Is 35 too old to have a baby?

[Poodlezzz]

Thinking energy wise, health issues, not having a huge multi generational age gap as they grow, being an old grandparent, and other practicalities….

In general no, but I personally wouldn't past 35. I think I would want them to be well established at school before menopause kicks in.

You realise we don't all have the choice. I was 29 when I met DH, married at 31 and had two miscarriages before DS1.

I had dd2 at 35/36 totally fine and quite the norm these days

Some women have always had children in their early 40s even before IVF was available. In the past it was less common to start a family at this age but still fairly common to have a final child quite late.

I had DS at 35 (after recurrent miscarriages) then DD at almost 37, and at my postpartum checkup my doctor said, "See you next year for number 3 then?"

I had my children at 28 and 30. I’m 36 now and couldn’t imagine having a 1yo in tow. So for me personally, 35 would have been too old. It’s very much a personal decision though based on life’s circumstances.

I would say it's on the upper limit of average. Anything over that would be considered old.

I hope not I'm 36 and me and my partner will be trying next year!

I had my second at 35 and 3rd at 37 so I say absolutely not! But then I feel young versus others I know who are younger than me who feel old 🤷‍♀️ I think it’s a personal decision but in the general sense, no definitely not!

I'm into genealogy. Most of my ancestors were still having children into the woman's 40s unless one of the couple had died.

One was 35 and pregnant with her 13th child when her husband died. Who knows how many more she'd have had if he had lived?

A midwife remarked that I was young when I was pregnant with my first at 31, which I found weird. Second at 34. I'm fucking knackered and poorer than I'd like to be but can't help feeling that would be the case no matter my age.

If someone in their 20s asked me what age to have kids at then I'd say to have them younger than 35 for sure. But if someone aged 35 asked me if they'd left it too late then if course it isn't.

Lol to people saying 35 is to old!!!

I am a young 36 and really look in my 20's (get told often).

35 is really not old women these days work on their careers more and come to family life later.

I feel young. I have no health issues. Its fine!

Not at all. I think having children in your mid-late 30s can keep you ‘young’, especially when they are in their teens and you are exposed to a completely different culture than would normally be the case in your 50s.

How tamping would you be if your husband knocked you up THIRTEEN TIMES and then died.

Not at all! I feel that I am the best mum and best condition of my life and had my baby at 35 xxx

Frankly this question is very insulting and naive. Of course it isn’t but the fact your have asked it is awful.

I know, right?!

Some 'final children' born quite late - pre 1980s - to mums 44-45+ - were actually the grandchild of the woman, that her unmarried young daughter had given birth to out of wedlock. Grandma took the baby on and raised it as her own, and no-one ever mentioned it again. 👀

Happened a LOT back in the day. It makes me laugh when posters come onto this type of thread, and say 'my great auntie Flo had a baby at 46 when her youngest was 14,' and 'my dad's great aunt had a baby at 50.'

LOL, no she didn't! They were the grandchildren.

If 35 is too old I’d better give mine back 😉
Also my mum had me after 35
Her mum had her after 40
Her mum was also having kids into her 40s (not to clear what age Great Grandma kept having kids until).

re gaps. In 2 of these generations there were gaps of between 8 - 12 years. With both of the gaps there were sibling issues, but with one of the siblings involved I think there’d have been issues even with no gaps.

OMG .. Poor woman. She was literally a brood mare!

I had mine at 34 and 37. Although I coped fine physically, I do wish I’d had them when I was younger. For the simple reason I’d like to have had longer with them.. although tomorrow is never a given, I realise.

How lovely you were able to decide that when so many will struggle for years and years and have no choice. So no children for you if they didn’t come naturally and you hit 35 then?

No, had mine at 38 & 40. Got pregnant straight away both times. I keep fit and healthy, plus two little besties to keep me on my toes. We're much better off in our forties even with two young children than we were in our late twenties/thirties so that's a relief because kids are expensive.

I don't think age matters it's more lifestyle dependant. Tbh in my working class northern town when I had DC1 at 31and took them to baby groups I was a (much) older mum, but when I went to groups in a nearby more affluent town I was by far one of the youngest!!