How do you shower with a baby?

[kiana2015]

My DD is 9 months, I used to shower when she went down for her naps when she was newborn as she would nap for 3/4 hours. I'm not a single parent but DP works until 9:30pm. My DD naps half an hour max. I can't leave her in her bouncer unattended. How am I supposed to wash my hair? Please give me tips on what you do/did

I put a small travel cot in the bathroom and put him in there with some toys

Bumbo seat?

Don't do this. Bonkers.

I have one of these.

Locks on the bathroom cabinet doors, toilet brush and anything else not lickable off the floor. Toys on floor. Lock the bathroom door.

I can laugh about it now (was almost 20 years ago) but I was actually terrified at the time thinking I was going to be stuck until DH got home from work.

We don't allow our baby to cry and we are responsive to both toddler nad baby.
Thats my culture any way. We back carry with woven wraps and feed on demand.
Treating a baby like a nuisance is a very alien concept to me and my family. We Co sleep and keep children close. In turn we have emotionally stable and calm teens and adults.
My toddler sleeps through the night and can now put hinself to bed we do goodnight routine and he happily goes to sleep. We did it when he was good and ready and necer forced him or trained him. We gave him the tools, care, love and a good routine. When it clicked and he was ready he started to go to bed with no tears no fuss he knew we are always there.
We don't torture our children and let them cry especially not toddlers and babies in our culture. If our DC are sick or feels scared we respond immediately.

Is she on the move? I’ve always just had both mine playing in the bathroom and just had to baby proof it a little more once they’re moving e.g put the bin and toilet brush etc out of reach 😂

I find a bag or box full of various small toys that you only bring out when you’re in the shower the most effective!

She's not spoilt and babies can't manipulate people.

Good luck with your highchair plan, such a good idea!

I'm curious, which part is bonkers? I've been doing this every day since my little one was in a baby bath at the edge of the main bath. He prefers a shower to baths now because he's so used to the splashing from the shower.

I was imagining a shower cubicle with the baby getting water and shampoo in their eyes.

We didn’t co sleep, carry them in a wrap or feed on demand and we sleep trained at six months. Yes, they cried, particularly as they are twins and sometimes had to wait - they weren’t tortured. They were showered with love and have grown up to be happy healthy young adults who we are incredibly proud of .
There isn’t a right or wrong way. Every family is different.

I used to draw back the shower curtain and only used the transparent shower liner with DC in the high chair. I could see the DCs at all times and they could see me. If the OP's shower has a glass shower door she could peek out every so often to check.

All of my DCs loved climbing out of cots and playpens from about six months. It would have been nuts to leave any of them unattended in either.

Just shove a load of toys in the bathroom and shut the door. Have your shower - be as quick as you can. I used to put mine in her bouncer thing while I showered but seen it won't fit in your bathroom. What about a bumbo seat? Or just stick her on the floor, like I say, with a few toys?

If you really wanted you could take her in the shower with you and wash her at the same time - sit her by your feet and let her play with a bucket or a sponge or whatever, and have the water not falling onto her head but just next to her (or take the shower head off, and just direct it onto your body - then on hers when you're ready!).

Does she watch any TV? If toys or whatever don't work keeping her in the bathroom my little one used to love stuff like dancing fruit or dancing dots videos on YouTube, you could set a tablet up for her to watch in the bathroom with you while you have a quick shower. Mine would actually sit still and watch it for about 5 min or so!

By shut the door I mean shut her in with you so you can see her btw, not shut her out to have your shower. In case that wasn't clear 🤣

It's not a problem, you don't need to fix it. I'm answering because I too feel very strongly about this.

As a twin mum, I had to be more accepting when they were younger that I'd take longer to get to one than the other. And that if they cried, I was doing my best. But bollocks to "crying it out" etc. A nine-month-old isn't crying to manipulate you.

Re showering, yep, I found an evening shower worked best. And a 90 second rinse-off during the day if the stars collided and they napped in a safe place at the same time. (Good shout on not leaving her unattended unsafely.) Good luck!

How long are you in there for? A shower surely doesn’t take longer than 6-10 mins, it’s hardly 3 hours!

Shower with him at 7pm before his bedtime
But shnuggle bath in there if I need to wash my hair if body wash just hold him
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Used bouncer chair in the bathroom or sat her in the bottom of the shower (but she does quite like showers) By 12m (16m now) she would always choose to jump in the shower with me which is a faff because it means getting her changed but if I let a little puddle form it will give me plenty of time to get dry and dressed before she wants to get out.

Put them somewhere safe and just do it. If they cry for a minute or two it’s fine.

My 7 month old naps about 25 minutes in the mornings and I can shower and if necessary wash my hair in that time.

If I need to dry it rather than letting it air dry I wait until he's awake and he sits in his cot with toys while I dry my hair and pull faces and talk to him.

Unfortunately I can't fit any kind of chair or mat for him in our tiny bathroom that wouldn't risk him banging his head on something solid if he toppled over.

To me, that's an awfully long time for a baby to cry and for me to listen to it. As I say, that's my personal attitude. I just know I couldn't enjoy a shower hearing my baby cry.

Bouncer, cot, or car seat in the bathroom.

Don't overthink it.

People cannot be glued at the hip to their baby, they need to wash, eat, do housework etc.

Use the cot, high chair, if you have a stair gate is there any reason they can't be left with some toys on the floor while you nip in the shower?

Playpen or cot with safe toys for a few minutes. Or bouncer in the bathroom.

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