Am I wrong for not taking 3 year old to hospital?

[sugaryouth1]

I know the title seems bad but here's the background

My daughter is 3. She's been ill non stop for about 6 weeks. Low fever, chesty cough, cold symptoms. She's just been diagnosed with slapped cheek as well. So she has a bright red face and a rash.
I took her back to the doctor today because nursery sent her home as she had a new rash. It is just the slapped cheek as the rash can come and go. But nursery have said she needs to see a doctor or she can't come back.

Anyway we went to the doctor and she was really condescending. Told me I've been to the doctor 4 times this month and that maybe she's okay and I'm not. It really upset me to be honest. Anyway she listened to her chest and said she could hear a crackle but she didn't want to give her any more antibiotics as she's had a couple already. Fine. I'm not the sort of parent that demands antibiotics. .they want her to go to the hospitals CAT unit to see a paediatrician.

I have some issues.

1. I can't get there without a taxi. I cannot afford a taxi. Its almost 20 quid and it's money I don't have. The public transport is few and fair between

1. I don't think she needs to. She's currently running around my house absolutely mental and destroying it and the idea of sitting there and waiting for 10 plus hours like last time fills me with dread

1. Again the last time she was there she caught covid and flu making her even more poorly and meaning she missed nursery and I missed work

Don't get me wrong, if she was sick I'd of course take her. Am I going to get into trouble for not taking her? Is there anything else I can be doing? I usually will always listen to the doctor and of course If she was sick I'd take her. I just don't know what to do

I really hope she is okay.

Could you start putting a little money aside so that you do have emergency taxi money?

What qualifications do you have that means you know better then the GP?

She chastised you for taking her 4 times but then said she needed a CT scan? The math ain’t mathin.

I’m so sorry - this is such a difficult situation. Call the hospital tomorrow and explain, often times they will be able to reimburse you public transport cost (I know they did where I worked previously). Hoping your little one gets better soon- if it’s not going away six weeks with antibiotic I would take her in, but I would wait until day time, unless of course she deteriorates.

@coconcernedchild the monthly bus pass for the bus that gets me to the hospital? The bus that doesn't run after 5 so I had to get a taxi?

@MMummame2222 She doesn't need a CAT scan. It's called the CAT Unit. I don't know why. That's just what it's called.

Aha ok, sorry. I would still trust GPs opinion over your own though. If she’s fine tonight, take her tomorrow.

She’s been ill for weeks, she needs to be seen but I can’t see why waiting till tomorrow would be a problem. I don’t really see what you want from this thread though, since you have already decided what to do?

I wanted to know if I was going to get into trouble. Paint me as the world's worst parent or whatever. She's well looked after. But I am alone. I have nobody. So when I say I can't get there I can't get there tonight. Its not a case of can't be arsed. Its not a case of oh I just don't feel like it. Yeah I'm not feeling the wait. And I have no doubt I'll be waiting 11 hours tomorrow but we will be there. I'm sure any parent doesn't want to sit for 11 plus hours in a damn waiting room with a 3 year old

Nobody here seems to get what it's like to be completely alone and have absolutely no money. I just wanted to know if I was going to get in trouble. Instead I'm in tears. I feel like I'm going to lose my daughter to the social or she's going to die. Honestly I just wanted some support and maybe a friendly ear and I got none of that.

OP get on your local Facebook group and ask if someone would be happy to give you a lift.

Do people really do this?

Perhaps you live in a particularly close-knit & civic-minded community, as I couldn't imagine in a million years doing this.

Has everyone getting at OP for not going tonight ignored the fact that the GP did not say to go this evening, that OP cannot afford transport there tonight & that she will take her there tomorrow?

Some really awful people on this thread

And then an ambulance for someone with an actual emergency is tied up acting as a taxi for the OP as she can't afford a taxi.

INSANE

Why don’t you just ring 111 and explain the situation? They may be able to organise transport.

@sugaryouth1

You got a bit of that, from some of us!

Taking her tomorrow, if she's broadly well in herself, is fine.

Many of us do know what it's like to be alone, and without money.

I'm sorry it's so hard. 💐

I'd suggest leaving this thread, getting DD& you to bed early, and make a plan for tomorrow. Hope everything improves a bit.

There are different types of ambulances. Cars transport patients to and from hospital often.

@EEarringsandLipstick yes I did..sorry I just felt a bit overwhelmed. She's fine. She's asleep. She actually ate a decent meal. Which is nice to see. I just don't want to get in trouble and since her dad left I'm worried about losing her and now I'm terrified I am going to lose her

I’d just go in the morning. You probably wouldn’t see a consultant until morning anyway.
I remember when an hcp told me I had to go immediately to hospital as my baby was very ill (didn’t look or seem ill at all) and off I dashed straight to the hospital without anything with me. All that happened was we sat for hours and hours before anyone came to see the baby . I did say I’d dashed there and was told it was really important I didn’t even go home to collect some things and they said yes we need to see the baby but you could have gathered your things and had something to eat, this type of hcp always overreacts.

I can't see any reason at all you need to worry about losing her, from what you've told us.

She's a bit unwell, you've consulted the GP regularly & now the GP advises follow-up at the hospital, which you are doing.

You're doing everything you can. Im sorry you have no-one to help IRL.

No one here can say social services won't get involved. We don't know you

@Mummame2222

"call an ambulance" means call 999, not call patient transport

@vanillawaffle

Give it a rest. If you can't be helpful, just don't post. Leave OP in peace.

Wtf is wrong with you?

No. It doesn’t. You only need a semblance of common sense to realise that.

@sugaryouth1 try and get an early night or if you can't then pack a wee bag for tomorrow because you'll probably have a bit of a wait. You are not a bad mum. You are doing your best in a crappy situation.

@hobbitonthehill

Reported you. Accurate username too.

Oh yuck that’s vile.