Should we pay?!

[Mumlife80]

Ok...so need some advice plz...I was watching my sisters two boys...age 10..and 7...i have a lively 3 yr old and while they were eating at the table my 3 yr old knocked the 7yr olds glasses onto the tiled floor breaking the frame under one of the lens...the cost to repair them is £75 and my partner is steadfast against paying for them while i think we should...my sister i think is expecting us to pay for them...what would you do??...my partner believes that because i was doing her a favour looking after her boys that should warrant not paying...also that our boy is only 3 and didnt know better...he thinks my sister is out of order expecting us to pay!! What do you all think? Thanks

You should pay

Yeah I think you need to pay. Your child threw them on the floor , that’s not her fault . If her child was being irresponsible, it would be different but it’s your child who has broken them it’s unfair that she pays. If it was the other way around would you be happy to pick your children up and hear that your child’s glasses were broke by her child but you had to pay that £75 ? X

Shows how much you read 🙃 already paid and sorted!! Thanks for your insightful input 😆

I don't think that's right about the frame. She may have to contribute, but I always had the pricier glasses for my son and I've lost cost of how many times he damaged them.

Until she actually checks (needs to say a classmate sat on them) it could well not be £75. That's how much a new pair is!

Having said all of that, your son even age 3 shouldn't be throwing things around deliberately and breaking them so personally i would offer to sort it out for her.

God love mumsnet with all these perfect 3 year olds that don’t snatch, grab or even lob thinking it’s hilarious sometimes.

kids are not mini adults they do things in the blink of an eye even if your watching them ffs.

Oh right:

OP 'I'd like some advice please'
Poster: Here's my view of the matter
OP: Didn't have time to read 12 pages of posts, or twiddle about reading my every contribution?! Fuck You, here, take some mockery!

Will you be methodically mocking every poster who likewise took the time to respond to your request?

Bye then.

You are responsible because you were supervising the children. If he snatched them of the child's face and broke then the unfortunately he wasn't adequately supervised. You need to pay the cost in full.

Stop providing free childcare for your sister's children. She is taking advantage of you. Your partner is correct, you can't afford to keep doing this!!!!!

Yes you should be pay - I would be embarrassed not to - glasses are not cheap. Also it is not easy to be without glasses.

This! Is it was a dear friend of the DH would he re-pay them? I bet he would. He is being cheap as it’s the sister and many people are terrible with family as they think they can get away with it. I would pay straight away as it is my sister!

@lottiegarbanzo

You may not have time to read all
Pages but you can read op only. They are highlighted

Nope...just the ones that should keep their unhelpful...passive aggressive comments to themselves

Of course you should pay.

@Mumlife80 yes you need to pay .
your partners attitude stinks who says that ?!
ypu don’t get to break people’s belongings because you are “doing her a favour “ some favour. Accidents happen this wasn’t one

Oh my god, why are you even asking?

Age is irrelevant. Your kid broke her glasses, whether they knew right from wrong is irrelevant.

if I came up and staggered into your car drunk and broke the windscreen, you’d expect me to pay. If I said sorry, was a drunk accident, you pay, you’d think I lost the plot.

Pay. The 7 year old was wearing them. Your child grabbed them and broke them.

If your child did that to someone you didn’t know you’d presumably pay, why are you ripping your sister off?

I would be fuming if my sister said I can pay as she was doing me a favour babysitting. Equally I would offer to pay for them if the roles were reversed.

Your sister does however need to take out accidental damage cover. My son has gotten through about 6 pairs of glasses this year already. £15 for annual cover and no excess. They’ve replaced them each time for me.

How did your sister take the “no more childcare” conversation @Mumlife80 . Will this end up being a rather expensive £75 for her if she needs a babysitter so often?

I see this is all resolved and done so ignore my last post!

How childish you are…

OP: Didn't have time to read 12 pages of posts, or twiddle about reading my every contribution?! Fuck You, here, take some mockery!

You can click 'see all' and skim read. To be honest if you haven't got time to do that, it's probably better just not to comment at all. I would assume that after 12 pages things might have moved on, and respond accordingly.

She was taken back abit but understood...we will see lol...she often drops them here because she has to get nails..hair done...has to go shopping etc ...very rarely because of wrk because she works from home and her youngest is seven so not as needy as younger kids

Exactly this!!

In your original post you forgot to mention that your 3 year old ripped the glasses off the 7 year olds face and threw them on the floor….

Under these circumstances I would absolutely pay!!!!!

It was an accident but an expensive one and your sister will be £75 out of pocket. If it was me I would automatically offer to pay and expect my sister to take me up on it.

A three years old is liable to do impulsive things with no understanding of the impropriety of the action and the onus is on those around them to be careful. On this occasion the seven year would not have been aware of what could go wrong. A gesture of good will would be a half payment.

My DCs glasses cost £40 which is the cheapest they do on NHS. Unless there is a medical reason why your DN has more expensive glasses id offer to oay 50 per cent to cover the cost of basic glasses but i wouldnt be funding desiner specs for a kid