5yr old asking HOW Daddy puts the seed in Mummy's Tummy

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What do I tell her?! DD is 5.5, very bright and switched on and has recently being very interested in pregnancy and having babies. We've told her the generic 'Daddy puts a seed called sperm in Mummy's tummy where there's an egg which join together and grow into a baby' and she knows you go to the hospital and the Dr gets the baby. I don't think she knows where it comes out yet! But recently she's been asking how the seed gets in the tummy and I don't know how to answer! Any tips? We didn't have the proper birds and bees talk with DS until he was 9 and 5 feels awfully young for the details! Help!

It's 2024 would via dpd or Amazon driver work??
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I remember my DS asking this when I was pregnant with my DD. "Mummy how does daddy's seed get into your tummy? Do you eat it?" Cue lots of laughing and me just replying "yes!"

I would just tell her? I was told at 5 and it was so matter of fact that it held no interest for me.

I'd just tell her.

I think it's ok to say "you're a bit little to know that right now, but I'll explain when you're older"

I'd say something like we have a big cuddle and wish for a baby. And then if she keeps asking why just say you'll tell her one day lol

Via a "special hug" that can only be done once you are grown up - so something along those lines.

Have you read the ‘How mummy laid an egg’ my daughter was 5 when we read the book. But then talked about things that weren’t quite true eg the baby doesn’t grow in your stomach or tummy - it’s your womb which is lower (else you get confused with eating) tell her the male penis can go in one of the holes the woman has called the vagina - and if the egg meets the sperm it can fertilise it. Just tell her as it is. Easy. Mine was no more than 5 when she asked and I just told her.

Actually was really good as I introduce the idea of consent and what is allowed and what isn’t at a really young age

Tell her the truth. My daughter is a similar same age and I always tell her the truth, there is no awkwardness at this age they acknowledge, maybe ask a few more questions and then move on.

I know someone who said that the seed goes in Mummy’s mouth and she swallowed it. I don’t think she realised what she’d said.

I've tried this, she doesn't accept it as a response!

we always just answered tbh
“special cuddle where the seed comes out of the end of daddy’s Willy and goes up mummy vagina”
Obvs we went big on the “it’s only for adults” angle too

Think I'll go with this initially, and if that doesn't suffice, I'll just tell her

Don’t do what my mum did- watching the start of Look Who’s Talking, she panicked and told me that people got pregnant through kissing.

Cue a very confused and worried child!

Id go with the ‘special cuddle that only adults can do’

Just tell her straight.

When mummy and daddy both want to - daddy puts his . . .

5 year olds don't have embarrassment about this sort of thing.

I’m really surprised so many people are suggesting you lie. Just tell her the truth in an age appropriate way. A seed comes out of the daddy’s penis and goes into the woman’s vagina then meets the egg in her womb to make a baby.

She’s plenty old enough to understand the basics and you want her to feel like she can ask you this stuff and get a calm and honest response. That will be really important as she gets older.

My 4 year old knows the seed comes out of the willy. I think it's ok to tell the truth.

He also knows he has a piece of tube missing so his seeds might need help to get out if he wants to have children and the egg and sperm might need to get put together in the hospital with some help from the doctors like we did for his brother.

And hopefully no relative will offer dd a special cuddle in all innocence...

Just tell her. Basic and factual.

Tell the truth. I promise she’ll forget and you’ll have to tell her 10 more times over the next 5 years. It gets easier.

At least this has been my experience.

Thats a ridiculous answer

Just tell her.

Use animals or farming as examples.

This.

5 is quite old enough to know about sex.

Mine was 3.5 when he decided the vague version wasn't good enough and subjected me to more forensic questioning (in the veg aisle at Sainsbury's)

I just told him the truth; he wanted to understand the actual mechanics of the thing, he didn't know there was anything delicate or embarrassing about it, so I felt his innocent view of the world was better protected by giving him the physical facts, rather than introducing the idea that sex and reproduction are somehow taboo.

He's autistic though so he was always very keen on facts, information and the truth; he was also hyperlexic so would have gone looking for information if I'd withheld it.

If they’re old enough to ask the question, they’re old enough to get the answer.

There are a number of books that might help but I’d go with ‘men have a penis, women have a vagina and when they are both ready to have a baby, they put the man’s penis in the woman’s vagina, some seeds come out and if they meet the woman’s egg, a baby can start growing. Would you like to see some pictures of babies growing?’. Worked with mine as she was mostly interested how babies happen rather than what sex is and was interested to see (drawings of) foetuses developing from shrimp to baby. She took in the info but it wasn’t a big deal