How can I tell family(parents) we don't want to share pictures of our baby with them.

[1stpregnancywoes]

I know this may seem strange and some may disagree but it is our baby and we are very keen to make sure her privacy is paramount and she can't consent. Initially we shared images of our baby with family via WhatsApp. We told them no sharing online. One family member did not listen to this and shared the photo.
We now no longer even want to share images with family at all as people just can't be trusted.
My husband's parents have again asked to see pictures of her ( mind you they haven't even asked how she is in around 6 months (she is 6 months and 1 week old)

How can we word this? How can we tell people
We don't want to share any images of her online at all. And that when they come to our home that we do not consent to them taking pictures of her as we know they will show/share them.

Thank you in advance

I mean, this.

You're being OTT, OP.

You are being completely OTT , in a couple of years you will be moaning that none of your family are interested in your child

Every time you take your child outside there is a good chance of a dirty old pervert eying them up. The UK has a phenomenal amount of CCTV capturing our children constantly. I find the idea of keeping children safe by not posting pics on social media a bit unrealistic really. Let alone not sharing with your own family.

I don't think this is OTT at all tbh. But my family would (and do) respect our wishes. Most of them don't have social media anyway.

Sure, why dont you post your kids photos on a website for pedophiles, it wont make a difference to the child, so...

There is lots of information to why its not a great idea to post baɓy/children photos on Social Media.

But to give you a start:
AI/Stealing Image
there is a growing criminal/Dark Web problem with people stealing your baby/child photo from your social media- no matter how secure your privacy settings are, hacking is very easy.
They can, and will, use AI to photoshop the picture into anything they want, typically for online pedophile rings.
Some parents, like the op, don't want that to happen to thier child's photo.

Unkown Consequences
Facebook is only 20 years old. Prior to 2004, we didn't really have social media (some rudimentary ones, but nothing like we have today)

When social media kicked off in the early 2000s, we had no idea what it would bring.
And look at us now, only 20 years later.
We constantly talk sbout the negative effects of social media
Governments around the world are still figuring out how to legislate social media.
And now we have people facing legal and criminal consequences for stuff they post.

Where will we be in 10, 20 or 30 years time?
What will the consequences of posting babies/children's photos be?
Some parents want to be careful about this.

Rant over 😁

I think there are safe ways of sharing photos with family.

BUT it really is an issue sharing photos on the internet. The worst are the sm posts with something like: “Here is our gorgeous Amelia Jane Blythe Fopps blowing out her candles. Can’t believe our baby girl is 1 TODAY!” You’ve just posted facial photos for potential biometric purposes, DOB and full name. It just isn’t wise to have this out there.
Its not as bad sending to family members directly; but honestly if you are that worried, just print them off and send a hard copy. If you go this for all family, no one is going to bother photographing it to send on.

Seems a bit unnecessary - other than to their immediate family, all babies look very similar.

Sorry but you’re being very unreasonable. No wonder some MIL’s have difficult relationships with their DIL and their son. This is barmy and there’s no way of saying it without them being massively offended. If you want to damage relationships for good then crack on. Absolute madness and I’ve read some daft things on here

Yes but she said hey in laws are not interested in her child, and that the family didn't respect their wishes, so whatever happens in your family does not apply here.

Is that you Meghan?

Is that you Meghan?

You can obviously do this. It's your child. But people will very likely be hurt and pull back.

I'm sorry but your response makes me feel sick and is completely baffling. If somehow a man ended up with a nude of me as an adult and wanked over it, I'd feel really violated even if we never had or could have contact. It's just horrible and to be ok with knowing you're potentially putting your child in that position 🤢

Additionally, memes. There are so many viral memes made of kids, poor things.

I think you're nuts, and so will your friends and family, but hey ho, it's your right to alienate everyone from you.

And you sound like a ***.

@1stpregnancywoes i understand and would be similar. We are also asking no Facebook sharing and if they did I wouldn’t send any more photos. People saying it doesn’t matter don’t understand the AI risk.

Send them TouchNote postcards of the baby. Ones in an envelope if you are worried about the postie seeing the bub.
It's an annual subscription of £35 (?) then the cost of a 1st class stamp for each photo postcard. Couldn't be easier and it means they have a hard copy photo rather than a shareable online pic.

This is SO sad 😞 **

I have no children, but I’m with you, OP, especially since your reasonable request to not put a photo you shared on SM was ignored, and reading other posts about what certain gross people are doing with photos 🤢

I think it's absolutely wrong to share anyone else's photo online without their consent far less my own child. I do think it's irrational though to object to family having photos if you make it perfectly clear they must not post them on social media. I'd ask the family member who did this to remove it ASAP. That should give them a strong message for the future.

It's madness if you think it's ok to share someone's child's photos on social media despite them asking you not to.

<Wishes I could see 30 years into the future>

I think it's just plain wrong to share someone else's pix (of anything) on SM, and also your own pix of other people unless they have consented.

People really should respect that.

But if you know that might not be respected, then don't cut everyone off from everything (assuming you have a nice-enough average sort of family). But perhaps fewer pix and ones that wouldn't cause huge issues if shared more widely than you intended (this gets easier as the DC gets older, and you can have shots activities from artful angles, which would be recognisable to those who know the child but damned difficult to search or use facial recognition on

I think you are being selfish and are round the twist.