Do moms generally prefer/love their daughters over than their sons?

[Mummyof2wonderfulgirls]

I know the title of this thread is gonna sound a bit ridiculous but just hear me out. A couple of months back I saw a post on a mom group on Facebook related to Gender disappointment. It was about a women wanting to abort her baby because it was a boy. This women already had 2 girls. The comment section was filled with sympathy for this women which is fine as we don't know her in real life and she might have some trauma related to men. But as she kept posting more on that group it became clear she was an anti male and a narcissist. Even though some voiced their opinion against abortion the vast majority supported her as they also suffered from GD due to having boys .

It seems like vast majority of the women I've met always seem to Prefer their daughter/daughters over their boys. Not just in real life but also on the internet(e.g. Social media, Blogs, Forums). All the gender Disappointment post on the internet seem to be about boys on every social media(Facebook, Instagram) site or general website (Netmums , Mumsnet, Reddit). There are websites like ingender and genderdreaming just dedicated to Gender disappointment. Not just GD related posts only but some of them are straight out Boy bashing or anti boy posts. This would be fine if those women only talked about adult men but some of this posts/Threads specifically target Little boys from Newborns to Preteens.

Now it's not a crime wanting a daughter. In fact as women it's completely natural to want girls. But what about sons? are they consolation prize to their moms? Does having a penis mean that child is a lesser part of you? The way some of them talk about their boys is as if they were talking about their step children. Does anyone remember the show "8 boys and wanting a girl" ? It was quite tragic as all 4 women had sons just trying to have a girl. There was also a episode on One Born Every Minute where a women was trying for a girl and finally had one. Even celebrity moms like Britney Spears, Melissa Joan Hart, Gwen Stefani all go on about wanting girls.

Now like i said earlier it's fine to want a girl. But it seems like for some women it becomes an obsession. If you look at all the 4 combination of parent child relationship, Mom son bond seems to be the one that's barely talked about or appreciated. I read somewhere that this is due to moms wanting a brighter future for their girls compared to their boys. If this keeps up how on earth are boys gonna have close bond with their moms? I personally found this quite sad.

Hands down prefer my daughter. Personality clash with my son. He’s full of testosterone and I get the brunt of his bad behaviour. He gets physical too with me and his sister, which is unacceptable.

I can think of at least 5 families where boys are the favourite of their mother. My own included. It is/was very obvious too.

I think what i find sad is that the mom/son bond is the least celebrated out of all the 4 parent child combination. Mom/daughter is often considered the epitome of parent child bond. Father/son seems to be the mirror image i.e the same with genders swapped. father/ Daughter is also seen with high regards as in how girls are influenced by dads. But mom/son bond is barely talked about.

I feel bad now, my little boy was my little prince, a total cherub, I thought his every move was adorable. I obviously loved my daughter too but I expected more from her. Not talking academic stuff. Now she is communicative, funny, she wants a relationship with her mother and I want a relationship with my daughter!! My son. Ay por Díos. He is completely uncommunicative and hostile. If I could have seen into the future, I'd have had huge gender disappointment. If my daughter ever gets pregnant I'll have my fingers crossed for a girl.

Seriously? Mums have favoured their boys throughout history. Most worldwide cultures do this and even admit to it. Less acceptable in the uk but I see it all the time.

I think you missed my point. I'm not saying that boy preference is any better than girl preference. I am specifically talking about the mother son bond and how it's looked down upon in the society. The favoritism that you have mentioned are mainly in some countries in asia where male children are considered to be the future caretaker of their parents and support them economically. Mother-daughter bond is often seen as the strongest parent child bond. You'll see women gushing over their daughters calling them their best friends, Talking to her about her boyfriend, Explaining puberty, Being mother of the bride, Buying her wedding dress, Being their beside her when she has kids of her own etc. but when it comes to boys that attachment is not there. Yeah i mean periods and giving birth are not applicable for boys i get that but no women ever talks about being mother of the groom (wedding dance), Welcoming a daughter in law, Being there for your boy when he becomes a father. It almost seems like society sees mom son bond as something trivial. Like i said other 3 parent child relationship has something worth mentioning.