How would you discipline a 5 year old for saying this horrific thing?

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My mum was looking after my five year old today while I was at work. She had told him he would have an ice cream from the shop next to the park after school, but by the time they had left the park it was fine for dinner so said it was now too late for an ice cream.

He kicked off massively in the shop, falling to the floor and screaming/shouting. He then ran off down the road and another parent went after him, whom he proceeded to also shout at.

He said to mum he hope she's gets run over by a car. She said that is an awful thing to say, particularly to family, he said he hopes she gets abandoned by her family.

I am so unbelievably cross, shocked and upset with him.

I'm not sure how to play this in terms of consequences and discipline?

Be careful not to forget that even if your child is bright, he is still a child and has emotions of a child. Critical thinking in a five year old is not really believable.

I’m trying to come to terms with your mum’s reply. Did she really say “particularly to family”?

Somebody posting some sense on this thread!! Well done.

Discipline went out of fashion a generation or two ago from what I've seen. Say anything to the effect that "parents" (using the term loosely!) should teach the kids they've produced how to respect other people, and they react as if you demand beating and locking up.

I can't imagine any child of my generation that I knew, of any social class, even thinking of saying what that boy said, or behaving as he did. They just didn't. I was there!

Neither can I imagine any adult of that time tolerating it for a second, or raising kids that would do that.

Children were taught boundaries that MUST be respected. It seemed to work, because many of the childrens' own problems and antisocial/criminal behaviours now common were almost non-existent then. Neither kids nor parents were saints, but there was far more obedience and respect and ppl seemed happier.

I think you may have misinterpreted that post. Everything down to "No wonder there is a crisis in schools with parents like this!" is quoting Sword, and everything below that is the reply text.

@RedRosesPinkLilies There is a Quote button you can use instead of copying and pasting, it makes a grey box around the quoted text for you.

Thank you. You're right, that's not what I intended!

Anyone seen the little girl who has gone viral after not being able to afford the nine quid for two ice-creams? “And he only takes bloody card.”

Moral is never come between a small person and their ice-cream! 🤣

or a grown up if the grown up is me!

It's a good point.

Also - do we know that the OP's mum actually promised this. Or did she just say he could have an ice cream after he'd played in the park? Either way, I think he overreacted, but it would make a bit of a difference if it wasn't an actual promise.

I also don't believe that all the 30 something mummies never ever break a promise either. People do tell porkies on here.

In the real world, people tend to worry a little more about their relatives than random strangers.

If my 5 yo was promised ice cream then denied it he'd probably say I hate you which to a 5 year old is similar to I hope you die.

So I'd say I know its really frustrating, this is why the situation changed. We never say that to people its very upsetting.

However agree on not making such promises and if you do you just go through with it. Otherwise how will the kid trust her?

that's a hair split. She had told him that he would have an icecream, then she told him he wouldn't.

He must have heard family members saying this. Or friends at school. Or probably on the tv.

He has unrestricted tv or iPad I would guess

I wholeheartedly agree but while trying to tell him off she could have easily given him another idea that it’s reasonable or even acceptable. Anyway we can all handle things badly in the heat of trying to cope.

yes, the question should have been "how can I punish my 5 yo son because of something he did because my mother messed up?"