Is 35 too old to have a baby?

[Poodlezzz]

Thinking energy wise, health issues, not having a huge multi generational age gap as they grow, being an old grandparent, and other practicalities….

I had my first at 35 and would have loved another! Bit of a tough pregnancy but none of it was age related and ds was perfectly healthy thankfully. Most of my friends were having their first or second around then so it didn't feel "old" to me at all. Plenty of mums my age at nursery or baby classes as well.

I think as long as you personally feel healthy enough then no reason not to. I started a good multivitamin and folic acid before trying.

You inability to grasp the concept that not everyone has the choice and your nonchalant view of having children whenever you choose. That part:

Nope not at all. Yeah you could make that choice and great that it worked out for you even though it was above 35 (which I have no problem with at all by the way). And sound like you had to make that choice as you wanted to have kids earlier given the two miscarriages it wasn’t smooth sailing. Thats the point how nice that some can make that choice so easily to decide under 35 is a choice as miscarriages clearly aren’t (and yeah I’ve been there many times so it’s not a foreign concept to me or thr many many many women who go through it).

The average age for first time mums is 30. So 35 is not far off that.
I met my DH at 39, married at 40 and had my kids at 41 and 43. Several of my friends had children in their 40s. My sister had hers at 45. A friend had hers at 46. All but one (including the 45 and 46 year olds) were conceived naturally.
And @AnotherEmmaand @youalright what do you mean it’s too old and we shouldn’t ‘normalise’ having babies later? My mother (born in the 1920s) had my sister at 40, her mother (born in the 1880s) had her last at 41. There wasn’t birth control back then and many women had babies ‘late’, or rather, they kept on having babies in to their 40s.
You’re too old to have babies when you stop ovulating.
By the way all the above mentioned children (bar one) are in their early 20s, parents all well and healthy. As for grandkids? I wouldn’t plan my family on the idea that I’d be too old to be a grandparent- if I’m alive when my kids have kids I’m not too old am I?

My eldest is 10 now, middle is almost 9 and youngest is almost 6….besides all of my other reasons, I do feel like the age gap between the eldest & middle ones and a new baby would be too big now.

But again: it’s very dependant on your family and what feels right to you!

Were you a mother at 21 with no university education?

I’m about to turn 36. 13 year old DD. I would so love to have another baby, it hasn’t been an option in many of the years in between. It’s not an option now as I’m still on my own. I adored being pregnant but never thought for a second I’d be doing it on my own from her first birthday. At this point I feel that I certainly could do it again on my own but I have zero options to make that possible. I lost two babies early on after DD so I think the odds certainly wouldn’t be in my favour now at my age anyway. It’s a hard thing to cope with knowing that I’m one and done (I had DD at 22). My dream was to have several babies and hoping to be married. The marriage bit I’m no longer fussed about, but I so wish my life would have led to having at least one more baby even if I was on my own. It will be my one deathbed regret.

Of course not I had mine at 29,33 and 36
All good and adults now.

I hope not. I’m 30 and we have a lot to sort out first. Most of my friends (age 31 to 40) haven’t even started trying yet. 35 is pretty average age here in London.

Why don’t you look into a donor baby?

35 and on my second

Fucking hell, if your energy levels are low at 35 you need to get your bloods checked and start taking some supplements!

its an outdated idea that 35years old is ‘too old’.
i just had my baby at 37 years old.

biologically you obvs arent too old at 35, and its absolutely fine.

If you have a 10 yr age gap its likely they will grow up pretty much as if they were "only" children.

In terms of optimum age I had my first at 38 and second at 40... very honestly i wish I had been younger.

My mum was 30 when she had me so was knocking 70 when becoming a GM and couldnt be as involved as she liked.
I feel sad I'm unlikely to be able to give a lot of practical help to any GC due to age unless something "goes wrong" ie DS ends up impregnating a girl at 16 or something
Also ill be looking to retire when they want to go to uni etc

It was rare to have anyone below late 30’s as parents in first year for every school my kids were in, so I think it’s a really odd question.

Anyone who's struggling with energy at 35 needs to see their GP! 35 is still in your prime.

Not at all! My mum had me at 42, she had a house of 4 children, one of which was disabled, and managed just fine! I’m now 35 myself with my first babies. I would have liked children a bit earlier in life,I was ready by late 20s, but my partner wasn’t ready so had to wait a little.

This is quite an old fashioned question now I think. Isn’t the average age for women to have their first child now 31?

Personally I had mine at 29 and 33 and that was fine, I am 38 now and still don’t feel too old (but won’t have another as don’t want three children!) I have friends my age and slightly older who are only just now having their first children.

Im saying we shouldn't normalise it because its high risk. The optimal time to have a healthy baby is your 20s

I haven't written about anyone else iv written about me which is why i said personally for me

Yes of course I realise that, which is why I said in general no, 35 isn't too old. But for ME PERSONALLY...

Not at all these days, in my friends/family circle it's a very average age to have a baby I would say

Dd was born a week after my 35th birthday , i already has a dc who turned 2 5 days before. Definitely not too old.

30s and 40s is a great time to have children. You can give your child much more (emotionally, intellectually, financially, and in most cases if you are healthy, physically as well), than a (usually) immature 20 year old one. Most of my friends had their perfectly healthy babies in their 40s, I am pregnant at 44 now. You do need more tests and checks of course but I don't see how it is "too old" at all

So sorry to hear this… 🩷 at least you can focus on your one baby and I’m sure you have a very special bond xxx