so do you pry in other kids school bags when they come home for tea?

[sneakypeak]

I always have a look to see what reading book theyre on/ what the standard of their work is compared to my dcs.

am i sneaky / sad or is this just normal human curiosity?

I would never comment to anyone, especially my child.

Gosh I'd forgotten the lunchbox loon.

OP, are you she?

Going through anyones private belongings, regardless of age, is disgusting.

No, she came on earlier in the thread. She is a non peeker.

Here we go again, the second wave of outrage.

I never thought of it. I don't care how good/bad dd's friends are academically; when they come round I'm really only interested in how they get on together and whether they're hungry/thirsty etc.

I would rather spend the minutes it would take reading my own book, thanks.

I wouldn't be bothered atall if anyone went though DS2's bookbag - would be a bit odd if something went missing - he only has reading books, school letters and birthday sweets. in it. Oh, and party invitations. Now what if DS2 came home with a party invitation, on the day he went to someones house, and the other child didn't receive an invitation, and the nosey mum stole the invitation, or got really jealous......... or maybe not.

DS1 has his own school bag, which he likes to keep rubbish favourite things in. I wouldn't be too bothered if another mum looked in it, I'd just be pleased he's actually been invited to someones house for tea.

Actually, the only person ever likely to invite him is a very good friend of mine - I I would expect her to look!

disgusting?

oh dear, the emotion is rising again

I thought we were coming to, if not agreement, some sort of non-hysterical exchange of thoughts

Jux - it only takes 3 seconds.

Hold tight here we go again

nope

lunchbox-peeking?

I never even thought of that!

< plans next undercover mission >

JOKE, PEOPLE !

< hands lynette a spare tin hat >

That's 3 seconds of reading a good book, then.

If it was at the end of the day
The parent would need a mask and big rubber gloves to open DCs lunch boxes

There is quite a leap from a parent looking to see what reading level little Gerturde is on, just to be sure that their own little Hepsibah is on track to saying to Hepsibah "Oh you are clever - you're on level7 and Gerturde is only on level 3" Of COURSE i wouldn't mention it to my child - I may be nosy and insecure but I'm not a complete loon!

I wouldn't consider my own ds's book bag his private kingdom, no. Part of my job as a Mum to check that. But another's child...no, that really wasn't part of my remit. I think it's rude, like sneaking a peak at the post in somebody else's hallway, or reading their book over their shoulder on the bus. None of my business what goes on in other families.

ditto seeker

< racks brains to think of a silly name that no-one on MN has used for their dc, but decides not to risk it >

cory, you mean you have never done those other things ?

you see, I think they are hardly crime of the century too

< waits for new wave of outrage >