so do you pry in other kids school bags when they come home for tea?

[sneakypeak]

I always have a look to see what reading book theyre on/ what the standard of their work is compared to my dcs.

am i sneaky / sad or is this just normal human curiosity?

I was helping a friend drop her dcs off at school and on the back of the lunchbox thread, she asked me to create a diversion so she could sneek a peek in the lunchboxes! It's a craze that's sweeping the nation apparantly!

Isn't that odd - I would never DREAM of looking in a lunchbox!

I'm absolutely shocked. I am a very nosy bugger, but I don't pry in other people's bags, whatever their age.

there are certain types of "lunchbox" I'm interested in

and it aint some kids butties!

I notice yet another post calling people "freaks"

now that is rude

Katie
I don't think it is.
I think it is a generally just a desperately attention seeking OP.

SF..
I think you are a bit of a freak.

< runs after pagwatch and pulls her hair >

The last time we had a friend for tea, he left his school bag in the boot of the car so that we would not forget it when we took him home. I sent my DP out to look in his bag to see what stage reading he was on compared to my DS. Blardy reading book wasn't there was it

I did after they'd had school exams in year 3, because they didn't issue anything by way of placing or statistics and so how are you supposed to know if say 80% in maths is really good or pretty crap except by comparison? If the school could had provided a mean and standard deviation then I wouldn't have sneaked a peek.

Comparisons may be odious but without them percentages are totally meaningless.

I haven't read all posts, but I would never do this and I am that it would even enter anybodys head to do so.

Why does it matter? It won't make your child any better or any worse at reading.

Completely beyond me.

Fookin hell SF fights dirty

This thread seems a bit mad but I think its a reflection of the non competitive ethos of schools. I find it fairly difficult to know where my child is in relation to his peers - teachers are so non comittal and reports have bland comments such as "doing well".

This is all v well until sadly our kids have to try to get into university or get a job. The real world is competitive and does care about what people are very good at and how good people are in relation to one another. If you have been labouring under the impression that your kid is doing quite well at reading for years only to discover that actually they are pretty crap it might come as a rude awakening.

So instead of having to poke through people's book bags surely it would be better if schools gave us a better idea of how children are really doing in relation to their peers. For example if I heard that DD was doing v badly at reading but really well in running it would help me understand what to encourage her to do.

Absolutely I have done! And yes its because i want to know how his reading is compared to others in class his age.... Better than sounding paranoid and asking all the Mums! Not so interested in lunchboxes, though do have days when send him with super healthy stuff in the hope the teacher will praise him (me) for it. Now that is insecure!

< rips pagwatch's tongue out of her gob and stuffs it up her nostril >

I am quite interested in the contents of George Clooney's lunchbox.

Did you mention George

yes

< swoon >

I was on this thread at the beginning

What a change from school bags to the gorgeous,charming,CORRRRRRR ,hot,George Clooney

P.S hes mine

And I will tell you whats in his lunch box(if I had the chance in my dreams)

scaryfucker just realised you are a nasty piece of work you fight dirty and your name suits you

If on the off chance George does come here

You can go first ......

I promise please don`t hit me pull my hair or stick anything up my nose

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monkeyblue, you can have sloppy seconds

No! and I don't look in other peoples medicine cabinets when I'm visiting them either! Honestly, don't want to know!

Goodness yes i always look and so do all my friends! But its not to compare reading levels, more to see what other mothers write so that i can be equally amusing/supportive/fabulous.

If i know my sons going to someones house after school i would absolutely expect the bag to be gone though and would make sure reading comments are up to date, bag clear of old letters, perhaps some brilliant educational show and tell item left there for nosey mother to see....

be careful - us pryers are a sad freaky minority on this thread!

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For heaven's sake, there's a difference between curiosity and opening someone else's bag. And trying to work out - as Pagwatch points out - whether they're doing worse than your own child or not.

And if I ever catch someone else snooping in my kids' bags, I'll be livid.

I wouldn't dream of looking in somone else's bag...but I will plant a few eyebrow raisers in DS's, I think, just to give the competitive snoopy types who might, a big fright.
(not that I think DS goes into the homes of anyone like that - but it seems you can't be sure!)

I think I will start with his very scientific dinosaur book written in French. (he can't understand it - my French-dwelling rellies sent it).