Let’s shout out from the rooftop how bloody AMAZING it is to have sons!! Who cares that we don’t have a daughter? Not me!!!

[LondonLady1980]

Come on everyone!

It’s time we counteracted all these horrible and depressing threads lately about how disappointed women are that they are having “another boy”.

We’ve all seen them and the usual stereotypical worries that women have…. How abandoned they’ll be, how they’ll never see their son once they’ve grown up, how they’ll never see their grandchildren, how they’ll never have that assumed mother and daughter loving bond etc etc.

And don’t forget the sheer disappointment about never being allowed to dress their baby in a pink dress and put a bow in its hair…..

So let’s celebrate our wonderful boys!!!

I have two, they are 8 and 12 and they are the most wonderful and loving sons I could wish for. I absolutely adore them and I genuinely couldn’t give a crap that I never had a daughter!!

I love them endlessly and they were never ever viewed as a potential disappointment and they never will be ❤️

I know just as many people who were keen to have boys rather than girls. In the end you just have to love what you get, neither are better or really all that much different in the end.

I have 3 sons, no daughters.

They're brilliant. I wouldn't swap them for anything.

I hope they grow into decent men and still want to hang out with me now and again when they're grown and settled. I'm confident they will.

I have two sons and two daughters.

One of each is an adult with the other two not far behind.

It’s interesting you lead with the unreasonable complaints around abandonment, not seeing GC and then claim you’ll have no issue if your DiL dislikes you, but have no way of actually refuting the argument since your DSs are primary aged.

But why are DILs given the reputation of hating their MIL?

Where does that come from?

I loved my MIL. She has passed away now and I miss her very much.

Why are daughter-in-laws stereotyped to hate their in-laws (especially the MIL) but son-in-laws aren’t?

What is the link?

Are the parents of boys inherently unlikeable?

Why would I even consider one of my son’s potential girlfriends (if they have one) would hate me or stop me seeing any potential grandchildren for no other reason than because I’m the mother of my son? It doesn’t make sense.

Who are you really trying to convince!!!!

Jesus what a stereotypical load of shite. I have two boys and they are neither dull nor entitled - but then I’ve modelled conversation and kindness to others as a parent, as has my dh, so why would they. The only people I avoid are smug mothers of girls with tedious opinions 🙄.

That's what I thought 🤣

It’s fine to start a thread about how nice it is to have boys.

but why slag girls off at the same time?!?

if you don’t like to read the threads from mums to be who wanted a girl for whatever reason, don’t read them.

I suppose it’s worth bearing in mind that people explore thoughts and feelings in the anonymity of the internet that they wouldn’t necessarily voice in real life.

I imagine that’s because most of them are written by women. If it’s a site full of men, I’m sure it would be in the other direction.

we had 4 girls and all we’d ever hear when I was pregnant was oh are you going to keep going til you get a boy, or your poor husband, or he’ll need a man cave to get away from you all 😴 If they’d been all boys I’m sure the jibes would’ve been directed at me instead.

Myself, obviously 🙄

I’m sitting here now, looking at my boys and crying inside. Life would have been so much better and fulfilling for me if I’d had babies that didn't have a penis. Their genitalia has completely ruined the future I had envisioned in terms of what it means to be a mother. I truly mourn for the fact that neither of them have ever let me put them in a dress or plait their hair. I genuinely cant explain how much disappointment their sex has bought to my life and how them being boys has ruined my experience of what it means to be a parent.

I’m actually considering leaving DH to find another man to have a baby with (DH has had a vasectomy) so I can keep trying for a daughter. Fingers crossed I will get one and then I’m set for life….. perfect daughter, lots of bows and frills, pink dresses, countless shopping trips and “girly days out”, unlimited access to future grandchildren and a loving relationship until the day I die 🙄

Where have I slagged girls off?

My 3rd post in says that girls are as equally wonderful as boys? 🤷‍♀️

Do you think it’s ok for people to have a preference over sex of their child? Like if someone said they only wanted sons, would you find that as ridiculous?

And I absolutely agree with that and I understand that.

But it’s never women voicing their feelings about being disappointed they’re having a daughter is it? It always about feeling disappointed because they’re having a boy.

You get what you’re given so no point in hoping for either. Had two boys who were wonderful growing up. Lost twin girls in late pregnancy whom I’m sure would have been equally as wonderful growing up.

i never felt any desire for any particular gender.

but would confirm from my experience that boys are wonderful.

I had an older brother and always felt growing up he was the golden boy and I was somewhat lesser.

First two words nailed it.

I’ve witnessed what a lovely relationship my DH has with his Mum.

We see threads where women use words like being heartbroken, saying they’re grieving, mourning and distraught, and describe themselves as having been crying for days/weeks and being unable to bond with their future baby because it’s a boy and not a girl.

That’s not just a ‘preference’ and it’s disappointment to that magnitude/extent that is being discussed.

I’ve seen one thread in the past where a woman was actually considering terminating because she didn’t want “another boy” with the aim she’d then start trying again to hopefully get a daughter the next time.

And to answer the second part of your question: I think it’s because the reason some women feel such disappointment towards having sons is because it comes with such disdain and unpleasant stereotypes, that it’s just generally just not nice to listen to. If a woman told me she only wanted sons and went on to list her reasons as being based on unpleasant stereotypes of girls then yes, I would find that just as ridiculous (and nasty).

Boys are lovely and girls are lovely and both are a blessing to have. Yet for some reason boys are seen (by some) as a disappointment from even before they’re born and it’s just not nice.

What a stupid thread.

Mum to 4 daughters and have never, ever thought they are better than boys or vice versa.

Well if only all women felt the same as you there wouldn’t be the need for stupid threads like these.

Unfortunately not all women feel the same as you.

I've got 5 boys. Everyone I meet in real life seems to think I'm desperately trying to have a girl and that I will keep having babies until I have a girl. It's very annoying.

Literally in your title that you don’t care that you’ve never had a daughter. Then you slate mothers saying the same thing about boys. Make it make sense.

Why on earth would you read those threads if it upsets you so?

Arr, that’s lovely that you have so many.

What’s the age range and do they look alike? Are they alike in character?

A woman I used to work with had 6 boys and she bought them into work once and they were adorable! They were aged from about 3 up to 15 and when they were all stood next to each other they looked like a gorgeous set of Russian Dolls 🤣

They obviously all had their individual physical traits but in lots of ways they all looked so similar too - it was just adorable ❤️ (I was very jealous) 🤣

I have a son and a daughter. Both awesome!