I'm worried that our explanation of menopause scared our daughter

[menopausalmom2025]

My husband and I are both 47. Our youngest child is a 6 year old girl. I was red and sweating like crazy because of a hot flash when my husband and daughter came in. She asked if I'm sick and my husband told her "No honey, mommy going through menopause. It's a natural thing that happens to women at this age. That explains why mommy gets hot sometimes and why she gets those cute chin hairs that she plucks out. Sweetie, a long time from now, you'll go through the same thing."

I was too busy feeling like I was on fire to help in that conversation. I know that sometimes parents give explanations on topics, like periods, that unnecessarily freak kids out. I'm worried that we gave a very bad explanation.

and why she gets those cute chin hairs that she plucks out

Did he actually say that? Eww. What a fucking weird thing to say to anyone, let alone a small child.

My sympathies op.

A part of my husband's flirting game is teasing. He usually tries to avoid doing that in front of our kids but it can slip out when dealing with an unexpected spontaneous event.

He actually said that about chin hairs?

The cute chin hair thing made me a) feel nauseous and b) think this is some kind of wind up.

The 'flirting game' is even more grim.

You both sound pretty odd. Him for saying it, you for accepting it.

Your husband thinks that teasing you about chin hairs is a form of flirting?

I apologize if I shouldn't have mentioned that in the thread.

The chin hair comment is weird as is the flirting game.

A comment about this being part of growing up when your mum’s age would have sufficed. Also “she’ll be fine in x mins” and “she’s not sick so don’t worry” For a 6 year old maybe compared it to something involuntary like a hiccup- annoying but will pass.

Utterly bizarre thread.

Should I make sure to talk to her again to clear up some stuff ?

I know what you mean because my dd was a bit horrified when she found out pregnant women sometimes throw up and she mentions it every now again. But she has many years to come to terms with it before it will impact her. It’s reality, you guys were probably best off being honest. I wouldn’t worry.

Ew. Is this a joke? Your husband sounds like an utter creep. Use menopause rage as an excuse to bludgeon him to death, then explain it whimsically to your daughter.

Then get yourself some HRT.

Yeah, but maybe do it organically next time it comes up.

You said the explanation “we” gave, but your husband did all the talking? At 6 I wouldn’t be explaining menopause at all - the poor kid hasn’t even started her periods yet. I’d just have said I was feeling a bit under the weather. I doubt your daughter will be scared, I just wouldn’t expect my partner to try and explain my menopause symptoms.

Dear god, yes. Also speak to the DH. Chin hairs! Bloody hell.
No need to mention the menopause, she's only 6! Just say you were feeling a bit hot.
Too late now though....

At this point I’m thinking you should both just stop talking to her about anything.

It sounds fine to me, nothing traumatic there.

Not sure why there was such a pile on over him being nice about your facial hair, I can think of a million worse things he could have said!

I hope everyone here can make sure this topic gets back on track.

It's obvious that everyone here thinks that was a horrible explanation. Neither my husband nor I had planned to talk about that topic. Even with just 5 minutes of thought we would have came up with something far better.

This ^^

I've been through the menopause and never had a chin hair.
Why on earth would he talk about her Mum like that to a 6 year old child?

Why on earth did your DH think that was an appropriate thing to say?
Honestly op I think you need to speak to your DH not your DD

😂😂

Please make sure your husband isn’t involved in a discussion with your daughter about periods or sex.

dh flirting game is grim.

but why are you fretting about this, she’s 6, she’s probably already forgotten the weird explanation, the topic doesn’t need revisiting again at the moment.

I hope everyone can just agree it was stupid thing for him to say and move on.

I'm sorry he said it. I'm sorry I put in the thread. Now I hope we can all get back the topic at hand.