Dd is coming home from university tomorrow and I’m so excited but ds isn’t because

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My Dd has graduated from university a week ago she studied English and I am very proud of her .

Ds is 13 and isn’t happy that she is coming home tomorrow he has been shouting at me constantly because he has to go back to share with 11 year old brother.
as she is coming back tomorrow he said why can’t she share with him I need my own room still I told him it’s because she is older than both of them and she needs privacy.

he said so do I I don’t want to share with him he is weird and he used all my stuff last time he goes on my phone and goes through my messages!!!I am not sharing with him end of story he said.

He has no choice I am not having his little brother share with his big sister in her 20s .

he used to tell me all the time that the bed was to small but his brother didn’t want another one that’s why we still have it now his brother loves it 13 year old ds has a red cut a little one on his head from getting out that bed every day.

Your child has an injury from hitting his head daily and yet you're still expecting him to return to that bed (probably taller) because "his brother loves it"

I really really hope you're a troll because if not your poor 13yo

Oh come on, you can’t be serious. You aren’t putting a teenager in an undersized bunk bed.

Do you not like your 13 yo DS? It really sounds like he is your least favourite child. He gets his stuff broken, gets peed on and cuts his head getting out of a too small bed. Wow. You really need to rethink this

It’s only little but I do get what you mean his my little lad and I do love him and I try to keep everyone happy I try my hardest every day

I am going to get his sister to swap room with them

What on earth? So the 13 year old got peed on, had his stuff broken and injured his head everytime he got out of that bed? And that is just the stuff I remember. Op this sounds as if you are the 13 year old complaining about how badly your family members are treating you. This all sounds incredibly unhealthy bordering on cruel.

What would be fairer:

Dd into smallest room and rhe two boys share the largest bed room.

Get rid of the bunk bed or have ds11 sleep on the bottom bed.

Stop ds11 from breaking or getting into ds13' stuff and monopolising the tv, Xbox etc.

We have 4 kids in a three bed semi. Eldest has the box room when not at uni. Ultimately we could get a small double in that box room with hardly anything else and me and h share if we had too. We converted our dining room into a bedroom.

If I could go back in time before we had a massive super king bed, I'd move us into the smallest room and have two kids in the master and two in the other double.

Ds uni boxes are all over the house wherever they can fit.

Sounds like everyone gets what they want and then your 13 year old gets what is left?
No wonder he is complaining! You clearly have him right at the bottom of the pecking order and dismiss everything he wants if it conflicts in any way with what others want.
Poor kid. I'm wondering if this is a troll post but unfortunately I think not. In 10 years time you'll be lucky if he gives you the time of day at this rate.

i Will put the boys in her room probably I hate thinking about it every day how my little lad feels

I know I am a bad mum I know that I really do I feel so down about my self

Have you read what you've written?.Each update gets worse for the 13 year old

You're recounting almost with glee all the things that have happened to him because of your 11 year old, as if you have nothing to do with it.

Your 11 year old broke the 13yo PS3 soon after he got it, weed on him nightly, always chooses the bed he wants, gets what he wants even though your 13yo says his bed is too small and cuts his head because of it but oh your little lad loves it so it's ok, then your DD has a bigger room to herself, you wouldn't mind sleeping on a sofa bed and giving the room to your 13 year old but oh wait, you can't because your boyfriend lives with you.

Your poor 13 year old, you choose everyone over him, take no responsibility and wonder why he shouts at you.

Is this even real, I can't believe such blatant favourtism and neglect!

Omg take the TV out. Swap rooms. Stop leaving your middle ds as the last priority! He gets injured but that's ok because his brother loves that bed??! He gets peed on? New game system broken? Messages read? What the actual fuck, the poor kid!

How about he gets a new game system now, 11 yo absolutely does not break it or anything else of his. Boys get the larger room, and adult dd's stuff does not take priority over your actual child! DS 13 gets a proper bed. There's no tv so he doesn't have to listen to MC all the time. ( My DD watches it and I find the sound incredibly hard to take). Tv elsewhere means 11 yo is elsewhere so the room is more evenly usable by both.
Stop making his needs come after everything and everyone else, down to even the stuff . Maybe he'll feel a little better. He must feel like garbage being treated like that.

And maybe it's time for the boyfriend to get his own place...

I am going to make her swap rooms with the boys

So boys in the bigger room, get rid of the bunk beds and find some kind of room divider. Each in their own side unless invited. Maybe a curtain divider?? Or storage? It's really hard trying to fit everyone in. If it was me I'd take 13yo out for lunch or somewhere and explain and ask for his input on colour/divider.

i will do that

It’s only little but I do get what you mean his my little lad and I do love him and I try to keep everyone happy I try my hardest every day

Would you think it "only little" if your partner put you in a situation where you were injured every day?

If his school sat him at a desk where he was injured just a little bit every single day would you stand for it?

no I wouldn’t it’s just a little scare he doesn’t get beaten up by the bed dose he

How would you feel about having piss dripping on you every night for (8?) years?

Hurting your head every morning?

Having someone destroy your expensive belongings?

Those all happen(ed) because of your choices as a parent.

There was no space for me in my parents' house after uni, so I rented a room in a house share. It's completely normal and better for your social life. Cut the apron strings!

No because it would be more than a little scar

He should even have a scar. Daily bumping your head isn't good for the brain, just ask any aging footballer.

I wouldn’t feel good about it and I know he doesn’t

In what way? It’s a bad thing I know but in what way dose it affect your brain

I’m guessing your dd came home to stay at some point in the last three years.
Where did she sleep?

You need to stop the little bro from going through the 13 yo's phone and using his stuff.