Mum rude about gifts for four year old…

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I’ll caveat by saying I don’t like buying kids tatt and have been known to put funky socks in a party bag (along with sweets and other stuff). So maybe I’m getting this very wrong…

My DC was invited to a four year old girl’s party at a soft play. I gifted a Rachel Elin tin (bright, pink girly colours with my treasures or something written on it) and a kids rainbow Joules drawstring gym bag. My other DC would have loved this sort of thing when they were 4.

The recipient's Mum came up to me at nursery this aft and said ‘thanks for the gifts for xxx, they were a bit ‘out there’ (with hand gesture) for her but we’ll make use’. I was so stunned I just nodded and smiled.

So clearly, she was rude, but were my gifts super weird?

She is rude
Plain and simple. If you don't have anything nice to say don't.
The presents are really lovely too!!!! You are not wrong.

That’s very rude of her! They are lovely gifts! I’m betting they have grey and white decor (nowt wrong with this as my bedroom is grey) but some people find bright colours repugnant!

That's mad. They're lovely presents - I've had similar for my own child before. Small kids LOVE tins, bags, things to keep treasures in. And they aren't cheap, either. You were generous, in my view, for a 4 year old.

There's nothing more classless than critiquing presents, anyway. Whatever happened to it being the thought that counts?

That's a super generous gift and really lovely of you to not just buy any old tat.
Some people are weird and rude. Not really sure why she felt the need to say anything - just write short generic notes and move on.
Next year maybe just bung a fiver in the card? That's what I do now we're on DC3 - I have no "shopping for a kid I don't know" power ups left!!

These are lovely gifts and my 5yr old daughter would love them. These are actually useful too!
Is it possible the other mum was trying to say that you'd spent too much money or something?

They’re great presents and the mum was very rude!

Great presents. Mum was weird and rude! Don’t make effort next time x

Beautiful gifts and she sounds like a super ungrateful biatch to be honest. You put a lot of thought into those gifts but as others said maybe she just wanted money.
Next time just put money in a card as cannot believe how rude some people are.
Even if you did not like a gift you would be kind and grateful and say thank you for the gifts. You got 2 items that added up to 25 so a lot as bet most only put 10/15 euro/pounds in a card.
I bet the child loved the gifts and I would even love that little tin now as lovely to hold little bits and bobs in. Is she always a snotty cow, feel sorry for her kids and hope she does not say how she did not like the gifts in front of her child or else she will be raising a spoilt brat. Don't give it any more of your time or thoughts after this thread as you sound very caring and thoughtful.

They're lovely gifts and that kids mum is ungrateful. Did the little girl like them?

I blinkin LOVE a practical gift. Especially at 4 when they have the attention spans of flies and have so much stuff.

As they get older it’s more about what they like/want and a bag like this would be weirder then.

I think she was really rude. I would have replied and said “oh, that’s quite rude and watched her go bright red.”

or when she said “we will make use of them” I would have said “if you don’t appreciate them we can take them back and use them?”

So so rude.

Oooo 4 year old me would have loved that tin! (And the old adult me too 🤣)

Absolutely gorgeous gifts OP!

She was so rude!

Definitely don't question the lovely items you bought and I agree very generous too x

What lovely gifts xx

Gorgeous gifts! She was rude.

She was rude and unpleasant. Those gifts are lovely, I would have been happy with them as a young child.

Why do so many people nowadays lack basic manners? Even if I had thought them the strangest gifts I'd ever seen I would no more mention that than fly to the moon. What a great example she must be setting her children.

That is not at all a normal reaction. The presents are absolutely lovely. Even if they weren't, why would you ever deliberately say something that would hurt others who had been generous? Is there any back story there? Totally unreasonable.

They are great presents! How can anyone say the bag is ‘weird’?! Bizarre thing to say! We have received some truly bizarre presents over the years but wouldn’t dream of calling parents out on it. The presents are a nice bonus for the child, not the reason for hosting a party.

I'd say these are nicer than any (shop chosen) gifts my kids have ever had.
They are lovely.
The other mum is rude and very weird for saying anything but thank you for the gifts.
By the way you don't need to spend so much on birthday gifts at that age (£10/15 is plenty).

I think the mum probably didn't mean to be rude but.... I'd have expected there to be something (sweets, hair bands, novelty rubbers etc) in it. An empty tin is weird imo.
i think the bag is meh; we don't use this type of drawstring gym bags as they're shit to carry and you can't actually fit much into them. I'd be amazed at a four yo liking that as a gift tbh.

I love Joules, virtually all of my leisure clothes are their polos. I’d love the tin, too, I have a couple with stamps in for book marking. I’m amazed at how rude the mum was!

Were I the OP I wouldn't give a damn about the woman reading this thread, in fact I would be hoping she does, maybe she will realise how unpleasant her comment was. As has been said upthread my children received some seriously horrible, inappropriate presents from my SIL but I never said anything, just dumped them.

Lovely gifts.
The child's DM is mad and very rude! But then maybe the colours don't go with her bigger, grey or white life...

Your expectations of what relative strangers choose as a gift for your 4 year old are way too high...
Not liking something doesn't make it weird or crap, btw. Particularly when you're in a very tiny minority who think this way.

Much, much better than the pile of plastic crap you normally end up with after parties that's binned after a week !!

I've always bought fun but use able gifts too like fairy lights for a bedroom or a nice travel bag etc.

I remember for my 7th birthday being bought two big pink tape case holdalls that I used for years and years to keep dolls and things in. Best presents ever and I can barely remember anything else I ever got

Sorry, why the fuck are people saying the bag is ‘weird’? It’s a lovely gift.

Why would anyone be ‘miffed’? That makes you sound grabby and expectant and possibly a bit shallow. Party gifts are a cheap token. They are bonuses, not to be expected. These are lovely quality things, nothing to be miffed about.

I don’t get a lot of the posts on this thread at all.