so do you pry in other kids school bags when they come home for tea?

[sneakypeak]

I always have a look to see what reading book theyre on/ what the standard of their work is compared to my dcs.

am i sneaky / sad or is this just normal human curiosity?

And I write in the reading record books too, after hearing children read, to make comments as to where they read too and how they read that day, etc. So if I was so inlined I could see exactly what teacher/parent ommunication is - but TBH I am too busy to be bothered. And I am also pretty professional too.

I genuinely am not bothered in DD's classmates individual progress compared to DD.

I remember going to a meeting at the shcool just before the children started bringing reading books home. The reception teacher told us not to take notice of what level the other children were on, even though she admitted to peaking in her DCs friends bookbags herself to see what level they were on.

I certainly don't think it's "creepy"

Blimey, would never occur to me to do something so underhand.

You lot who snoop through bookbags need some hobbies or something. Not a nice way to behave.

In the context of how I wrote it, to call somebody a fibber is slightly teasing and tongue-in-cheek.

This thread did start in a lighthearted manner, I feel.

To call somebody a liar is provocatory and challenging. My words were not that.

So no, they are not the same. Unless people choose to misrepresent what I said or the thread stirs up some unhappy associations. For that I am sorry, but not for using the word fibber.

nope.... i get bored looking at my own kids homework...plus it is a bit rude don't you think?

you are MAD

does anyone who actually HAS a job do this?

< edges closer to lynette >

< and backs away slowly >

My DCs all pre-school so not faced this scenario yet, but am really that people would do this. It is an awful thing to do.

Nope - not interested - but talking of peeking...how about lunchboxes!!!

Im not interested at what level other children are on. If my child is trying their best at what ever level they are, what does it matter.

You are all bonkers. Except for MP.

What else? Going through husband's pockets, naturally. Recreational curtain-twitching?

You seriously haven't got enough to do. I have a pile of jobs handy, that would be very useful and helpful. CAT me and I'll supply a list.

So tell us what happens when the little playmate spots you peeking into their schoolbag and then tells their mummy that 'X's mummy was looking in my bag' and X's mummy confronts you next morning?

It has honestly never occured to me to do this. How utterly weird.

So if you know your child is on a high level, you would be snooping on the other kids for what reason? To confirm your little darlings superiority?

You lot want to get out more.

Wankers

I am not a wanker Some of you need to calm down a bit.

I have admitted to looking in the past. Not rifled through the bag, just noticed what reading book they are on. I looked at a reading record book.

If the child caught me and the mum asked I'd tell them

Shit - i mean I have never looked at a reading record book.

moist thingy my kids are not on a high level.

Do you check the kids labels in their clothes too?

How about a questionaire when they walk through the door
Do you live in a mansion ,detached, semi terrace or flat?
How much do your parents earn?
What is your bloodline?

Sorry, but the school bag is their (the child) property and if you open it, it is an invasion of their privacy.
If you are that curious about reading standards why doesn't anyone speak to the teacher?
This so reminds me of over zealous parents worrying about how their kids are measuring up, thinking of themselves rather than their kids.

this thread is now officially hysterical

I chalk up my first MN accusation of wanker

Nice

Now that is offensive

all you mum wh have admitted to looking in the bookbag......

what would you do if said child reciprocated the pleasure and started looking thro your bag???

No monkey, strangely I don't do any of those things, as I don't equate glancing at a frigging reading book with being a pushy mother.

I am not worried about them measuring up. They are fantastic kids, bright and talented in other ways, just crap at reading.

I have spoken to the teachers, they are doing their best DS2 will be tested next term.

Looking in the bag is an invasion of privacy but in the grand scheme of things it's not so bad.

I am actually quite amused that I am being perceived as a pushy mother here

that is an interesting point PAMM

and much more considered than some of the more hysterical posts

and to answer your question, I would be a bit

but I stand by my point it is human nature to have a sneaky peek at the book one of your childs peers is reading

and that is what the original gist of this thread was about

nothing more, nothing less

hardly the crime of the century