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nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 01:09

fantastic website here to give you tips

come on own up! what things do you do that make people gasp in horror? are you the sort of mum who wipes dummies and bottle tears on your tshirt and gives straight back if they get dropped? i have done it with biscuits too stuff the 3 second rule - it's 10 seconds here!! i always forget to wash my hands after nappy changes too and tbh i only use wipes and water for poohey nappies. with wet ones i just take it off and put the new one on straight away

i am often forgetting to brush ds' teeth. we never brush them at nighttime and he will sometimes go 2 days without having them brushed. must remember to step this up a bit when he gets his adult teeth.

i don't change ds' nappy as often as i should. i did have to dry ds trousers under the handdryer in the toilets though cos i had left one on too long. usually try and change him about every 4 hours but sometimes i just ... forget. he normally only has a bath and hairwash once a week but episodes like this mean he sometimes has an extra one midweek.

also once when we weren't travelling far and it was pitch black i didn't strap the car seat in properly, just put it on the back seat. we had a very awkward car seat that in 2 peoples cars does not strap in properly. i just made sure the front seat is right against it so it can't go anywhere. our car seat was one of those that lies flat when on the pushchair, so in the car is meant to be in the most upright position. at 3 months old this didn't look very comfortable but did it anyway as i couldnt get the car seat in my friends car if i didn't. cue gasps from this woman saying oooh he shouldn't be upright like that. cue her saying oh my dd got her ds one of those door bouncers - you should get him one. now to me they look dangerous!

oh and not really child related but i rarely wear a seatbelt myself. i do in other people's cars though ...

oh and weight limits and warnings on baby products. ds sat in his baby seat for months after he could sit up and was over the weight limit.

the only thing i would be anal about really is drawing on walls and ripping wallpaper which luckily ds hasn't done yet. he is allowed to play with balls in the house, and ride his trike and ride ons in the house too. i also let him push his cars along the wall. have to watch him at other people's houses cos they usually tell their kids off for that. will let him skate in the house too when he's old enough.

not at this stage yet, but my mum used to sometimes let me have the day off school just because and i will probably let ds occasionally have a day off. for me it was usually because i hadn't done some homework that was due in.

when i go out for the day and take milk i just shove it in my handbag - no chilled cool bags for ds! oh and i feed him cold milk and have fed him cold baby food before. i often don't plan meals then he is screaming for dinner so in a mad panic i will open the fridge i give him whatever is edible uncooked. yesterday he had ham, malt loaf with butter and a cherry yohghurt altogether on his highchair. he ate the yoghurt first. today he had banana, meatballs, yoghurt and chocolate brioche.

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AitchTwoOh · 17/04/2008 11:08

i was bathed and had my hair washed every saturday night so i'd be clean for church, and washed with a flannel or in the kitchen sink if i was dirty from the garden. i really think this is better than all the furious washing and cleansing that takes place nowadays, especially from an exczema/skin irritation pov.

SixSpotBurnet · 17/04/2008 11:09

Very good post, OrmIrian. There are times when mumsnet is so pious that it makes me feel all rebellious - and I'm 42 and 3/4 .

Rose99 · 17/04/2008 11:10

Good that you have taken some of the constructive criticism on board NA, and hope that you are not too hurt and disheartened by some of the rather aggressive postings.

Keep being honest and try to improve- that's all we can all do really.

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nooname · 17/04/2008 11:23

Dear nappyaddict,
I've glanced at this thread over a couple of days and was not going to get involved but just wanted to say I'm shocked at some of the responses you have got. I've read a few of your posts on this thread and you sound like a caring mum who loves her son.

Personally I can see where you're coming from with a lot of the things you've said and it's simply a matter of opinion whether it's the right way to go about it or not. (Handwashing, food, nappy-changing.)

You've handled the critical comments admirably well and seem to have accepted where some of your practices were actually dangerous rather than a bit slummy (car-seat.)

I hope you've not taken the personal attacks to heart.

sarah293 · 17/04/2008 11:24

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Tippychick · 17/04/2008 11:58

I think NA should be applauded for her honesty certainly. Her way is absolutely not my way but I suspect a lot of the judgey pants mums wouldn't agree with me either.

I don't use chemicals in my house except sometimes very diluted disinfectant. I have two pet dogs who are allowed in the house. I believe that this level of dirt (my house is kept very clean but germs come with animals) is one squillion times healthier for my 18month old than having her breathe toxic chemicals through endless, pointless sprays and air fresheners. She is bathed daily and hair washed 2-3 times per week, depending on muckiness. It's long hair so it's not practical to wash every night. I know people who will use gallons of brand namelotion and wipes to clean a baby but only bath once every couple of weeks, to me that is scummy.

My house is cleaned obsessively but still there are mums who would think that things aren't properly clean without a good dose of Cillit bang. Or that second hand clothes are unclean. People have wildly varying standards and everyone firmly believes that their way is the only way. Take on board the obvious safety messages NA ( car seat etc), take some advice from the experienced sensible posters here and ignore the Flash Police.

BexieID · 17/04/2008 12:04

Hiya NA - I guess you'd have to prove that it was an unplanned journey. In my case, they could have contacted the rail company to see if the trains had really been cancelled! I can't remember what site I saw it on, but one I looked on just now, said the unplanned journey thing only applies to over 3s. TBH, I would feel safer Tom being in a car with no carseat if it's someone I know driving, than a taxi driver you don't know, if that makes sense. Especially the way some taxi drivers drive around here!

I just gave Toms breakfast to him in his cot. Yes, that was 20 mins ago when most other kids are eating lunch.

I don't read to Tom either. He has 'ants in his pants' syndrome if you try sitting him down! He does now have a little table and chair I might try sitting him at.

nappyaddict · 17/04/2008 23:58

honestly i wasn't boasting at all. i have accepted some things like me not wearing a seatbelt was dangerous now i have more information. i already knew the car seat one was dangerous and that i wasn't at all happy about it.

orm - my dad used to have condensed milk too!

bexie - ds has a little table and chairs too. he likes sitting at it - think it makes him feel grown up. but other times he will scream and arch his back if try to get him to sit there so you might not have much luck with that lol. the only sure way is to get out the crayons or paints.

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ShinyPinkShoes · 18/04/2008 00:05

Nappy- I remember something you once told me about not being in the right area to attend a Sure start centre?

If you want to go to one- CAT me and I'll do my best to help.

nappyaddict · 18/04/2008 00:13

shinypinkshoes - could you email me please? my address is tobys_mummy at btinternet dot com cos i don't have cat.

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ShinyPinkShoes · 18/04/2008 00:46

Have just emailed you

3andnomore · 18/04/2008 11:05

on the washing/bathing thing....
tbh....I actually think that modern parents often completely overdoing this bit.....

It's important that baies hands and nappyarea are cleaned...and obvioulsy if a Baby/Child is dirty to look at then they most definatelky need a clean...but in general it is completely unecessary for a Baby to be bathed everyday...and actually, I don't think it's good for their skin at all....but there you go....just my opinion!

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