Mum shamed for easter

[Scottyme]

My toddler doesn’t overly like chocolate or sweets and has got a little egg from their nan so not like they haven’t got an egg. So I as a treat took my little one to Smyths to buy a toy instead but my partners friend, a relatively new first time mum, said I was spoiling them and they would never buy anything other than a egg for her child.

My argument is my child doesn’t really like chocolate anyway and they needed some more age appropriate toys now and they would get much more out of a £15 scooter, than an egg. But she didn’t just say it and leave it she kept not picking how they couldn’t send their children to nursery couldn’t think of anything worse than palming their children off to strangers etc.

I just feel like crap now for trying to do the best for my child 😢

I grew up getting presents from grandparents and parents and eggs at Easter, it's every family's choice how they celebrate and can't see how it's anyone else's business

When the dc were little I used to get them the playmobil egg. And any “egg” hunt in the garden was what ever small collectible tat they were into at the time. My parents have always given them books.

My 3 year old has 9 eggs (5 from us, 2 from my parents, 1 from a stay and play) plus he will be getting more when we see my partners side of the family tomorrow 🙈 He does love them though and it will take him awhile to eat them all 🤷‍♀️😂 He also has a ball, a baking kit, craft stuff, a bath bomb, egg chalk, wind up chickens, hair bobbles and a bouncy egg. Ignore judgey people and do what is best for you and your children 🥰 Happy Easter!!

Get yourself a bog standard reply to these people that think you give a fuck what they think and their opinion.

'That's interesting. Wouldn't it be very boring if we were all the same'

I grew up getting a Disney film every Easter from my parents which I remember much more than any eggs!
Do what you know works for you and your family and ignore everyone else's opinions.

Ugh, she sounds insufferable. Just don't spend time with her and buy or don't buy what you want for your own kid.

I always get dc something for Easter. When they were little it was things for the garden, like a bucket and spade set for the beach. Now there older, I've booked to take them on activities at zip world tomorrow. And yes they get a couple of eggs from us too. What I have learnt is life is so very short and precious and I'll do what I want to enjoy it

She sounds insecure - a happy person doesn’t need to put others down…

Just chalk it up to “she’s not my cup of tea” and move on - enjoy your happy veg-eating little one 🐣

Sod what your partner’s friend thinks! Just do what’s right for you and your family! My kids (older) get one Easter egg each from me. When they were little, we didn’t get them chocolate eggs as they often got sick from having chocolate.

Growing up, Easter Sunday for us would be going to mass and then spend time with family. We would hard boil eggs and decorate them, and then have those after Mass…so everyone does a different thing. What’s right for my family might not be so great for another family.

the scooter sounds like a lovely idea :)

IMO they were just commenting what they would do. Which is different to your own choices.
It isn't mum shaming or judgement. Just different choices.

Have confidence in your own views and choices, there's nothing wrong with them!

I think something Easter-themed would be more appropriate but it is more difficult for a child; an adult would like spring flowers or a plant, plus a card.

You can buy decorated cardboard and tin Easter eggs in which you can put little things. I have bought a small child an Easter-themed colouring book and I've seen jigsaws.

("spoiling them and they ", how many children? Overuse of both is prevalent on facebook. Presumably your child is a girl or boy.)

When DS was little we never did chocolate, usually a book or craft or small toy. Today he has had chocolate from us, but the two sets of grandparents got him books and a pass for a local attraction (not hugely expensive), DH got me some tulips because he knows I'm trying to avoid chocolate at the moment (and will probably pinch a tiny bit of his). I don't think anyone needs a huge mountain of eggs, last week I threw a left over one from last year and one from 2023! He does like chocolate but doesn't eat loads of it

I think you get more of this kind of behaviour in the early years. By the time the kids are teens, all parents are in survival mode and judging is out of the window.
That's my experience anyway!

Oh ignore them, none of their business. Much better to have a new scooter for the summer months than one for Xmas when you can't get out in the garden.

I'd love a goat for Easter and it would be my MIL dream come true!

Throw a shoe at her

She's horrible I wouldn't agree to hang out with her again,
Or if I did then I'd say to her 'I'm not intersted in hearing opinions about my parenting thanks, let's change the subject' every time

Yes you do need to be strong in your own mind op and not let some random cow ruin your day

@Scottyme id is the same with my kids . If they wanted something I got them to wait until Easter . Remote controlled car etc
They got enough chocolate from others .

My DS does not eat chocolate or sweets, never has. So the Amazon Bunny would bring him a Lego set instead.

i have an autistic 18yo with ARFID, he has NEVER eaten chocolate, so always gets either £10 each off family who buy an egg for us and his sister, or they get him a toy or gaming credit or something.

You do what works for your child on Easter and ignore everyone else.

Please sit back and laugh at fools like her because when her time comes, watch her never nevering like never before. Don't give fools like that any of your precious time

yes, it happens. ds hasn't ever eaten chocolate or any kind of candy/sweets in his life, and probably won't.

He'd bite your hand off for a custard cream though.

Ignore them, my brother and SIL don't like giving the kids a lot of chocolate as there's massive sugar highs and the the tears start so they got a paw patrol toy each from me.

My five grandchildren (5-10 yrs old) were going on holiday just before easter, I gave each of them money to spend whilst away instead of chocolate.