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Mother in law issues

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girlmum1996 · 05/12/2024 17:46

Hi…

I am new here and not sure if this type of post will be allowed or if I am even in the right place for this topic but urgently looking for advice or if anyone has been in a similar situation.

Will happily go into detail if this post gets a response…

But has anyone had any major issues with mother in laws resulting in them not seeing the grandchild and now trying to demand contact through a solicitor?

Thanks

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girlmum1996 · 06/12/2024 21:12

NotOneOfTheInCrowd · 06/12/2024 20:54

Op I would like to reinforce a solicitor will write whatever bull shit their client asks of them because they get paid. . My exh had me a strongly worded letter sent out demanding I remove my newly fitted blinds as he was now unable to see into my new home...surprisingly no judge ordered that I take them down... Let mil waste her money. Do not engage whatsoever.. In the tiniest chance she is permitted to apply for access then seek legal advice.. Until then enjoy your Christmas with your baby.
If I remember rightly there was a whole thread about the batshit solicitors letters people had received from ex’s and the like.

Honestly there must be a whole load of solicitors out there who are rubbing their hands together at the money they’re making sending out letters for all these idiots who actually think it will make a difference.

Honestly I absolutely would ignore the letter. I know there is a poster on this thread who apparently had access awarded to the grandparents, but that will be very much in the minority, and we don’t know all the details. But the fact this woman is NC with her own son is not going to go in her favour if she starts demanding access to the children.

And honestly if I was that poster I would move house and never send my children back there. It’s the kind of court order that would almost certainly be overturned if challenged, I suspect she just got unlucky.
Edited to correct the bold.

Edited

Yes, this was also my concern. If she struggles to maintain a relationship with her own son, how can she believe I would allow her access without me OR her son present? Very bizarre.

Yes I am thinking unlucky too - but of course do not know all the ins and outs of her personal situation.

Thanks for your response

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TheShellBeach · 06/12/2024 21:15

I would simply ignore the letter.
I wouldn't instruct a solicitor.
I wouldn't suggest/offer mediation.

Just ignore her.

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girlmum1996 · 06/12/2024 21:16

TheShellBeach · 06/12/2024 21:15

I would simply ignore the letter.
I wouldn't instruct a solicitor.
I wouldn't suggest/offer mediation.

Just ignore her.

Would you still ignore if she sends multiple letters?

Or would that be time to contact the police for harassment etc?

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TheShellBeach · 06/12/2024 21:21

girlmum1996 · 06/12/2024 21:16

Would you still ignore if she sends multiple letters?

Or would that be time to contact the police for harassment etc?

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Personally, I would.
And consider the police if necessary.

thepariscrimefiles · 06/12/2024 21:23

girlmum1996 · 06/12/2024 21:10

I stated this to her, that she basically had stopped herself seeing my child because it did not suit her. However, she played victim and said no other family member or grandparent is treated the way she is and she wants alone time with my daughter with no one else there on her times and terms.

I did offer her supervised visits with my mum, and if that was not good enough a contact centre that I would organise - she did not want this.

Yes I think a solicitor will be my best option after reading the replies I have received.

Thank you very much

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Also, you don't sound controlling but your MIL definitely does.

Nc546888 · 06/12/2024 21:53

I agree with PP you don’t sound controlling

TheShellBeach · 06/12/2024 22:19

Nc546888 · 06/12/2024 21:53

I agree with PP you don’t sound controlling

Agreed!

standardduck · 07/12/2024 08:09

You are 100% not controlling!!

Her saying that she deserves to her time with her DGC unsupervised is controlling and weird since you don't have a good relationship and her own son doesn't speak to her.

I am not sure why PP said you come across as controlling. You tried and it was never good enough for her. Your child is not a toy.
She sound very hard work and not someone I would want around my family either.

I think your plan to speak to a solicitor and get them to write her an official reply is sensible.

Good luck and please focus on yourself and your pregnancy Flowers

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