Let’s shout out from the rooftop how bloody AMAZING it is to have sons!! Who cares that we don’t have a daughter? Not me!!!

[LondonLady1980]

Come on everyone!

It’s time we counteracted all these horrible and depressing threads lately about how disappointed women are that they are having “another boy”.

We’ve all seen them and the usual stereotypical worries that women have…. How abandoned they’ll be, how they’ll never see their son once they’ve grown up, how they’ll never see their grandchildren, how they’ll never have that assumed mother and daughter loving bond etc etc.

And don’t forget the sheer disappointment about never being allowed to dress their baby in a pink dress and put a bow in its hair…..

So let’s celebrate our wonderful boys!!!

I have two, they are 8 and 12 and they are the most wonderful and loving sons I could wish for. I absolutely adore them and I genuinely couldn’t give a crap that I never had a daughter!!

I love them endlessly and they were never ever viewed as a potential disappointment and they never will be ❤️

I have one of each. My son is nearly 3 and he’s wonderful. He’s a Mummy’s boy and is so affectionate and loving. He is gentle with his little sister and never shows any jealousy. He is always singing. He has a great sense of humour and his laugh is my favourite sound in the whole world. He has additional needs (likely on the spectrum) and a language delay but he tries his absolute best every day and nursery are always talking about how much progress he’s making. I’m so proud of him and I love him so much. Of course I love my daughter equally and I’m sure she will be equally as wonderful, but she’s only 7 weeks old so I don’t know much about her personality yet. I’ve never understood gender disappointment. I’m just grateful that I’m lucky enough to have children. I would have been just as happy with a second little boy.

Just look for anything about gender disappointmebt. 99% about a boy cos "bond", "wives", "grandkids".

What those posts tell me if they had a baby with a guy who's a crap son and therefore they know that the expectations their sons will grow up with.

Thankfully my husband is an excellent son and my kdis better follow his example. Currently the 6 to is never leaving home and his twin goes where he goes so I've two of them for life. They intend to move their wives in too.

Sorry but you sound really bitter

Just go and enjoy your family

Yes but you have both so you've achieved the gold standard by some people's perspectives and you've at least managed to have a, daughter so achieved the basic expectation too 🙄🙄

3 boys

Never felt the need to say they were enough!

Ah I've put all three of mine into dresses and plaited their hair. Life goals 😂

Woah - your experience of boys is so different to mine.
My boys are empathetic, engaging, entertaining, considerate, helpful, loving. All grown up now and still just the same to me and their siblings. They are the most tight knit group even though there are many miles separating some of them.
Some of them have girlfriends/wives and without exception I've loved having them round too and welcomed them as additions to our family even though some of them have been temporary.
I couldn't be prouder of my boys and how they have turned out.

Some of them even wore dresses occasionally and one of them liked having his hair put in bunches 😁

I personally find little boys very dull. They offload information onto you about their special interests rather than have a conversation the way girls do. I also find them quite entitled, they are men in training after all.

This is ‘tongue in cheek, right?’ And not possibly true…about every single little boy…😵‍💫

Ewww this thread is awful

I have a daughter I love her so much
if I was to have another daughter I’d be happy
if I was to have a son I’d be happy

that’s all cleared up let’s move on and stop posting this absolute nonsense bullshit

Well done for proving the point of this thread 👏

@LondonLady1980 oh and you’ve not signposted to one of these made up threads because there isn’t any “ frequently” it’s all lies.

I have a son (and a daughter) and I think he’s the best thing since sliced bread but I also see what @Cornflakes44 means.

If you have a son and he’s wonderful and kind and loving, then you’re losing out on nothing. But there seem to be far more boys than girls who are aggressive, lazy, selfish or just downright odd.

I was at a kids farm day out thing today and all the bad behaviour was from boys of varying ages. Firstly a teenager who shouted across me to the lady on the desk as we paid to get in, because he thought he shouldn’t have to wait 15 seconds and queues don’t exist. Secondly, 2 teenage boys age around 12 and 15 who for reasons best known to themselves wanted to go on the soft play, bouncy castle and all the ‘under 10’ stuff. Barging toddlers out the way as they did so. And finally, another boy of about 6 who seemed to want to follow my toddler son around and push in front of him when he tried to go on something. Plus lots of teenage or even 20 something men in attendance with their mums who were buying them ice cream, listening to their complaining and generally treating them like they were still 8.

