DD(7) asked what orgasm meant after playground chat

[Narwhalburg]

Not quite sure if I handled this right, or if I need to do anything.

Whilst having dinner tonight my oldest DD(7) asked what an orgasm was. I almost spat out my food. She actually said 'a norgasm' like she was talking about an animal of some kind!

I asked where she had heard that word, and she said that some boys had been talking about them in the playground. She asked again what it was, and I said that it was a nice feeling that mummies and daddies have when they make a baby. This did the trick in terms of allowing me to change the subject but I wonder if that was a correct age appropriate response. I also wonder whether those boys should be talking about it in the playground! Should I raise it with someone?! I don't like the idea of that kind of stuff being playground chat. But on the other hand it would be awkward to raise and perhaps a bit busybody-ish.
DD didn't mention it again so hopefully she will forget about it (and isn't too disappointed that she won't be seeing any norgasms at the zoo!).

I think you should read Freud and that will explain psycho- sexual development

Freud has been thoroughly discredited. Please try again.

I'm sorry I don't believe this is how most people raise children

Because they already do it.

Look, they all do it. Little girls. In private.
You're very badly informed.

I was. My best friend was, because I asked her.
My two daughters were.
It's normal.

No, and you attitude is likely damaging to natural development between different people. And making it as taboo as you suggest allows "grooming chat" to happen easier if anything, with zero experience or understanding, and only fear attached to bringing it up - so they wouldn’t want to bring it up.

She is in a playground with 10 year olds, and some will potentially very close to 11. Overhearing a single word isn't some terrible thing, her knowing it isn't the end of the world, and people need to be more sensible and not extreme.

Be cautious sure, and keep things in mind and in context to make sure nothing is happening. But this is an absolute nothing situation in isolation.

Is it possible it was older boys she had over heard? My Dd is year 6 (primary 7 in Scotland) and as part of their curriculum they learn quite a bit of detail - we got a list of words they would be taught. Can’t remember of it specifically had orgasm on the list but there was definitely words like, erection, ejaculation, masturbation, wet dream etc

Maybe that has something to do with the staggeringly high statistics of children being sexually abused. Because parents are shutting them down and shaming them instead of listening to them and talking to them.

I made that mistake many years ago. Explained it to my 10/11 year old daughter. When I ended the monologue, she asked "so, is that the same in plants?" 😆

Oh thank goodness! I was beginning to wonder if I and everyone I know are freaks. (I would have googled, but I was too afraid of a SWAT team of morality police crashing through the ceiling.)

I am sure it is normal for many but not all. I never did but my feelings were never mechanical. It all starts in the mind for me, a fantasy.

That is hilarious.

I remember when I was at school a girl explaining orgasm, except the word, 'climax', was used.

She said it was like when you feel a sneeze coming on. it builds up and then you sneeze and feel better, the same with a yawn.

That makes sense to me.

When I was 13 I gave a presentation to my entire biology class and managed to transpose the word organism for orgasm about 10 x I didn’t notice til the entire class pissed themselves laughing at me

What about it?

Or do you mean "what about their ignorance"?

@Narwhalburg I think your answer was inspired.

My daughter aged 4 asked me "what's an erection mummy?" We were in the car coming back from nursery. I said rather dismissively "oh that's just something that men do".
And she said "is it when a mummy and a daddy are in bed with no clothes on?"

I nearly crashed the car!

And yes I did bring it up with the nursery the following day.

In my experience it isn't normal for children to do this past toddler age. It could be that instead of just telling them not to which is what might suppress the behavior parents are saying to do it in private and another poster upthread implied she and said to have clean hands. And so maybe causing the behaviour to continue past toddler age. Children don't have the same hormones as adults yes I think they should be innocent what is necessary about telling them about orgasms it's inappropriate

Children don't have the same hormones as adults
They don't masturbate in a sexual way. It's just an activity which causes pleasure.

..........yes I think they should be innocent
Wrong. Children need information in order to keep them safe from predators.

.........what is necessary about telling them about orgasms; it's inappropriate
Well, in this case, the OP's child asked her, so she answered.
It's not inappropriate to give children information.

Masturbation and Children: What’s Normal, and How to Talk About It - Brook THIS LINK explains it for you.

I can remember my doctor OH telling me that an orgasm was physiologically identical to a sneeze. It took the shine off things a bit and altered my perception of people building up to a sneeze!

Absolutely.

There's no reason to suppress the behaviour. They aren't doing anything wrong. Everything you are saying is in contradiction to best practice on protecting children from harm.

😂😂😂

I used to say erotic instead of exotic when I was a child. 😳