Mum shamed for easter

[Scottyme]

My toddler doesn’t overly like chocolate or sweets and has got a little egg from their nan so not like they haven’t got an egg. So I as a treat took my little one to Smyths to buy a toy instead but my partners friend, a relatively new first time mum, said I was spoiling them and they would never buy anything other than a egg for her child.

My argument is my child doesn’t really like chocolate anyway and they needed some more age appropriate toys now and they would get much more out of a £15 scooter, than an egg. But she didn’t just say it and leave it she kept not picking how they couldn’t send their children to nursery couldn’t think of anything worse than palming their children off to strangers etc.

I just feel like crap now for trying to do the best for my child 😢

She sounds like a totally awful person, and an awful parent. Frankly their children would from benefit being sent to nursery and given a break from them. Next time she sticks her oar in firmly tell her to mind her own business unless she wants you to start criticising her lack of parenting skills.

I’d be keeping my distance from her , for the simple reason, she’s one of those ,” very hard to listen to “ 🙄 sort of people..
It will be something else the next time that will leave you with a feeling of negativity after leaving her company..
We need to be around people that make us feel positive in life 🤷🏻‍♀️..😊

Same here out of my 3 kids 2 would rather have fruit, as they just don't have a sweet tooth.

My parents were horrified with the carrier bags full of eggs that other children were being given when we were kids.

So they started giving presents instead with one egg each. Usually my Dad would choose the presents which made them extra-special for us. I have happy memories of PJs or Flower Fairies.

Our DC has a birthday very near Christmas so for us it was a great opportunity to buy new shoes and summery toys. They still got an egg from us and one from the "Easter Bunny" (which resulted in them believing in EB despite it always being a joke...until far later than they should 🤭)

I think having one egg and then something lovely for Easter is a great plan.

Why don’t you tell her you disagree with how she raises her children and could she keep her opinions to herself, like you have been doing. If she doesn’t, avoid.

What a bitch does she not realise school teachers are strangers. In a perfect world all women should have the choice to stay at home bringing up their own child but life isn’t that easy. Imagine if every mum stopped working and it was mainly male dominated I would hate this more. A lot of mums enjoy their work, or need to earn money. I wonder if your friend would prefer male nurses to do a smear or breast examination without female chaperones or seeing a male dr for really personal advice. Ignore her.

Some folk get off on making you feel bad. Why is she a bloody expert on your child?
one of my grandkids doesn’t like sweets or chocolate, it’s not unheard of. We got them a toy instead, they loved it.
tell the woman to go swivel, you’re going fine with your child .

we always got an Easter present and I always give them too. Nothing huge - unless it’s needed - but if your birthday is close to Christmas having a chance to ask for something special mid year is good.

I’ve never been keen on chocolate eggs so I always had a small gift in a metal egg. A cuddly toy or t-shirt or something.

This year I gave my son a chocolate egg hunt with 20 small eggs and added 2 with hotwheels cars. He loved it.

Spoilt? Not really. It’s nice to give a little surprise and the whole thing cost under £10. I did have to redo the egg hunt about 6 times though, with progressively less eggs due to the m being eaten, lost in long grass or melted in the sun.

Nothing wrong with a gift instead of eggs. I got a small squish mallow in my metal egg this year, and while a scooter doesn’t fit my ‘in an egg’ tradition, why not?

I am sure many children get loads of eggs, cuddly bunnies and even stuff that’s expensive like those LOL surprise eggs. That’s not spoilt either. Spoilt is getting everything trey want and everything there way, not from an occasional festive or random treat.

YANBU I’ve always got my DC a toy and a small egg for Easter they get big eggs from everyone else and get overloaded with chocolate it’s not needed.

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Why on earth are you trying to justify yourself. You do what's best for you and your child - ignore her!

I bought my child loads of new books, a soft toy and loads of chocolate eggs and bunnies etc for an egg hunt in the garden. I wonder what your friend would have to say about that 🙄🙄

Fuck them.Some people need to keep their beaks out. You do what you want to. X

My youngest is 14 she got 1 egg, about 9 crunchies and 3 new Jellycat teddies across the Easter gifts from us and her grandparents. They like what they like and we get what they want. She sounds like a knob pushing her own agenda on others.

She’s not the boss of you. She’s not Queen of Parenting.

If you stress about every random weird thing someone says about kids you will send yourself daft. There are no rules. You can do whatever you like.