Moving 8 week old to own room or keep beside me?

[SpookyTeacup]

I'm torn. DD is 8 weeks old and sleeping through the night. I've been contemplating moving her into her own room as I feel like I'm disturbing her. Shes in a next to me bed with the sides up, but migrates towards me during the night which results in her smushing her face up the fabric side and I'm awake all night terrified she's gonna suffocate herself. No matter how many times I move her back to the middle, or the opposite end, or put her at an angle, she manages to find her way back. She sleeps through the night and is able to self soothe back to sleep if she does briefly wake up. No crying, just some leg kicking and a few grunts.

She slept in her own room last night (with her grandma) and stayed in the middle all night and happily slept through. I'm wondering if I'm interrupting her sleep and if she'll be better in her own cot, but then the guidelines worry me thinking I'm going to kill her if I put her in there under 6 months.

Either way I feel like a bad mum.

Please don’t see a monitor as a replacement. You disturbing the baby at night is exactly what helps prevent SIDS.

Absolutely no way.

Blimey sleeping through the night at 8 weeks?! Mine were two hourly feeds at that age.

Safe sleeping practice is for your baby to be with you to regulate their breathing.

Absolutely not https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/baby-safety/safer-sleep-information/room-sharing/

in The same way the baby can breathe when breastfeeding, they will be fine smooshed up against the firm sides of their cot. Their wee noses go flat and so long as there isn’t an excess of material for them to inhale into their nostrils they should be absolutely grand. I’d not risk putting them into their room so young.

It’s interesting that posters pick and choose which guidelines they want to follow. I see time and time again on Mumsnet, posters advocating having your baby in bed with you. I actually know someone who smothered their baby in her bed.

My grandma smoked, and she's about to turn 91.

I moved mine at 8 weeks, 6 weeks & 6 weeks when they started sleeping through the night. The risk of SIDS is low, especially in an empty cot with no other risk factors.

I was happy with my risk assessment.

No, they’re not. Especially not if they’re breastfed.

As she is sleeping through i would move her.

Why don’t you have her in the bed with you? I’m still snuggling with my 2 year old. They are so little for a short time.

Safest place for baby to sleep is in her own cot in your room until at least 6 months old. Check out the Lullaby Trust for factual info.

She’s worried the baby will suffocate in the next to me, so why would she put her in bed with her where she’s significantly more likely to suffocate? The advice you’ve given wouldn’t help OPs problems

If you want to move her to a big cot you could put a single mattress in her room and take turns sleeping in there with her

My midwife/health visitor rolled up a cable blanket that we had into a U shape and told us to put it round DS to stop him from rolling over towards the side of the next to me when he was a newborn and to keep him on his back. Eventually he got too big for that to stop him, and he would always roll towards the side of the bed but he was fine. We had a Chicco next to me as well. Didn't move him too his own room until he was about 8 months

That sounds like more of a safety risk than just leaving the baby to move in a safe crib. There should't be any extra blankets, wedges or positioners in the cot.

OP absolutely do not do this. The cot should be completely clear. Having a blanket there is a massive suffocation risk.