Am I being unreasonable to question why preschool hasn't informed me that a male preschool worker is helping my daughter with toileting?

[GaqiNa]

This is a very sensitive topic.
My daughter is attending preschool and yesterday I found out a male worker has been helping her with toileting.
I had no idea there was a male worker looking after my child in the first place as he's not listed in the email the preschool has sent to me. I thought there were only female workers looking after my daughter and now out of the blue I find out there's a male in the room.
He's not listed on there website, I can't find any information about this man anywhere. I have seen him randomly when I pick up and drop off my child but I never thought he's looking after my daughter as he's not even listed as part of the team.
I feel I've been deceived by the pre-school not letting me know who's actually looking after my child.
Am I being unreasonable?

An Australian study:

Almost 1 in 10 Australian men have committed a sexual offence against children: study

Excerpt:
The study found:

• around one in six (15.1 per cent) Australian men reports sexual feelings towards children

• around one in 10 (9.4 per cent) Australian men has sexually offended against children (including technologically facilitated and offline abuse), with approximately half (4.9 per cent) of this group reporting sexual feelings towards children

www.unsw.edu.au/newsroom/news/2023/11/almost-1-in-10-australian-men-have-committed-a-sexual-offence-ag

If your car broke down in the middle of nowhere, would you feel safer if a woman stopped to offer you a lift, or a man?

If you're getting on a train alone late at night and one carriage has a couple of men in it, and the other carriage a couple of women, which one are you getting on?

Either - ideally whichever can sort my car would be better.

I did actually get a lift when my clutch died on a country road. His name was John.

Whichever is closer to where I got on the train. I wouldn’t leave the carriage because of a couple of men.

I also don’t cross the road, if that’s helpful.

You’re either brave, a martial arts champion, stupid or male. We all know what most women would do and what most young girls are taught to do.

E - None of the above.

I refuse live in constant fear and paranoia.

John was ultimately a reasonable bloke, and my options were stand next to a dark road in the middle of nowhere or get a lift to where I needed to be. Had John been an ax murderer, that’s his responsibility to not be.

It’s not our fault for walking through parks, it’s theirs for being rapists and murderers. I don’t accept accountability for the actions of a certain percentage of males and their behaviour.

Following your way of thinking implies Sarah Everard was stupid for being out by herself, or trusting a police officer. She wasn’t, he was responsible for her death - not her.

Telling women that they can’t go out alone, can’t walk on the same side of the road as unknown men, etc - isn’t just suspicious of men who are going about their lives and just walking down the street, it’s ultimately victim blaming.

There is a difference between being aware and taking care and staying home all the time. Sarah Everard was clearly not at fault and neither is anyone going out alone and I did not in any way suggest this. The point is many women do make certain choices when males are around to protect themselves. Its just basic common sense not paranoia.