Why do single mothers always make fathers day about them?

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Why do single mothers always make fathers day about them??

You don't see single fathers jumping up and down shouting "happy mothers day to all the single fathers fulfilling both roles"

I’ve never done this either, despite being the recipient of a Father’s Day card for “the person who does all the Dad things in your house”. A a widowed mum I could happily have lived without that one, felt more like a cop-out to enable class craft activities than sensitivity.

I think most of us could hazard a guess it involves a "crazy" ex blah blah blah.

Are you ok OP?

Wtf

Mate, seriously, get a fucking life.

🤣🤣🤣🤣 deary me ahahaa

I agree with you, im a single mum and I cringe when I see single mums making out Father’s Day is out them, even if there kids make a card at school they say get them to make it to the mum no sorry thats just cringe, my kids dad isnt involved but I’d never celebrate Father’s Day for myself and I’d never want a Father’s Day card either

Yeah, I get that. But they couldn’t have made me sit out and not do the activity while all the other kids made a card so I see this was a sensible way round it.

LOL, I don't have a crazy-ex - I met my wife at 19 she's the only relationship I've had, I just see loads of SAHMs do this every year and it winds me up, I've not once seen a man do the same, granted the ration to single mothers I know to single fathers I know strongly favours single mothers but still.

C’mon then show us even 1 example of this 🙄

What nonsense. I'm a lone parent and I do nothing for fathers day but my son does get his grandfathers a token as they're the main men in his life.

He has a dad (albeit a shit one) so why would I need to be absorbing that role.

I also find your comments about women who have made a 'career' out of being a lone parent fascinating. Do you not think it's difficult for women (who are much more likely to be in lesser paid or temporary roles which often involve shift work) to source childcare when childminders and nurseries are closed?

As a lone parent I can tell you that often times a single dad is praised to high heaven for doing the bare minimum. People will fall over themselves to offer support to that poor man doing it on his own. Single mothers do not get that response at best are expected to suck it up and at worst judged and blamed for 'picking a bad one'. To the point it puts many women out of work.

Why are you thinking that SAHMs are single or single mums are SAHMs?

Surely, if anything, a single mum is less likely than a married one to stay at home.

Single Mum here (but not a single parent). I’ve never made the day about me nor have I witnessed it anywhere else?

I know them, and they're single mothers.

Do you know all the single mothers in the world?

it's fathers day in a couple of weeks I'll post screenies!

🤣🤣🤣 my husband’s been dead for a decade since my kids were 5 and 7 and I’ve never done this. TBH Mother’s Day has never really been about me either 🤣

I also know no single mums at home - they’re out trying to bring two wages in on their own.

I’m a single mother who’s never heard of this, so thank you for the heads up, you’re right, we do deserve the praise for both roles. I’m happy for both the dads who do both roles to share Mother’s Day.

Nope, never seen this.

But why do you care anyway?

Just stay off tiktok. It does no one any good.

I’m a single mum (widowed), and I’ve never made Father’s Day about me. That would be horrifically insensitive of me to do that to my children, who are still fairly recently bereaved and desperately missing my late husband, their actual father (as am I).

I have however had a couple of thoughtless-but-well-meaning friends, on social media wish me a Happy Father’s Day to the Best Mum we know type of thing, which as I said, is well meaning, but makes me feel sad and cringy. Fortunately my kids don’t see it.

My children have given me little gifts on Father’s Day, which I thank them for, then we talk about dad and move on.

I’ve never seen any other single mums make Father’s Day all about them either. Although I do have one friend who makes a point of putting a message on social media to his mum every year thanking her for being both mum and dad to him, which I suppose is quite sweet seeing as he’s in his 30s and it always seems to be off his own back.

Meh, I don’t really think it’s a big thing. Certainly not in an “all single mums do it” way. 🤷‍♀️

I have never, in all my years on this earth (of which there are many) and in all my wasted hours scrolling shite on the interweb, ever heard of this being a thing. If it is, just change the online stuff you interact with and everything that winds you up will magically disappear. And be replaced with cats landing on people’s heads and folk falling on their arses. ‘Tis excellent.

I know several single mums who are parenting without any input or contribution at all from the child’s father. I don’t know and have never met any men parenting completely solo (I do know they exist- often when the mum has died, but they are rare).

But anyone who is a truly lone parent, ie doing it all themselves is more than welcome to make both Mothers and Father Day about them if they want to as far as I’m concerned.

I've seen many people do this on social media and yes it is silly. But most of social media seems to be attention seeking.

It's like those pictures people post that include 'thinking of women who don't want to be mums' on mother's day