Why are things always ruined by uncivilsed people?

[PlasterCaster]

My DH has two weeks off work so started taking DS to a pre-school group last week. He started on the monday and DH said a couple of kids were mean to him, pushing him away from toys and ganging up on him.

On wednesday on the way there two boys ran up behind DS and started saying "woooo!" and putting their hands up like ghosts. DS got all upset and hid behind DH and apparantly DH and the kids mothers just laughed it off although DH was secretely annoyed that they didn't tell their kids off.
Thursday it happened again and DS went into the group crying his eyes out because of the ghost things on the way there so as they were walking home DH asked the women if they could have a word with their kids about scaring DS as its started to put him off the group. They apparantly grinned at each other but agreed

Anyway on Friday they were on their way there and apparantly as the women walked past DH they said "woooo!" in his ear and burst out laughing to each other DH burst out crying and they ended up coming home early and now both are saying they don't want to go anymore.

I'm so annoyed that a group of thugs are spoiling this for them. DH doesn't get much time off work as it is.

I'm debating whether I should take DS tomorow and tell the women to leave DS and DH alone or would this make it worse??? either way I don't want them to stop going, why should they?

No, a bloke should NOT just get over depression. But if he is refusing to go to the gp to get help and if necessary AD's then he has only got himself to blame.

And ghost noises? Really? And a dead hamster? Everyone knows hamsters live no more than 1000 days max, so surely your dh could have seen hammy's sad demise coming???

Whoever said that depressed folk should just get over it?
I still don't think crying in the street about hamsters or ghost noises has any place when you have your child with you.
I know depression well, never once have I cried in the street, I keep myself together for my DD, I teach her the right lessons, I set the best examples I can.
If kids are mean to her I engage her elsewhere if I can, or I accept sometimes she's being a bit sensitive and try and show her the fun side of what's going on.
I certainly don't cry and label the other kids thugs or bullies. That's mean don't you think?

He did not run away, we found him under the wheel.

why the feck is it wimpy for the man to be upset here?? If it was me, at a new play group, and that woman had done to me after I had asked her to stop her child scaring my son, I would have felt intimidated and a bit upset. I maynot have cried (highly dependant on my hormonal state and access to chocolate) but I would not have just laughed it off straight away. Would take a while before I became indignant and angry and started plotting my revenge.

PMSL

Ah but Ellie - at least you would get indignant and plot your revenge!! The OP's dh is acting like a wimp by refusing to go back there. As if he is 5 and the big boys won't play nicely. Instead of the adult, a father who should set an example to his ds.

well I think most people on the thread, including the OP, think it is funny for a man to be crying

she would not have picked this detail to add to her story otherwise

this would be a very different thread if it was about a woman crying at playgroup
people would be asking about PND etc

He's too proud to go to the doctors. You know what men are like when it comes to doctors.

I bought him a new t shirt and he's got blackcurrent all down it but he held it together because his parents were here. I'm sure he tried on friday for DS's sake too.

There is nothing funny about a man crying ordinarily. But it depends what htey are crying about. A daft bint saying 'woowoo' is nothing to cry about. Really. Yes it may be a bit unkind of her, but there are plenty of unkind people in the world. How we deal with these unkind people is what is important.

I detailed about the hamster etc because people were asking me why he was depressed.

Okay, PC, now you are definately trolling!
Blackcurrant down the t-shirt and he only held it together because his parents were there??

Sorry, but I have to roffle.

How old is your dh??

I hope it wasn't a fruit shoot.

This is a wind up.

I'm not trolling. As I said he gets embarrassed easy and was embarrassed when the drink got spilt down his shirt as FIL asked him if he needed a bib for a laugh. He cried afterwards but not whilst they were here.

Your DH held it together after getting blackcurrant on his new T-shirt?
How great of him

And people do not get true depression because a hamster died. That is an insult to those who truly suffer from depression.

This is so trolling. Fucking funny though.

I didn't say he got depression from the hamster! he is about to lose his job fgs.

He cried because FIL cracked a (lame) joke??

Oh my lord, what a man!! So strong and dependable. What a rock!

Sorry, but he needs help. Take him to the gp if you must, but he needs help.

Actually I am feeling quiet indignant on your/your DH's behalf. Would you like me to plot your revenge for you? So many of us spend our time on here whinging that our other half is emotionally challenged - then the first example of someone willing and able to show his vunerability and we go for the jugular.

Okay, but you did not mention about the job!! We are not mindreaders fgs.

PlasterCaster, I'm afraid you must shoulder the blame here.

His hamster dies in mysterious circumstances.
You forced him to do the school run.
You nearly drowned him in a Ribena attack.

His nerves must be shot.

What really happened to Hammy?

Ellie, there is showing a sensitive side, and there is being a wet blanket.

My dh is very sensitive, but luckily for me can still function in the normal world.

Anyhoo, am going to stop feeding the troll, but will put this on watch as it is too strange to be for real.

what if this is for real, the man has depresion and this silly thing has pushed him to his limit.
be nice people just in case.

Roffle Fabio!