Why do single mothers always make fathers day about them?

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Why do single mothers always make fathers day about them??

You don't see single fathers jumping up and down shouting "happy mothers day to all the single fathers fulfilling both roles"

Let me guess. The solo dads you know are amazing and the solo mums you know are all lazy scroungers. 🥱

Because, whilst it does happen, it's pretty rare for a woman to walk away from her children and leave their dad to do everything after a split?

Or because people still look down on men being seen as being associated with anything traditionally feminine? (The same reason that no one would bat an eye if my daughter played football or wore a Spider-Man T-shirt but it's often seen as inappropriate for little boys to play with dolls or experiment with painting their nails). Mother's Day is inherently 'girly' so it's embarrassing for a big strong man to claim to be filling the role of the 'weaker' sex by celebrating himself on that day.

Can't imagine there would be much jumping going on.

They don't always. In fact I don't know a single one that does.

Op - you should go on online dating posing as a women where you will find umpteen sperm donors claiming to be single fathers, when what they actually mean is they take them to the park once a fortnight. What do you think of them?

Do you genuinely think the single dads you know know all about their dc and do everything for them? School forms, what they need to take, lunches and snacks, new clothes, dentist, sports and clubs, all the uniforms and sign up and parent volunteer roles, cooking healthy meals and washing their sheets, play dates…

Something is being wound up all right

As someone who didn't get to be a father I think they're scum, they should make more of an effort to be part of their kids lives (assuming she isn't stopping them doing so).

I think they can do as a good a job of it as any single mother yes.

Because there's hardly any.

Actually, my children’s first Father’s Day after DH died, I didn’t realise that it was the Father’s Day gift stall at school, as presumably the kids had forgotten omitted to give me the letter about it, and they both got so teary and upset and obviously didn’t have money for it, that the teacher let them each choose a gift for me (they don’t have grandfathers or uncles) and then called me at work to pick them up from school as they were too upset to carry on with the day. It gave them some solace to be able to present me with a little gift, and we spent some time together talking about dad. I still wouldn’t make Father’s Day about me! Fortunately my older kids school don’t do Father’s Day stalls any more, just breakfast bbqs, and my kids just don’t bother going early to attend them.

Single mums on benefits! Meh, tells us all how much of a twat you are mate! And no I’m not a “single mum on benefits”
ps, the answer is…..you’re a massive twat

They can but do they?

Social media will show you content based on what you look/interact with so you might see more posts and think it is more common than it actually is.

Even if it is common, I don’t see the issue either way, it is tough parenting alone.

Why shouldn't they? They doing both jobs

I think so, yes. There'll be some bad ones just as there are bad single mothers.

I was going to criticise this as really low effort but he's replied a few times so I suppose it's a bit better than expected. Responses are all very minimal though. It's definitely still in the lower tiers.

Because it's lame as Hell, and just screams "look at me I'm a single mother aren't I great!" - as I said you never see single dads doing that.

I’ll ask again, why do you care? What impact does this have on your life?

It's not something I've ever noticed happening, but I think all lone parents should feel free to enjoy both Mother's and Father's Day. Although, I imagine without a partner to remind/help the kids to do something to mark the day, many of them won't get much appreciation anyway!

Single parents are tired, and need a break; I can’t imagine there’s a single single parent who wouldn’t take a break if there was a decent coparent about to give them one. If the single parent is withholding contact, I imagine there’s a good reason for it.

Do you understand that’s obviously because there’s far less of them?!?

Oh mate .... wait until you see all the men kicking off on IWD saying when do men get one 😂😂 Your post pales in comparison to that

I was a single mum on benefits and still worked 40 hours a week.
I have a son whose dad wasn’t hugely involved with him.
On Father’s Day I’d still get him a card from our son, a gesture that wouldn’t have been returned even if we’d have been together.
I didn’t feel the need to announce to the world I did everything alone, right up to teaching my son how to pee standing up. But I do get why some women do. It’s shit when you’re doing every night feed, nappy, every single thing you buy for your child is from your money, every meal they eat you make them, every bath time, story before bed, you buy every uniform, every pair of shoes, you make every occasion for them special, you attend parents evening alone, do school drop offs and pick ups every day. Never get a lie in. You’re solely responsible for a life of a child you didn’t create solo. So yeah, I may not have done it but I’m starting to think I should have. It wasn’t easy.

Firstly, this is not a thing I see anywhere.

Secondly, single fathers who are genuinely fulfilling both roles wouldn't need to shout for recognition. Everyone would be bringing them lasagne and telling them how great they are. Lone mothers and the work they do are largely invisible.