Pregnant age 35 and feel incredibly old

[Boohoo123456]

Whilst I thought 35 was not too old to have second baby, since I’ve been pregnant, all the other mums seem to have completed their family by 32/33 at the eldest!!!

I hate feeling old. Im worried I’ll never be able to let it go and just enjoying being a mum to my last baby.

every women I see I am calculating their age in my head… it’s become an obsession!!

I just don’t see many mums my age that I can relate to.

I feel like a freak.

I was 34 when I got pregnant which felt fine but 35 really seems extreme.

its not even like I can say well at least I’m earning loads of money and lived a great life beforehand because that isn’t true. I don’t have my shit together and still have to develop my career so I don’t have an excuse
to be this old.

does any other ‘older mums’ feel like this? Is there anything I can do to let it go. It’s making me miserable before baby even comes… I keep thinking - when he’s 5, I’ll be 40, when he’s ten, I’ll be 45, when he’s 20, I’ll be 55!! It won’t stop

Thanks in advance

ps. I am in shape and reasonably attractive but obviously don’t look 28! I look 32 on a good day !! This will obv change when bubz comes as I’ve heard they age you by ten years… 😢

Nothing wrong with being 55, you cheeky young whippersnapper.

35 is not old. It wasn't old 20-cough years ago when I had my child. It's now very young indeed.

Go and have a bun or something.

I was older than 35 when I was pregnant with my first baby. I never felt too old.

Women are able to have children up until their 40s. There's plenty of older mums than you doing just great.

Most people I know are having their first in mid-30s. Honestly you need to get over this, it’s slightly offensive to moan about this when there’s so many women on here who’d love to be pregnant at 35

I didn't feel old when I had my second at 36 years old.

Maybe you should hang around with more educated women.

35 is not old!!!! Maybe it’s living in London but a lot of mums around here are having their second at 45. You’re a spring chicken!

I was 38 when I had my second (and last).

I felt super old the whole through my pregnancy and all the way through her first year.

She's 1 now and starting to toddle about and I've realised when she's more mobile and starts talking I think I'll feel better because there won't be so much picking up / putting down / following around etc but more her tagging along with me sort of thing.

It will get better x

Since the new average age of a first time mum is now 31/32, I think you're being a bit daft! I'm 34 this year and not pregnant with my second yet (planning to start trying in a couple months).

My mum was 40 when she had me. Try not to compare.

You need to stop.

Oh for goodness’ sake, I was 42 and perfectly healthy. Which is absolute corpse age to have a baby in a lot of these threads. You’re fine. Enjoy it. What’s the alternative? Congratulations btw.

Seriously: get over it. You're being ridiculous.

I'm 37 and having my third. Don't feel old at all!

Exactly. Move to London. Half of us are fucking ancient and proud!😁

This is not true at all. Plenty of educated and successful women have babies in late twenties, early thirties.

Look at Holly Willoughby for example. Plenty like her.

I'm 35 and pregnant with my first. What do you think about me?!

(Btw, I don't care about your unjustified judgement. I am happy and healthy and baby appears to be the same)

Fgs. 🙄

I can honestly say I don't know any women that have completed their family by 32/33. Most of my friends and women I went to school with or work with hadn't even started their family by then. I was 35 when I had my first now considering TTC my second at 36. I'm definitely not the oldest at any baby class, in fact I think women 35+ make up the majority of mums. I think you need to readjust your mindset and enjoy being pregnant and a new mum when the time comes.

🤣🤣 love the example of Holly Willoughby as an educated mum.

No OP, 35 is very normal for a second child. The very fact you've posted other mums are a WHOLE TWO YEARS younger than you is baffling.

It’s young socially but not biologically. I had my first at 26 and I imagine that was also old by nature’s standards 🤣 tbh I think 35 is fine, it’s when you get to 40+ (in my opinion) that the negatives for the baby really need to be weighed up.

I’m not sure Holly Willoughby is the example you want her to be.

My mum had her first at the age of 35. This was back in the 1960s.

It’s not unusual but I know how you feel as I had my last at 40.

What changes when you're 40 over 39? Just curious as I'll (hopefully) be 39 when my next is born and wondering what terrible things I've saved them from. Phew.

It’s a valid wider discussion. Older parenthood has come on quite suddenly in the scheme of things and there are a lot of drawbacks on a wider societal level. I don’t think being offended is necessary.