I don't want to be a parent to my child anymore

[helpmepleasea]

I don't know what to do with my 6 year old and I need some help

She's 6, about to turn 7. It's fairly obvious to anyone who meets her she's either autistic or has ADHD.

So the issues.
She's aggressive with me. She's trashed the house more times than I care to admit. She hits me, spits at me, pulls my hair, bites me. She speaks to me like I'm the most stupid person on the planet
No consequences work. She isn't motivated by anything.
She won't get rid of anything. We have baby toys from when she was 1 because she screams for hours if I consider getting rid of them. My house is full of shit for lack of a better word
She has no friends. The couple of friends she has have all drifted away because she's bossy, it's very much her way or no way. She also lashes out at them when she gets overwhelmed
She is never wrong. I can watch her smash a cup and she will tell me it wasn't me and she genuinely believes it

I'm chasing a diagnosis but it's a 6 year wait list and no I can't afford private
I'm broken. This is just the main couple of issues but any questions please ask and any advice please help

I'm a single mum. It's just us two. But I don't want to. I'm covered in bruises and bite marks and I honestly just give up

You need to get your eye sight fixed. Do you know that you can get respite care for your daughter via the hospital/social services? It's temporary foster care where your daughter is placed with a foster home to look after her until you are recovered. Almost like a wee holiday for her and you know she is being looked after while you get well

I think it's a good idea to try to access the care you need for the operation via the hospital. Apologies if you've already tried that. I think you said you were South Yorkshire? Is this link any help?

Types of Fostering | Fostering Rotherham https://share.google/hNqEqFkim2EmfujdB

This is a site looking to recruit foster carers!

Fait enough but presumably they would at least know how one goes about getting short term foster care? When I have to find out tricky education things I find it's quite helpful to explore all angles - as sometimes all you need is one helpful person to get things moving.

No they wouldn't. Fostering agencies have precisely zero to do with decisions made by children's social care.

Op I think it’s important that you explain to school/ social services/ whoever you are in contact with tomorrow how desperate things have become. I used to work as an out of hours social worker, and there is no way we wouldn’t have visited if we had had a call expressing the level of distress/ crisis you’ve expressed on this thread, particularly with a 999 call thrown in.

OK, do you have any tips for OP then? The situation sounds pretty serious regarding the put-off operation.

I already said up thread that she needs to contact social care on Monday morning and self refer, setting out the difficulties she is having keeping DD safe and requesting an assessment. That's how she gets to discuss the option of foster care.

@helpmepleasea how did the conversation with school go today?

How are you @helpmepleasea ?