The vast majority of adult children living in their parents box room, gaming with the curtains drawn and threatening self harm if they’re not waited on hand and foot are male.

It’s like they just don’t socially mould to others in the way girls do. Think of men in public - shouting, hands down their pants, wearing stained tracksuit bottoms and generally being weird. Women just don’t do that because they have social awareness and consideration.

Like I said if your son does none of that, then it doesn’t matter. But it feels like a lot of them are just downright strange.

Thanks for posting this op! I have two boys and the amount of people who have said to me

“Will you try for a girl now?”
”I wouldn’t want two boys pulls face“

Tiring but fortunately it has reduced now the baby years are over

That said Cornflakes did post about problems with her daughter being hyperactive, kicking off at school etc, so maybe not in a place to throw stones from a glass house about little boys 😬

Did they used to fight and squabble when younger? I need someone to tell me it ends and they still love each other. My 3 drive me bonkers with the squabbling but if I offer to separate them for trips etc they're hysterical cos they love each other!! Gah. I'm one of all sisters so I know girls get over it eventually.

They're certainly not dull tho and they're incredibly loving and kind and gentle when they need to be

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My girl and boy fight 24/7, I mean to a ridiculous degree. Occasionally they play really nicely and they’re so sweet it melts me! But the fighting this half term has driven me absolutely demented

“I accepted the babies I had and did find myself getting asked a few times ‘oh, are you going to try for a girl’. Like that’s an actual thing???? 🤣🤣”

What I find ironic about your post and others similar to it is that you don’t seem to realise that as I had 2 daughters (entirely out of my control) and I also got asked if I was going to try again for a boy - people stay stupid stuff all the time.

I find these types of gender-divisive threads tiresome and cringey.

Everyone should be happy for the privilege of having a healthy child.

“when further apart they seemed to have no thoughts about the friendships at all, unlke girls' complex and conflicty social lives.”

This is quite a big (and slightly rude) assumption to make about the nature of girl child friendships. Especially when you do not in fact actually have a daughter.

These types of comments are wearing.

Edited as was responding to @MyThreeWords in the quote.

God these threads are tiresome - EXACTLY the same things happen to mothers of girls. I have 2 girls - the amount of people who have said how “sorry they feel” for DH not having a son, and we should try once more for a boy is laughable.

I know what you mean OP, it’s like it’s acceptable to say disparaging things about boys but saying similarly stereotypical things about girls (e.g. catty, friendship drama, princessy demands and tantrums, really vile during the teenage years) is somehow not ok. I’m just giving examples of things I’ve heard said about girls btw, I certainly don’t agree with those comments . But I have noticed negative things being said about boys much more freely.

And add to that “girls are harder, terrible teenagers etc….”

I've seen plenty such threads over the years on MN so OP doesn't need to link.

They always go the same way. The OP will say she's gutted/bereft to not have a daughter and there will be a pile on of "boy mums" saying how wonderful their sons are - climbing trees, getting muddy and being loving - and they wouldn't know "what to do with a girl." Really? They were a girl for 18 years!

Then someone who has sons and daughters will jump in to say their son is so uncomplicated but their daughter is a drama queen with a bunch of bitchy friends.

And on it goes ...

Well my 4 boys are wonderful. Honestly couldn't love them any more or want them to be any closer. Only one is young enough to still live with me. The other 3 visit regularly, phone about weekly. I adore the 2 almost Dil's - weddings soon, and they are such a big part of our rowdy, loud happy family. One has been for a decade, as my oldest is 31yo. So it's worked out great for me. I have never been a girly girl so maybe that's why? Future DIL has organised for me to get my hair and make-up done with her mum and step-mum ( parents of daughters divorce too), and we will have a lovely time together with the bridesmaids. That's as girly as I get.
Totally agree with the shit clothes for young boys. Much better when they can fit a mens small. Suddenly there is colour. If I ever see a tee-shirt that would fit my youngest that isn't black grey navy or camo I grab it. Huge gap in the market there from about 2 yo to 16yo.
Baby boys are so snuggly and as they age turn into fabulous huggers , also super protective of their mums. Add in the lovely DIL's and you have the best of both worlds.
Also agree everyone should be happy with a healthy baby.