of magic (her daughter is 9).
Now I am having the day from hell anyway but what would you do ?
DD has sussed it now so I cannot say he is real without looking an idiot and I always said I wouldn't lie so when she outright asked I replied that she was right but she mustn't tell her younger sisters.

I would to explain that although Santa doesn't really exist talk about her excitement when she did believe and explain that in effect by telling her friends who still believe she is spoiling that magic for them.

If she can be trusted not to tell her siblings then she should understand why not to tell at school

I wouldn't worry. Kids always find this stuff out from other kids. I remmeber knowing about that age and told a few kids in my class. I'm sure they all grew up to live happy and fulfilled lives
I try and separate myself where possible from discussions that the children have at school, it is their time there and it is all about growing up. The parents can't control everything.
I'm sure things will be ok. FWIW I can't wait until DS (age7, Yr3) susses it out, all this fake sttuff is getting to me!

I thnk she totally understands that the little one's shouldn't be told but feels it's different with her classmates, like she's sharing a big secrete with them and doing them a massive favor by letting them know.

Agree with blametheparents; parents shouldn't try to micromanage every conversation somebody has with their precious offspring at school. Though it is a useful lesson in general manners to teach children to be tactful about things like Santa. Having said that, if a 9yo has to believe literally in FC to experience the magic- they do sound a bit young. Have they never heard of the concept of suspended disbelief?

My ds was told when he was a similar age, it didn't matter as he wanted to believe, so I just said that the child had got it wrong. Bit petty of the other child's parent to mention it to you though.

I thought so cornsilk, have had that school up to here today.
I don't think i'm going to say anything to DD they can all just get over themselves and deal with it.

If they watch films like the Polar Express they will know about the issue of 'believing' anyway. She's very lucky if she's got to 9 without anyone mentioning it before.

Tbh, I don't blame the other mum being a bit upset. Ok, they all find out soon enough in one way or another but they're only 8, why shouldn't they still believe in Father Christmas? Its so fab when they still believe, and they grow up quick enough.

'I don't think i'm going to say anything to DD they can all just get over themselves and deal with it.'

I do think your sod the other children
attitude stinks Katie you may have had a bad day but why do you want to ruin other children's days as well?

She can be sad about it, we all are when they grow up and it's another era ending but I think it's a bit much to come and chew my ear about it.

I am not running around shouting Father Christmas is not real ! It's a child talking to a child.

I wouldn't speak to you about it personally but you do come across as if you don't give a sh*t that your dd has potentially ruined the whole class's xmas
yes they will all find out eventually but she doesn't need to go round repeating it again and again does she?
or are you just a bit smug that you think it makes your dd more grown up than her classmates?

Did she chew your ear off, though? You said she asked you to ask your dd not to mention it to the other kids again. That's reasonable, imo, unless she was shouting it at you!

Well maybe one of the other classmates told my DD, have you thought of that ? She's been told by somebody.
If that's all their Christmas is about then it's a shame wouldn't you say ?

no one is saying that is all their xmas is about but it still doesn't make it right for your dd to keep repeating it if someone has asked her not to mention it again

ds1 and I had a santa convo the other day and I just said to him if you still believe then he is real to you but I would be pissed off if someone in the class kept going on and on about it

You are destined to be a very pissed off parent then andiem.

Who says she's going on and about it, and so what if she is, you cannot control other peoples children and I certainly will not be telling her to keep her mouth shut to anyone but the little ones.

Maybe they did. You're not bothered by it, and that's fine. The other mother is bothered by it, equally fine.
Why would it be all that their Christmas is about? I would have been gutted if ds had been told at that age, as I suspect the other mum is, but it wouldn't have been the be all and end all of Christmas. However, it is special when they still believe, or at least it always was in our house.

Whether the other mother likes it or not (and you andiem) Father Christmas does NOT exist so the child is only telling the truth. Sorry to break it to you, BTW.

Am going to a bath before my blood pressure gets any worse, thanks for the thoughts so far, no need to continue this, have no desire to start a war this close to Christmas.

I would ask my child not to mention it at school again.

no cornsilk I'm very happy
katie your attitude towards the whole thing is very depressing and very me me me
why can't you accept that other people's children may just want to believe and a little restraint on the part of your dd might be a nice thing to do

katies I know thanks no need for the nastiness