Should we pay?!

[Mumlife80]

Ok...so need some advice plz...I was watching my sisters two boys...age 10..and 7...i have a lively 3 yr old and while they were eating at the table my 3 yr old knocked the 7yr olds glasses onto the tiled floor breaking the frame under one of the lens...the cost to repair them is £75 and my partner is steadfast against paying for them while i think we should...my sister i think is expecting us to pay for them...what would you do??...my partner believes that because i was doing her a favour looking after her boys that should warrant not paying...also that our boy is only 3 and didnt know better...he thinks my sister is out of order expecting us to pay!! What do you all think? Thanks

It was your son who broke them while the children were being supervised by you, of course you should be offering to pay. Can't believe other people are saying you shouldn't.

Given your update I would absolutely pay.

I think we should pay...but my partner is fuming at the thought of it because of how much i look after the kids and the fact that our wee one is only 3 and it wasnt intentional...he reckons i should put 75 on the table and if she takes it then fine but she would no longer be welcome as its just too risky to have her and kids over

I would pay and if your dh is so against it just pay and don't mention it, I think I would have offered to pay straight away and wouldn't even have considered discussing it with dh first ( however I acknowledge that £75 may be unaffordable for many)

You should pay imo. When accepting the favour, at no point would your sister have thought that it could potentially cost her £75. I don’t think it’s fair for her to bear the cost in this situation

If you are constantly providing free childcare, i'm with your partner.

OTW, hand her the money and say you can't afford to watch her children anymore going forward and she'll have to make other arrangements immediately.

Your partner sounds like an ass.

If there was no arrangement made that she would pay you to mind her children you can't hold that against her. At 3 and a half your child should have learnt not to grab glasses off people's faces and break them to be honest.

Then yes I think you should pay and also I think you need to talk to your 3 year old. He is old enough to understand that some people need to wear glasses so that they can see properly and it isn't at all funny.to try and take them off people.

Will your home insurance not cover it if you have it? Although I guess the excess and higher premium probably would make it unfeasible. I also think you should pay. Your nephew wasn't being careless and your child was entirely (if innocently) to blame.
Yout husband is being ridiculous banning your sister and children too, these things happen with small children.

Do either of you have house insurance that will cover them? Admittedly the excess is unlikely to make it worth it, though.

Otherwise, I think you should pay, as you were in charge and your child broke them.

I'd offer to pay but if she accepted I wouldn't be providing any more free childcare.

Yikes, your child ripped them off the face of your sisters child? Of course you should pay. Your husband sounds like a complete a×× to be honest... he's furious because your child is 3? Obviously it wasn't intentional but it's yours / your husbands responsibility to ne watching your 3 Yr old. Would your husbands opinion be different if your sister was there? I'm so shocked that you even asked this question tbh

I think you should pay but definitely have a conversation about childcare going forwards.

I would offer to pay. Unless your sister is hard up I'd expect her to say no, but if she took the money also no hard feelings.

This sort of thing is so difficult, def your dc 'fault' but just kids being kids. Things get broken all the time.

Your child is 3, not 3 months old. He definitely knows he shouldn’t be snatching things off peoples faces and throwing them on the floor. I would definitely pay it

Unless your sister has paid for designer frames for her DS they should absolutely be covered for free repair and replacement under the GOS 4 scheme. I see both sides, it was an accident, accidents happen, but your DC is old enough to know better - you should offer to pay.

Do they not get them resided free if they are nhs funded ones? We do for our 11 yr old

Under those circumstances you definitely need to pay. I can’t believe your partner doesn’t think so.

if you have an issue with providing childcare then that is something you need to take up separately

You should absolutely pay for the glasses, your child ripped them off his face ffs, that's not an accident.

The not paying for childcare should NOT be lumped in with this issue and should be addressed separately.. if you have the kids every day why don't you mention charging a little to have them, it would still be helping her out massively but would make a bit of money for you on the side, I can't imagine she'd be opposed to it as it's a good solution all round.

Was your partner even there when it happened? If not I'd tell him it's nothing to do with him whether you pay or not, it's not his decision to make.

I don't know, if you are providing free childcare, I'm not sure it's fair for you to pay, you are doing a favour so her child still her responsibility. If she was paying for childcare definitely your fault, you take responsibility for her child.

If your child breaks something, then you need to pay for the damage, even if it's accidental.

However, if someone was giving me regular free childcare I would never accept a penny from them.

I think she's being conned by the optician if this is actually the case. NHS have repaired my DDs with similar breakage.

Tbh whilst I think your husband is being a bit of an idiot, I think if you do alot of babysitting for your sister I can see where he's coming from.

wow!

you pay - straight away!

MASSIVE apology to the 7 year old and his family

Serious consequences for 3 year old

Oh how dramatic if she takes it then fine but she would no longer be welcome as its just too risky to have her and kids over
Your "D"H is being petty, it's nothing to do with it being too "risky" to have the kids over, he doesn't think he should pay and if your Sister accepts the money then the punishment is, the kids don't come over. I can't stand this sort of behaviour.

Of course you pay if your child grabs glasses off another child's face and throws them on the floor, it's just the done thing in this sort of accidental situation where you weren't quick enough to stop it from happening.
Just pay what you owe and don't let your H make it create a rift between your families.

Your sister is lying they will replace them free off charge, I've lost count of the amount off classes my dd has lost or broken and never paided for replacement.