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so do you pry in other kids school bags when they come home for tea?

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sneakypeak · 20/10/2008 17:33

I always have a look to see what reading book theyre on/ what the standard of their work is compared to my dcs.

am i sneaky / sad or is this just normal human curiosity?

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misdee · 20/10/2008 18:14

ok. so dd2 is in yr one. if a parent checked her book today at trhe back it says years 4,5a. reading age 7.5-8. would serve u right for being nosy

bellavita · 20/10/2008 18:15

I could not care less about other children - only mine.

Common sense tells me that you are weird for doing it

LynetteScavo · 20/10/2008 18:19

Of course I would peak!

I already have a good idea where all his class mates are though, re; reading, by quizzing DS as to which table his friends are on.

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pagwatch · 20/10/2008 18:19

its not common sense. It is stupid.

If a child has problems you tend to spot it. If a child is excessively bright you tend to spot that too.

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sneakypeak · 20/10/2008 18:19

ah, no misdee. I wouldnt be jealous or bitter if one of his friends was more advanced. Just interested. Im not a pushy parent who hothouses. Just want the information well to be informed really. I dont think thats nasty or disgusting or weird.

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sneakypeak · 20/10/2008 18:21

well ive spotted that i THINK he's bright but if you have nothing to compare it with then you dont actually know for sure do you?

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bellavita · 20/10/2008 18:21

I am afraid you sound pushy to me

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sneakypeak · 20/10/2008 18:23

i only know he's ahead because ive compared!

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SuperBunny · 20/10/2008 18:24

Where's Cupsoftea?

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sneakypeak · 20/10/2008 18:25

ha bella - well maybe i am compared to you tis all relative..

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bellavita · 20/10/2008 18:25

ah ha - SuperBunny - I think she could be on this very thread in disguise

Blu · 20/10/2008 18:25

No - I barely have time to keep abreast of what Ds is doing never mind everyone else. And when I get them in the door, there is tea to make and stuff to do - I don't stop to start snooping!

LynetteScavo · 20/10/2008 18:27

Oh, and I don't mind people peeking to see what reading book DS is on....he is on a very low reading book, but has excellent conversation skills, and decent manners (at leat when out to tea) so always gets invited back. (except to Eunices house )

Blu · 20/10/2008 18:28

Aha!

This is a SAHM v WOHM thread, sin't it? Is snooping peeking a SAHM thing?? . You already have the tea prepared and the domestic sitution free of hazards for visiting children, don't you?

traceybath · 20/10/2008 18:28

I wouldn't do this - just a bad sad really.

However my friend quizzes her child on what books every other child in class is on to work out where he sits. I'd just ask the teacher personally.

pagwatch · 20/10/2008 18:29

If he is bright do you think that at some stage the school will fail to mention to you that he appears to be excelling at x or y?

You are actually trying to detect his 'status' by placing him in comparison to his peers.

if you were only interested in him you would want to know if he was bright or not. the fact that you want to know as a comparison shows it was all about you.

Why do so many parents want this vicarious status thing? It is weird.All this 'he is six - should he be on ORT the toss years yet'
Do something well yourself and leave your kids to be average if they want.
Weird

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sneakypeak · 20/10/2008 18:29

ha! you might have something there blu. I AM a SAHM (with nothing better to do!)

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bellavita · 20/10/2008 18:32

I think those are very valid points pagwatch.

I accept my children for what they are and who they are.

sagacious · 20/10/2008 18:32

No because i see all the childrens book bags as im so nosy I help out at school to check up on them there I'm such a worthy person I help out with school reading and am allowed as i have to know what level they're on.

RideEmCowboy · 20/10/2008 18:35

I think this is really really weird. And very unhealthy.

Get a life.

You're showing the classic signs of becoming a seriously pushy parent.

Suedonim · 20/10/2008 18:44

God, I'd never go into another child's school bag - I might catch some nasty disease, they're mucky creatures.

For those who feel the need to pry, if you need to know so badly, why don't you just ask the parents or the teacher how your child is doing?

ForeverOptimistic · 20/10/2008 18:49

Oh yes, I invite a different child over every night just so I check what level they are at.

Seriously, if you do this you need to get a grip. There is so much more to life than the school gates. I hear the sound of whirring overhead.

FlameBitesHeadsOffSparrows · 20/10/2008 19:06

Pigleto - HOW is looking through marking any different to looking at a reading bag!?

scaryfucker · 20/10/2008 19:07

anybody who says they are not interested in how their child is doing in comparison to their peers is a big fat fibber

isn't that how our children are tested/examined etc. ??

they don't exist in a vacuum

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