Why are things always ruined by uncivilsed people?

[PlasterCaster]

My DH has two weeks off work so started taking DS to a pre-school group last week. He started on the monday and DH said a couple of kids were mean to him, pushing him away from toys and ganging up on him.

On wednesday on the way there two boys ran up behind DS and started saying "woooo!" and putting their hands up like ghosts. DS got all upset and hid behind DH and apparantly DH and the kids mothers just laughed it off although DH was secretely annoyed that they didn't tell their kids off.
Thursday it happened again and DS went into the group crying his eyes out because of the ghost things on the way there so as they were walking home DH asked the women if they could have a word with their kids about scaring DS as its started to put him off the group. They apparantly grinned at each other but agreed

Anyway on Friday they were on their way there and apparantly as the women walked past DH they said "woooo!" in his ear and burst out laughing to each other DH burst out crying and they ended up coming home early and now both are saying they don't want to go anymore.

I'm so annoyed that a group of thugs are spoiling this for them. DH doesn't get much time off work as it is.

I'm debating whether I should take DS tomorow and tell the women to leave DS and DH alone or would this make it worse??? either way I don't want them to stop going, why should they?

No I don't. But I do think it was the drink that killed him. He just couldn't say no.

Do you think hammy was sending a message from beyond the grave?

Well Russell , I can see where you're coming from. I am a traditional girl at heart and like my men big and strong and able to remove spiders from my vicinity. However,I hope if my tool belt wearing, bear wrestling DH ever has a bad day I won't lose my respect for him. However, leaving aside all 'the can a man throw a wobbler and still be a man' debate, I still think the wooing ghost woman sounds like a twat and she should be teaching her offspring how to behave rather than copying them.

i wouldn't disagree with that ellie. But woo-ing woman being a twat and OP's dh being a wet blanket/clinically depressed is a different issue, as far as i can tell.

That picture just made me spit Appletiser all over my laptop, Coco - thanks for that!

over whoever asked if he is Gordon Brown.
I'm properly in pain laughing.

That word was

Sooo let me get this straight... the other boys are playing a lovely imaginative game. They aren't harming anyone, they aren't being unkind or cruel or bullying anyone , using profanity or causing any trouble at all and your child doesnt like it.
You, and your Dh and your child think the world revolves around your child and you wonder why the other boys Mothers don't feel the same.
Instead of telling your son that the boys are playing a lovely game and why doesnt he join in and play ghosties, you Dh panders to his groundless fears and then teaches him that problem solving involves bursting into tears and running off in a paddy vowing never to go back.

And now you wonder why Mumsnet at large don't agree with you??

We have not yet established whether dh was traumatised in a "I see dead people" way, nor has PC given us a credible explanation for the hamster's demise.

I smell a rat.

OTOH, perhaps the dh thought the ghosty noises were from the spectral hamster, back to haunt him in a 'why didn't you save me?' way.

I think hammy's death by wheel is significant here. Have you seen that film 'The Ring?'

I also agree with you Ellie, and loving the way you write btw , but I still feel that there is a vast difference between a sensitive man, and a wet blanket who cries over spilt drinks, dead hamsters, ghost children and job worries in public. And I think the 'in public' is the crux of the matter. That to me shows that if this is for real, the dh needs to see a gp whether he wants to or not.

RIP hammy

Agree with you Russell (and not just because of the compliment althought a few never go amiss and unrewarded). The Op's dh does sound depressed and if the job stuff is real and not troll la la la stuff, it's no wonder. I don't think the OP'S DH deserves to be judged so harshly, given the OP's further explaination .

I think you should contact the police making whoo-hoo ghost noises is outrageous! It is like assault or gbh or whatever it is called these days.

Poor hamster

I have to confess to crying when mine died.

oh i am Not Enjoying this troll, with the grim 'men who get upset are wimps' subtext.

and if it's not a troll, which is admittedly highly unlikely, then god help poor old cynthia cos her dh is in a bad way.

What is with Cynthia?? Who is she? Am confused.....

I am enjoying this thread!
I was almost about to give op a chance........ until the blackcurrent fiasco!

cynthia plastercaster

the name was a give away, unless my mind's in the gutter. again

If it's trolling then I think it's fairly poor.

If it's real then your dh really does need help - and you should try and encourage him to see his GP. Breaking down in public like that would indicate he is really struggling and needs professional help.

I'm confused! What is your DS doing going to a pre-school now? This is the August holidays.
If your DH is such a wuss, then you should go down there and sort those women out.
If they did that to me they would get a right earfull and a smack in the mouth if they hit me.
Yes. your DH is having a hard time, but he needs to toughen up or EVERYONE is going to pick on him and he may start to retreat from the community and become a recluse.
Can't you talk to the play-school leader?
I'm very sorry if your DH is having such a hard time but if this is a wind-up thread it is in bad taste!

You know, if my dh broke down and cried in public like this I wouldn't be calling him a wuss or a wimp or thinking he should toughen up - I would be desperately worried about his mental health. Which is really what makes me think this is trolling - your problem, PlasterCaster, is so clearly not the 'uncivilised' behaviour of small children and their mothers, but the fact that your dh may be having a breakdown.

This can't be real, can it? I have literally laughed until tears were coming down my face.
If it is real then I apologise now but seriously think you should take your husband aside and tell him that bursting into tears because a lady makes a ghost noise near him is bizarre behaviour. Can you not see this is bizarre? He needs help soon before he does something completely erratic and I wouldn't leave him with your child if he's that unhinged. What if someone really has a go at him for (eg) bad driving? If someone really lost the plot on him, as some people do, your husband would go over the edge.
I've probably made a complete twat of myself now as I can't believe a grown man can cry over ghost noises/dead hamsters/spilt ribena!

aye but if it's not real then it's not madly funny either tbh.

I agree with aitch. If it is trolling, and tbh I am 99% certain that it is, then it isn't really funny, especially the talk of the dh suffering from depression etc.

People really struggle with depression, and to them, and their families, it is not a laughing matter.

I don't think bursting into tears in public is funny, if my dh burst into tears over a ghost noise I would tell him to get a grip, seriously. But if this was a culmination of other events then I would also be somewhat concerned that he was on the verge of a breakdown and wouldn't be leaving my child with him until he got some professional help.