DD(7) asked what orgasm meant after playground chat

[Narwhalburg]

Not quite sure if I handled this right, or if I need to do anything.

Whilst having dinner tonight my oldest DD(7) asked what an orgasm was. I almost spat out my food. She actually said 'a norgasm' like she was talking about an animal of some kind!

I asked where she had heard that word, and she said that some boys had been talking about them in the playground. She asked again what it was, and I said that it was a nice feeling that mummies and daddies have when they make a baby. This did the trick in terms of allowing me to change the subject but I wonder if that was a correct age appropriate response. I also wonder whether those boys should be talking about it in the playground! Should I raise it with someone?! I don't like the idea of that kind of stuff being playground chat. But on the other hand it would be awkward to raise and perhaps a bit busybody-ish.
DD didn't mention it again so hopefully she will forget about it (and isn't too disappointed that she won't be seeing any norgasms at the zoo!).

I'd missed the innocence comment. That poster is either a fucked up person or just looking for a rise for whatever reason. There's no talking to stupid

To be fair, if you can explain these in a factual nonchalant way i'd say I think it's better than feigning ignorance. If you don't answer the question, they might google it and what they find in response would be a lot more inappropriate.
My kids used to ask questions like this and often followed by "but why would anyone want to do that?" to which i would say that adults feel differently about these things than children do, and you won't have to do it if you don't want to.

Once again this forum descends into personal attacks over a difference of opinion. I can only imagine the bitterness these people must carry in their day to day lives to login online and viciously attack people

How about you get an education?

I think it's clear that all the other mums on here don't agree, and are quite shocked at your shut it down and don't speak about it views. You should have a think if your way of thinking is right, i doubt many would agree.
No one is suggesting sexualising children in any way, they are saying they give factual answers to questions.

There's huge consequences to shutting down children's ability to talk to you, main one being if they are being sexualy abused, they certainly can't go to you because you are horrified at the thought of talking about a 'rude word'. You need to carefully consider the language you use with your children, especially girls.

You're advocating behaviours which could well cause life long damage to a person's wellbeing and victim blaming children for "losing their innocence", whatever the hell you think that means

I just completely disagree with your stance. I don't care if a lot of other women don't agree with me it doesn't make them right and me wrong

No there's no excuse for it.

I also assumed she meant organism! Your answer was perfect though.

Reminds me of when I was paper macheing in class at around the same age. Page 3 was still a thing and the boys at my table were talking about the ladies with the big boobies and how sexy they were. Obviosuly I asked what 'sexy' meant and it was then I learned the facts of life 😅

If it is simply a difference of opinion then why are you writing people are encouraging children to mastrubate, calling people crazy etc, no one said anything of the sort.
It's you who is throwing nastiness around. If you don't agree with everyone else that's fine but don't say it's just different views when you are saying quite horrible things to people about their opinion.

I was a child "robbed of my innocence" by parents who gave short, factual answers to all questions. It didn't do me any harm other than making me into a massive know-it-all with my peers.
I recently reconnected with a primary school friend on Facebook, who reminded me that on one memorable day I told him where babies come from and that Santa isn't real. Poor kid!

What about their safety. Information is power against abuse or exploitation.

Handled really well, great definition!

….but I think it would be wise to tell the teacher - either it was orgasm and the teacher needs to be aware or it was organism (perfectly possible amongst any cohort raised on octonauts) and you need to explain your confusion in case your daughter starts talking about orgasms 😀

Nothing I've said has anything to do with safety. You can teach them not to let anyone touch them I don't have a problem with that

I can't believe you are sticking up for someone calling me a fucking idiot you are just encouraging bullying on the forum and there is a real problem with it

I think you handled it well,op.
In my household it's gone full circle and I now have to ask my young adult dc's about what some things mean 😬

So you can have open conversations about protecting themselves and body parts but 'rude' language should be 'suppressed' and they should be told to 'just stop it'.l, yeah good luck with that one.

Same here. Then move the conversation on.

Heavens ...
Don't tell her that she shouldn't be using that word. It will.make her even.more interested in it. Forbidden territory holds great fascination.
OP dealt with it perfectly ... well done.

hahaha 😂😂😂

Why is it meant to be suppressed? Why are you deliberately bringing children up to be ashamed of their own sexuality and afraid to talk to you about it?