Arrived Dec/jan 23/24 Part 1

[Nclktnntt]

New thread following our Due December 2023 Part 6 thread. I've tagged everyone I can think of, feel free to tag others ☺️

@99SR @Avie29 @beans @Beans1982 @FirstMondayInMay @Flowers90 @FlyingHighFlyingLow @Flower35214 @Mushroo

@Nclktnntt im so glad your routine worked well! Hopefully who ever if watching him today does just as well lol!
what you said about the dummy makes perfect sense, I feel like since I’ve been trying to get it off her she’s looking for it more and almost laughing when she gets it? As if to say you so badly don’t want me to have this that it makes me what to have it haha! I always try offer a teether or a snack too but so far not going great! I’ll lay off the dummy fight for a bit until her teeth fully come through.

It's my husband and I've given him time stamps 😂. He has him every Saturday but a few weeks back let him have 90 minutes at 3pm and well that has lead to super late night and just trying to eek that back forward again now lol

@99SR does your little one ever drop the dummy while playing ? My husband just doesn't give it him, and says it's not nap /sleepy time yet, I choose to ignore or divert (like below). I feel the power struggle at this age is really strong so it's a pick your battles age I think 😂. I've found giving 2 choices works aswell - like he doesn't want to get dressed I'll ask - do you want to put your trousers/shorts on standing up or sitting down, he'll choose one and let me do it, if he doesn't choose one I go with whatever he is doing at that time 'standing it is' but 99% of the time he'll choose an option. And I do it with everything throughout the day. It seems to make his tolerance for the times he's told no better I feel.

Hey everyone, I've not been checking in on the chat recently. But glad to hear everyone and their LO's are doing alright. Similar story my end...LO's just turned 20 months, had a great bedtime routine going for a while (where after supper he'd have his milk, then carry him through to the living room for a story and change to PJs and sleep sack before going upstairs to do teeth before bed).
This has all gone out the window, last four nights he's thrown pretty impressive tantrums when we come through to read a story and change into sleepwear.

Absolutely HATES laying down to have his nappy changed. I only lay him down now for number two's.
Still has a dummy for sleep and doesn't ask for it during the daytime (yet...).
He's been teething for the past month or so, all four canine's are coming through. Sleep has been ok, apart from a handful of nights where he's randomly woken up crying but then gone back to sleep pretty quick after settling.

He's quite chatty. He seems to pick up new words well and will sometimes string three words together - sometimes it makes sense, other times it's three random unrelated words - as we were a bit worried how well he'd pick up language, considering three are spoken in our house.

Do your LO's like the playground and going on the slide, swing etc? reason I ask is our LO doesn't seem too interested. He'll watch the other kids, will sometimes go up and try to play and speak with them, but seems more comfortable in standing back and watching?

Hey @Beans1982 , my little one loves the park/playground, but mostly just running around in the open space, she does love the slide but doesn’t seem to like the swings very much, she has approached other little ones at the park but kind of just stands there staring at them for a minute and then goes off again xx

At the park he likes the slide but doesn't care for the swings, likes to just run avoid in the open space really like @Avie29 's LO. he tends to follow the other kids (they're older by us generally) and just stare at / study them.

From what I've read, At this age they don't really play with other children but more alongside them, it's not until about 4 years old where they actually start playing with other children.

My LO loves babies and says hi and goes upto anyone roughly his height though.

Forgot to add, he didn't really care for the slide until we got a smallish one in our garden for him

Ahh this is reassuring to hear, thank you ladies x. I was starting to wonder if because my LO doesn't go to nursery he was starting to miss out on socialising somehow, and this might be why he's not into playing with others.
I'll keep taking him to the playground, one day he might just realise it's fun to go on the swing. He did say hello to a little boy last we went, but he got ignored 😞

Aww that's such a shame he got ignored. My LO doesn't go to nursery either. We still do a sensory class once per week but I've seen lots of specialists talk about 'socialising' and if you watch them they actually play side by side or want the toy the other child has to then play with it themselves, they don't develop 'socialising / playing together' skills until closer to 4years old could be 5 I forget. But it's a whole yet anyways.

I do occasionally wonder if 1 day a week would benefit him somehow but I'm not sure it really would have any long lasting benefit to him compacted to not going to nursery, I think he would still learn his life long skills like socialising and playing throughout childhood anyway.

Making friends and actually playing together doesn’t really start till 3 when they go to nursery, especially for first babies, my LO will drag everyone around make them “play” with her lol or bring them toys/books etc she shares and takes turns quite well too, but when it comes to other little ones her age shes unsure of how to interact i think, all her big brothers and sisters are 8+ years older than her xx

And ive had a break through with the sleep! So last night she done 6 hours and the night before 5 and half (used to be 3 maximum), only things ive done differently is, taking her up for her bath a bit later and instead of bringing her back downstairs to have a little play before bed im taking her straight to bed and ive started doing massages again (used to every night when she was little, then she got squirmy lol) but she seems to love massages again now and will lie there nice n calm, will let you know how tonight goes but so far so good 👍🏻 xx

@Avie29 I'm so glad you seem to have had a breakthrough. After day one of success, it's been a disaster over here! Refusing naps, refusing bedtime and just fighting fullstop. I'm sticking with the 'reset' because my husband thinks things are improving but he's in an overtired cycle admins I don't know how to get him out of the overtired cycle when he won't sleep 🙈🤷‍♀️

@Avie29 im glad you’ve had a breakthrough!
@Nclktnntt sorry you’ve not! Keep going with it though, hopefully he gets a hang of the routine soon and catches up on his sleep and is less overtired.
we’re still ok with sleep over here but oh my she is well and truly in the terrible 2s!!! Tantrums over anything and everything lol. Tonight she scratched my face as I was putting her to bed!! I was so caught off guard I didn’t know what to say. She’s very headstrong and independent which I’m hoping are good qualities to have later on but it’s challenging when she’s 21 months lol!!! Send help!

