Xl bully- advice am I being unreasonable?!

[Jade1989x]

My daughters dad has just gone and got an xl bully puppy on 31st dec, we are split so my daughter goes to her dads every other weekend. I need peoples advice, in my opinion it is really irresponsible and stupid that he’s gone and got this dog with it now being classed as a dangerous dog and banned breed. I’m now put in a situation where I’m not happy for my daughter to be around this dog yet obviously I still want her to have contact with her dad. I’ve shared my concerns with her dad but don’t really feel like I’ve got anywhere with him just gives me shitty answers back.
As her mother I’m well within my rights to raise any concerns with him about the safety of my child.
if you was in my situation what would you do? This is so stressful and causing me anxiety, my daughter is 11 but she is an anxious girl and not very confident around animals. She understands my concerns but I feel like as her mom I need to stand by my concerns. I just don’t know where I stand with this or what direction to go in.
please be kind, as I know this is a sensitive subject but I need advice.

So why is it important to note that the RSPCA don't support the ban? The government implemented it so clearly in law they are considered dangerous dogs - that's much more pertinent to the OP than what animal charities think.

Read the full thread.

Yes it was. From 31 December 2023 it was illegal to rehome etc an xl bully.

In my opinion, this thread is no different to if OP came on and said “my ex has got a gun, I have no idea if he got it legally, whether he has a licence, and whether he keeps it locked up with the ammunition locked somewhere separate. He won’t answer any of my questions and instead just insults me. Would it be unreasonable for me to ask that he doesn’t see DD at his house where the gun is and that he doesn’t bring the gun when he has contact with her?” - yet there are still some posters intent on making out that she is being over dramatic, or nit-picking over small details of the new law and what rescues have or haven’t been doing. “Well lots of homes with children have XL bullies” lots of people have licensed and legal firearms in their homes too, doesn’t mean I would let my child go to one where it’s not clear that they understand gun ownership and follow all the laws and guidance!

OP I am a mother and dog owner, and I think you’re completely reasonable to have the concerns that you do.

I mean it’s not comparable at all but ok.

I agree with this. A loaded gun.

I'm not anti dog - mine sleeps on my bed every night & I have a young child.

The circumstances of a parent with a resident child (even if that is part time) getting a known banned breed hours before it become illegal is not the behaviour of a reasonable thinking adult.

There have been a few decades of the petition to ban various breeds in the Uk, this is the first time this has been made law. I assume for a very good reason and obviously still allows people to own their existing dog with conditions. That your ex bought a puppy with hours to spare means he is a dickhead at the very least.

A judge wouldn't like this, you could block access because of safe guarding concerns (I would think a growing dog would be much more dangerous than a mature dog which at least hopefully wouldn't have hormone spikes etc) and then your ex can take you to court and satisfy a judge that the dog is safe.

The most common sense response on here so far. Some of the misleading and utterly ill-founded ;posts presented as "facts" then reracted are mind-blowing.

OP has valid concerns for her fighters safety, the fact alone warrants seeking some advice as she has stated she will do.

I think you need to start off with legal advice. Most deaths from dog attacks occur in the home and there is no law to force a dog in a home to wear a muzzle and lead. And I'm not being "breedist" or whichever ridiculous argument is currently popular with pro-bully groups because I'd feel the same about the other banned breeds plus Kangals, Cane Corso and Presa Canarios. A decent owner would not be inviting people that are strangers to the dog for a good month anyhow