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Mum rude about gifts for four year old…

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Okaaaay · 12/10/2023 22:31

I’ll caveat by saying I don’t like buying kids tatt and have been known to put funky socks in a party bag (along with sweets and other stuff). So maybe I’m getting this very wrong…

My DC was invited to a four year old girl’s party at a soft play. I gifted a Rachel Elin tin (bright, pink girly colours with my treasures or something written on it) and a kids rainbow Joules drawstring gym bag. My other DC would have loved this sort of thing when they were 4.

The recipient's Mum came up to me at nursery this aft and said ‘thanks for the gifts for xxx, they were a bit ‘out there’ (with hand gesture) for her but we’ll make use’. I was so stunned I just nodded and smiled.

So clearly, she was rude, but were my gifts super weird?

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Americano75 · 13/10/2023 17:54

They're lovely gifts, and she's a cheeky bitch. I'd be using the quote marks finger gesture every single I time I spoke to her just to take the piss out of her.

Lovemusic82 · 13/10/2023 17:57

She sounds ungrateful and rude.
Next time buy the child a kazoo and some tubes of glitter, or maybe a recorder 🤣

Mothership4two · 13/10/2023 17:58

She was rude. Even if you think that you don't comment on it to the giver. Perfectly nice presents.

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mintich · 13/10/2023 18:01

My little girl would have loved those!

Ghostface333 · 13/10/2023 18:02

I think these are absolutely lovely presents!

redribbonrose · 13/10/2023 18:09

These are not out there

I would buy these things for my child and as gifts

Has she gotten them mixed up with something else?

redribbonrose · 13/10/2023 18:10

She is very rude

We had some very shit gifts for our kid but always send thanks

coolkatt · 13/10/2023 18:19

lovely gifts, very generous and the other mum is being a ungrateful selfish cow and
i'd give her a wide berth. some people so bloody rude.

Shopper727 · 13/10/2023 18:19

Jeez better than plastic tat from b&m I think those are nice gifts I’d have been happy with them as a kid
the mother was very rude

tara66 · 13/10/2023 18:24

Perhaps she was very stressed and just wanted to have a dig at someone - otherwise she's just rude, ungrateful and yes - weird.

empee47 · 13/10/2023 18:34

Incredibly generous presents for a play date gift - her rudeness and ungratefulness shows she has the problem, not you, OP.

LaurieStrode · 13/10/2023 18:35

The only proper response to a give is "thank you very much!"

She's a clod. Avoid.

Trakand01 · 13/10/2023 18:37

My birthday is in April. If you fancy sending this sort of thing to me I’ll send you my address.

Absolutely nothing wrong with it. Lovely and usable presents for a little girl. Let’s be honest 4 year olds collect all sorts of rubbish they’ve picked up and now she’s got somewhere to put them.

MummyPig11 · 13/10/2023 18:37

I’m wondering if she’s confused your gift with someone else’s? As yours are lovely x You could text & say just texting about the bag & tin I bought for …bday & them being out there, I’m happy to exchange if not suitable? :)

PrinceHaz · 13/10/2023 18:39

The woman was exceptionally rude. What is it with people?!

TerrysNeapolitan · 13/10/2023 18:41

I love these (I am 51) :)

AllTheChaos · 13/10/2023 18:42

Itsbritneybitch22 · 12/10/2023 23:03

Stop it 😂😂😂😂😅😅😅😅🤣🤣

Why are people like this!! What did you say back? She’s going on like you wrapped up 12 pink boiled eggs with glitter on them.

Now that’s a brilliant idea for party bags! 😂

StrictlyComeback · 13/10/2023 18:44

@Okaaaay this is a very specific situation, are you not worried about her reading this?

Daisybuttercup12345 · 13/10/2023 19:00

The gifts are lovely and the Mum was very rude.

Newuser75 · 13/10/2023 19:02

Saschka · 13/10/2023 02:10

I personally think that, lovely as those are, they aren’t quite right for a nursery friend’s birthday party. A friend’s child maybe, but not your child’s friend.

Children are very keen on getting ”proper toys” at their party. I suggested a book for DS’s friend’s 4th birthday, and he was absolutely scathing about that idea, even though he loves books himself. A birthday party invitation requires an actual toy, in his book. Anything else is Wrong.

The parent was still very rude though. I might think “bet you’re the kind of parent who gives out packets of seeds instead of party bags”, but I would never actually say it!

Edited

My 4 year old loved it when he got a packet of seeds! He planted them by himself and grew a shed load of sunflowers. 😂

HelenTherese2 · 13/10/2023 19:04

I might have said the same tbh. Not sure she was intentionally rude but maybe a bit frank like I am.

She said thank you. Being rude would be not saying thank you.

My four year old was bought a thermos flask for a birthday party by another mum…

secretfreckle · 13/10/2023 19:05

How incredibly rude. They are LOVELY presents. Ignore.

Orangeoranges42 · 13/10/2023 19:12

This has inspired me to get the kids something useful for party gifts, I love the idea of the fluffy socks too!

dontgobaconmyheart · 13/10/2023 19:20

I think whether it's a good gift or not (which is subjective really) is besides the point entirely - imagine having the gall to tell someone you'll make use of it or feeling that much need to make clear that essentially it isn't up to scratch.

She's rude OP and I'd have probably just pointed out to her that there's really no need to feel obliged to make use of anything, if she doesn't like it just pass it on, it's really not that deep.

Gifts are a gesture at the end of the day, you can hope the recipient likes them and do your best to try to make that happen but that's really where it ends, how it's received is what it is, I wouldn't be accepting feedback when a simple thanks is really all that needs to be said for the gesture/expense.

MyCircumference · 13/10/2023 19:21

how very rude!

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