@99SR oh my gosh, my LO does have tantrums but I've found on the days I give him as much choice as possible, the tantrums are much less... like let's put your trousers on, do you want to stand or sit to have them on? 9/10 he'll opt to sit and help, if I just try he'll say no or run off. I let him choose his clothes (I give 2 options) if he doesn't choose, I choose. It seems to make the moments when I have to say no, he's more likely to have a little cry and a cuddle and he's over it, or at least accepts the answer was a no.

@99SR @Nclktnntt unfortunately my success was short lived she is back to her up every 2-3 hours again 🤔 going to keep going with the later baths and massages and hopefully she will get back to her 5-6 hours again, @99SR we had the tantruming for a few weeks, and still here n there now she literally just drops to the floor (like toy story “andys coming!” Haha) and starts crying and kicking her legs, we have had to order a door chain for the front door because she can now reach to open doors 🤦🏻‍♀️ attempts multiple escapes throughout the day lol xx

@Avie29 oh man that’s rough. Does she settle back down quickly for you?
yep that’s exactly like my little one! Drops right to the floor crying/screaming haha. Thankfully she’s quite easily distracted and hasn’t done it outdoors yet lol.
@Nclktnntt ive actually started doing the choices thing since you last said and it is defo giving her more independence so to speak which she likes so thanks! Although yesterday I asked her “which trousers, these ones or these ones” and she replied “no” hahaha

@99SR most of the time yes but sometimes it takes anywhere from 40min to 3 hours lol I’ve noticed though that on the nights she doesn’t sleep so well are the nights her sister closes the window, its gets quite hot in her room, must be because shes a winter baby but she hates being hot lol xx

I find he tantrums more on the days he doesn't sleep great, but another trick I've found - if I start singing he seems to calm quickly ... I am not a singer ... but the other day he'd had a few moments by breakfast and I'd sang 'today is not the day, today is not the day for (patience)' I'd replace patience with whatever word suited the moment 😂, when I stopped hed say 'more' 😂 distraction tactic I guess ?

Anyone use blankets in the little ones cots? My LO is refusing his sleep sack on most nights and occasionally he's sleeping so lightly that I can't get it one once asleep, and those nights he'll wake because the blanket (one of his baby blankets) has come off him and he's cold. So I'm considering switching to an actual blanket for those nights.

@Nclktnntt i was singing last night. Last night she refused the bath and was screaming her lungs out to get back downstairs to read books. In the end we got changed into jammies then went down stairs for a few books & milk! I struggle with the screaming.. we still use a sleepsack!!

@Nclktnntt my little girl sleeps in a single bed with a toddler duvet, she doesn’t like the blanket on her while she is going to sleep, so i just put it over her once she is asleep, i make sure its tucked in under the mattress at the bottom so she can’t pull it up over her head, but she does tend to kick it off in the night, ive started putting her back into sleep suits now its getting colder so if she does kick it off she doesn’t get too cold xx

There's an account on instagram that I follow that gives good toddler tips and tantrum advice, I don't remember her name off the top of my head but when I come across one of her videos again I'll share it in here for you xx

It's the fact it's getting cold that's making me think I need to get him used to the blanket if he's not accepting the sleeping bag anymore. He went in it last night thankfully. I didn't give him an option though, if he'd have refused I wouldn't have fought him because asleep is better and I'd have just put a blanket on him. We woke up for 2-3 hours anyway last night because he was still chilly. He had 1.5 tog on, best and pjs and the room was 20 (dressed exactly as he should be) switched him to a 2.5 tog in the end. Also teething so they woke him up.

I've also found when I'm saying he can't do something they I then say what he can do instead, so 'no no we don't throw (insert breakable or heavy item), that's what balls are for, let's go throw some balls' usually he throws a ball and switches to something else.

Have you guys read about schemas? I've been reading up about toddler schemas recently to see what toys I can get out for him to play with based on what he's into at the moment and if I get it right, he plays so much more intently with the toys.

Found her : @enquiryco is he handle. I'll attach a pic

Hi everyone,

how was your Christmas and new year, we’ve started toilet training over here . Nappy changes were becoming an absolute nightmare and he decided he no longer wanted to wear them. He’d been using the toilet (with a toddler seat ontop - the ones with the steps attached for a good while on and off anyway). So we went with it.

he mastered it fairly quickly bottomless first then when pants and trousers went on he’d forget (which is expected) and then the accidents slowed down quickly and it might be a tiny bit if he didn’t catch it in time but the rest in the toilet. Again expected. All of a sudden he appears to have decided it’s ok to just wee in his pants and trousers but only when in the house. How do I combat this? We’ve gone through 3 sets of clothing already today and by this time yesterday was 5 where he just doesn’t even attempt to go to the toilet just says ‘I’ve wee’d’. Do I keep just saying, ‘oh dear, wee goes in the toilet, we’ll try again next time’ is this normal to feel like you go backwards? I suppose that’s my main question.

im not sure anyone is still active in here but thank you if you are and do respond.

i hope you are all doing well 😊